I have to say, this kind of baffled me. I don't want to come off as aggressive, but what gives you the right to decide whether people who watch anime are brainwashed? Perhaps it's just a poor choice of words, but it makes you come off all high and mighty... Regardless, I have to disagree with you. Lumping everyone in the same group makes no sense to me... People are not defined solely by their interests, especially not just by one interest. A perfect example would be HLTV. If all anime watchers were the same, looked the same, had the same way of thinking, etc. just because of their interest for anime, then shouldn't all HLTV users be the same, look the same and have the same way of thinking due to their interest in CS:GO too? I started watching anime about a year or so ago and I can't say that I identify to the personification you described above. Sure, I like to spend time at home, but I also enjoy going out and spending time with friends. I know a guy who kind of reminds me of what you portrayed: he likes anime, lives in his parents' basement, plays LoL and is pretty toxic, isn't too social, doesn't care tooooo much about his appearance and sometimes has a weird perception of reality, but he's most definitely the exception to the majority... I agree that anime has taken over some people's lives. Whether that's right or wrong is subjective. I, personally, think it's a matter of balance. I watch some every so often and I enjoy it, but it's not all I do, it doesn't solely make me who I am. Just because I like drinking doesn't make me an alcoholic, if you get where I'm going with this. And sure, so anime isn't for everyone. I've mostly just watched bigger titles, but some of them didn't resonate with me. I watched SAO and I have to say, I really didn't like it and it felt eerie to me. Some parts of it did embody that incel vibe in my opinion. But that's just my opinion and I'm certain that the large majority of those viewers are perfectly normal human beings. It's those exceptions that stand out the most and they're what people think of when they imagine a stereotypical anime watcher. Lastly, I would like to debunk that "don't know how to respond to some situations in life" argument of yours. I'm certain that a lot of people can get incredibly toxic and defensive, but "anime haters" who think anime watchers should be massacred and simply respond with things like "die weeb"... Well let's just say that they don't seem to know "how to respond to some life situations".
Don't know if you'll read all of this due to the fact that it's quite a hefty response, but I'm glad we can have a civil discussion about this.