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Lithuania Sedge 
so recently my father passed away, last wednesday. however, I was just curious to know whether it's normal, in england for me - the son to translate for my father asking him retarded questions when hes clearing having trouble breathing for example? what happend, happend but there was a lack of respect from the 'doctors' if i were a different person, i could have been traumatised... my father, dying while im asking him what colour was his vomit... one of the doctors had the audacity to say "come on sit up, make it easier for us" in a aggressive manner like he had some choice... strange experience. less of a question at this point, more of a statement... why is a 18 year old put in a position like this, it was an emergency but surely they have a translator on standby... everything seemed so unprofessional... shortly after asking these retarded fucking questions he had a seizure and i was sent out, then his heart stopped 3 times. just thought id vent... but this shit cant be normal
2018-10-08 07:51
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United States bo0dle 
F
2018-10-08 07:55
#2
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Lithuania Sedge 
F
2018-10-08 07:56
How old was he when he died? I'm sorry for your loss, really
2018-10-08 10:24
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Lithuania Sedge 
he was 40 years old, his birthday was just 2 days ago - would have been 41.
2018-10-11 22:24
<3<3<3<3
2018-10-11 22:36
If he didn't die, he would be able to work for at least 30 years more. So young God bless his soul!
2018-10-12 01:50
#68
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Lithuania Sedge 
I'd like to think hes happier now... our family has always been troubled and un-ordinary to say the least. These passed few years he wasn't happy, he was sick and ill - mine and his relationship completely deteriorated and I imagine he felt like the whole world was against him. I can't do anything now, it's still a shook but I will treasure all the good memories we had... thankfully he loved recording and taking photos so I can look back to 2007 when I was just a kid.
2018-10-12 03:13
Yeah, that should be it. 'Course you would be shocked cause I you're still young, but time will heal. You'll get over it I believe Have a tranquil time !
2018-10-12 07:19
#31
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Belarus @Bitly 
May he rest in peace. ☦
2018-10-08 09:56
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2018-10-08 07:57
#4
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Dominican Republic g8Q0wHY 
F
2018-10-08 07:59
#5
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Romania RZBD 
I am sorry for your lost
2018-10-08 08:02
#69
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Lithuania Sedge 
thanks man
2018-10-12 03:13
#102
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Romania RZBD 
He is in a better world, trust me, watching you and supporting you in all your life.
2018-10-12 09:59
#6
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Netherlands Funtobedavid 
F
2018-10-08 08:03
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friberg | 
Denmark Pallz 
RIP ^^
2018-10-08 08:04
#8
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Australia ValveEmployee 
F
2018-10-08 08:07
F
2018-10-08 08:07
#10
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Ukraine minemax 
F
2018-10-08 08:08
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niko | 
United States OpTicFan 
aggot
2018-10-08 08:09
#16
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Ukraine minemax 
You shouldn't be so harsh on yourself.
2018-10-08 08:32
Boys We got him
2018-10-12 02:13
#96
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Iceland fatboislim 
you wanted him? that's gay
2018-10-12 07:25
Only in the ass so it’s not gay
2018-10-13 01:43
#113
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Iceland fatboislim 
but that is gay is you dont say no homo
2018-10-13 07:26
but no homo?
2018-10-14 21:17
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Denmark Holo3 
F
2018-10-08 08:13
#13
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Austria chris_de_b0ng 
F
2018-10-08 08:22
lol
2018-10-08 08:23
Well doesnt seem to bother you all that much
2018-10-08 08:26
#17
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Lithuania Sedge 
I am sad, I'm mostly sad for my grandmother and my mother but what can I do...
2018-10-08 09:09
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gabs | 
Russia DiaRhea 
Stay strong young man. Hopefully you'll make your father proud from wherever he is watching you from.
2018-10-12 03:20
#73
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Lithuania Sedge 
Thanks man, I hope so too.
2018-10-12 03:21
usually there is a shock period and mourning happens later when reality hits
2018-10-12 10:15
F
2018-10-08 09:16
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United Kingdom Lemmykins 
Sorry for your loss, I hate the medical system in this country even though we have free healthcare. :/
2018-10-08 09:19
I bet it’s like 10x times better than in Russia. You can’t even imagine how fucked up our medical system is.
