What do you think about this word, thematic, or mistery for some people?
Can you really find love?
believe or not, i have a girlfriend but after a time of coexistence with her, i have my doubts about the love.
I have doubts if one person feel love or just a "CRUSH" or "IDEALIZATION" with your partner, Actually i have no idea.
I think that after of coexistence, some people change your own personality and these kind of things erodes the relationship, i don't know.
I think that one person falls in love of essence of the partner and if these essence change, the love will leave.
This thematic is too hard to understand, but i would like to read your comments about The love.
You are right about it being hard to understand, and really I don't think there is an explanation for it, but I do believe it exists.
Also I think it is very hard to maintain love at the same intensity, it's actually impossible, but the partners in cause can work it out to keep up the passion and attraction with changes and communication. You just have to keep providing interest for your partner and the other way around and LOVE will blossom.
Love exists when you're with the right person (not just any person).
Love is destroyed when you're hit by life right below your belt. (Money, career, parents approval from both the sides etc etc)
Love would be perfect heaven if just these things happened:
1. Its mutual.
2. You've seen each other's good days and bad days and know whats in store for you.
3. 'Realities of life' don't have any effect on you in some magical way. And when they do, you can man up and cope with them.
P.S. The best girl for anyone is someone you can talk to (really talk to) and someone who is caring and with a sense of humour AND WHO CAN DRINK ^_^
Would help if she's hot too :P
Well that happened with my gf too. But the solution is quite simple babe - Just tell her that this is happening, to her face. That she was quite different back then and now she's become different.
You should confront one another and finally put in an effort together to change and have fun and things will flow smoothly like melted butter :)
P.S. she's not the only one whose changed during the course of time. I'm sure you've changed too.
Love towards another (non-related) human being is highly overrated in my opinion. Mostly because:
- It loses intensity, ergo works only as some sort of boost to relationship that would be otherwise doomed right before its beginning.
- It makes you ignore the cons of your desired girl/guy, hence makes you blind and vulnerable to making bad decision(s) from a long term point of view. Now you might say it is inevitable part of the deal, to make stupid things in the name of love, but it is not. You make stupid thing and you don't see it because you are in love; you see it after it is over and justify it to yourself by saying "hey, I was in love, people do that".
- Afterall, everything has its end. What you are left with is pain.
I guess I look like quite a misanthrope ^_^ But well, can you judge me? Look at the state of humanity these days... who is there to love? Greedy pricks; youth is getting dumber and dumber by each minute; those with power destroying nature and ignoring the fact that they cannot eat money; people fighting over who has better non-existent god; people who cares only about themselves, not helping anyone in need, not even their families/friends;...
I cannot love such society and finding an exceptional flower in this field of weed is getting harder every day :)
mmm im agree, but i think that exist good persons, and the feelings aren't bad, without feelings we would be like robots.
You could never help anybody if you don't have feelings.
i believe in the love of friends, but the love of relationships, i don't know.
I think love exists. For 1,2,3 months, 1,2,3 years or whatever. It's a human behavior and not only, to love each others. I'm not an expert, but i think that all stays in the way that the partners know each others. The more you know your partner better, the more you love him/her more.
Usually the partner changes his personality when doesn't have something seriously in the couple. I mean, if you are married, have childrens, it's hard to "change" your personality just like that. It can happen, but rarely. So if your girlfriend changed her behavior with you, that means she doesn't love you anymore, for different reasons, maybe she meet someone else, maybe you did something that she cannot continue due to that thing, don't know. But there is a reason for all. Bigger or smaller. So depends on how she knows you, if she trusts you, will continue with you, otherwise...
I think that the partner changes his personality later of coexistence, or just show his true personality, because in many times, the people show one personality to attract the attention of his partner, and little by little show his true personality.
Not necessarily someone change behavior because he/she don't love anymore his/her partner, but because of "life issues". Imagine that you can be the same for all the time. Obviously, she will never feel the need to seek someone else to satisfy her every whim. But we can not always remain the same, right? Man is changeable.
yes,, but usually the coexistence it's too hard to face. the routine and other problems eroded the relationship.
the problems after de coexistence aren't the same compared to before of coexistence.
and isn't necessary one person change, but this person can show his/her true personality, as i told you.
it's too hard to understand the human mind, but I know that if someone really loves or simply have feelings for another one, this person would never do anything to harm his/her partner.
Kinda agree. But i'm talking about the case that him and her want to go further with the relationship, that is to coexist together, not to find each other bad points. In principal, for me, the couple-life is separated in 2 ways: 1. the problems that everyone of us mush face with(fe don't have money for different things, you count to your friend to help you and he doesn't, etc.); 2. the additional problems within the relationship (i mean: when you get angry with her cause maybe she looked at some guy - and you are jealous; when she is reproaching you that you're not home early, etc. - so arise quarrels between the two and makes the life even harder). So, to make the relationship work, you must have a good control for such things.
my case is this, i'm coexisting together with her, and my problem is that since she lives with me, her personality it's too different compared with before, and she awards all of her bad actitudes to factors beyond her, or I have to blame for their problems.
she never admits anything, "just said".