2018-10-08 09:25
#43
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Switzerland hey_b0ss 
I saw in show nasha Russia Xd you have rats there lmao
2018-10-08 10:24
you're talking this because you dont have seen our "medical system".
2018-10-12 03:26
Totally unreadable text I had to read like 3 times in a row to actually understand what he meant
2018-10-08 09:23
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Finland em8 
Have you ever taken an IQ test? Or maybe you have been diagnosed with autism?
2018-10-08 09:54
#118
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Myanmar AstralisGoat 
IQ test is really a test to see if you can spot basic patterns, literally any normal person could do well on an IQ test, it doesn't make you intelligent in any way.
2018-10-14 05:10
#46
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United States PsychoLogical 
You must have eye issues or that you cant read fucking english LUL.
2018-10-11 22:26
you might be dyslexic I would get that checked out
2018-10-12 02:05
You must have LIGMA!
2018-10-12 02:09
F
2018-10-08 09:25
Tbh if true i think you're misreading the situation just my opinion ofc
2018-10-08 09:30
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Lithuania Sedge 
I'm sure they did what they could, just didn't really seem professional... god knows what happend when I left... they were all smiling , laughing - like, come on... take it a bit more seriously. surely they know hes in critical condition, his blood pressure was so fucking low...
2018-10-08 09:34
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_among_doct.. This was very bad, but they are trained to expect failure from every situation, just selling drugs usually, not all doctors are bad.
2018-10-08 09:43
like the way i look at it - The silly questions you say they asked may have given them important info in helping them diagnose quicker - the way they said "come on sit up, make it easier for us" let's be real if your dad was in a critical state i'm pretty sure they would not have said it aggressively but more in a state while being under pressure. for example when my gramps was having cpr after having a heart attack a doctor said "don't you fucking die on me" now to some it may have seemed aggressive in the manner he spoke but out of the 4 family members there not one of us thought so, in fact to this day i respect that doctor for how hard he worked to keep my gramps alive there was genuine care to not let him die. remember when under pressure people don't sound polite it would come across aggressive. - lastly you say there should be a translator on call 24/7 but it is not realistic at all as you'd need multiple (translators) for multiple languages and at EVERY HOSPITAL i don't think you realise the funding that would cost in training and wages alone. i get the NHS isn't perfect but as a type 1 diabetic they've saved me a couple of times and for the money they make they are quite literally guardian angels sometimes anyways just my opinion and sorry for your loss
2018-10-08 09:46
I'm sorry for your lost
2018-10-08 09:44
F
2018-10-08 09:46
#29
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Denmark TQRDSectioN 
F
2018-10-08 09:48
welcome to real world
2018-10-08 09:57
F
2018-10-08 09:59
F
2018-10-08 10:01
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Europe themissionary 
rip
2018-10-08 10:02
NHS? Money for translators? Unfortunately the health system in UK is horrifically underfunded and there are only a handful of situations in where a translator would be required, especially Lithuanian since it's not one of the two most widely spoken languages other than English
2018-10-08 10:08
There are assholes in every profession, brother. I've had the misfortune to meet one such doctor who was extremely rude and full of himself. It just makes you wonder what do they gain by being unprofessional and disrespectful like that. Especially when you are still in your teens, you wouldn't know what to do other than to suck it up.
2018-10-08 10:15
+1 true af.
2018-10-12 02:01
#72
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Lithuania Sedge 
yeah, it's annoying. I seriously doubt any doctor could have done anything differently but the second this guy came in I just knew he was a asshole... as far as I'm aware he wasn't even the one performing anything on my father but just knowing he was there is enough to make me stress.
2018-10-12 03:21
This is normal for doctors and don't judge them by this. Doctor wanted to do anything that could help Your father, he has to get as many informations as it is possible. Every doctor knows that every minute counts if it comes to saving lives. You were the closest translator and They needed You. I know how You feel because I was in the same situation as You.
2018-10-08 10:22
Sorry for your loss, I hope you feel a bit better now.
2018-10-08 10:24
NHS lul
2018-10-08 10:26
Deja ne veltui sako kad Lietuvos medicina yra geresne
2018-10-11 22:32
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Poland Kagor 
Sorry to hear that. My condolences. Doctor was asshole tbh.
2018-10-11 22:35
this sorry m8 :/
2018-10-11 22:38
Stay strong man
2018-10-11 22:38
keep your head up bro
2018-10-11 22:39
sorry to hear that
2018-10-11 22:40
#56
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United States Pinkcow88 
Rip bro just keep on keeping on
2018-10-12 01:57
sorry for your lost
2018-10-12 02:05
sorry for your loss bro.
2018-10-12 02:09
Lost my dad as well. What disease took yours?
2018-10-12 02:15
#70
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Lithuania Sedge 
He was a heavy, heavy alcoholic... it's hard to say what killed him. Could have been liver failure or something else. I know that his blood pressure was incredibly low, lungs started to fill with fluid, his blood became acetonic after his heart stopped and eventually all his organs shut down.
2018-10-12 03:19
F, stay strong bro
2018-10-12 03:30
#76
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Singapore repu1se 
sorry for your loss. lost my dad about 3 years ago too. support your family, they need you the most atm.
2018-10-12 03:30
#87
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Lithuania Sedge 
thanks man, sorry to hear it. that's what im trying to focus on atm.
2018-10-12 06:28
#77
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Turkey headshotk1ng 
I'm sorry for your loss bro, my father died 7 years ago. Stay strong, you will get used to it sadly :(
2018-10-12 03:32
#86
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Lithuania Sedge 
sorry to hear that man, it's a shame it has to happen but it's just life. best to keep the good memories close to our hearts and move on.
2018-10-12 06:25
#115
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Turkey headshotk1ng 
Yeah dude, we all gonna die one day anyway. It's sad but still, we need to do our best. Life continues, you get used to it slowly so no worries :) good luck man :(
2018-10-14 04:53
stay strong man
2018-10-12 03:32
#85
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Lithuania Sedge 
thanks (:
2018-10-12 06:24
#79
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Sweden renaldasj 
Užuojauta seni! Stiprybės
2018-10-12 03:42
koks jausmas gyventi salyje be ateties
2018-10-12 06:17
#108
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Sweden renaldasj 
gyvenu lietuvoje btw :D tik uzsimeciau sweden veliava :D
2018-10-13 01:17
#82
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Lithuania Sedge 
aciu (:
2018-10-12 06:21
PepeHands
2018-10-12 03:47
#83
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Brazil Vitor_IS 
:( F <3
2018-10-12 06:21
#84
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Czech Republic Frostw3r 
RIP
2018-10-12 06:22
#88
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Canada Surzz 
sorry for your loss bud. stay strong :) as for the doctors, some are like that (dirtbags), unlucky that your father had them treating him.
2018-10-12 06:30
#89
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North America ropzGOD 
yoooo sad to here man! Get well soon and RIP In peace mr SedgeFather
2018-10-12 06:34
stay strong bro, my mom passed away last year too, unfortunately when she found about the cancer, its too late...
2018-10-12 06:34
F
2018-10-12 07:21
#93
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New Zealand Eauor 
My dad died just over 1 year ago :( Hope you're alright man. Sad stuff. It's a cruel world.
2018-10-12 07:23
Im very sorry buddy. Death comes with life and there is nothing we can do about it. Always honor your father in whatever you do. IF you feel like you let him down, remember that he would be proud of you for trying. Be strong, buddy.
2018-10-12 07:25
#97
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Denmark beastkiller84 
F, stay strong man. Just know at bad times something nice awaits you
2018-10-12 07:26
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Netherlands Xenoo 
Asking the color of his vomit doesn't seem all that strange. The rude question does sound strange. And you expect them to have a translator on call 24/7 to translate Lithuanian spoken by less than 3 million people? I rather expect your dad to speak English assuming you live in England. F
2018-10-12 07:34
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2018-10-12 07:42
#100
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Switzerland Tyneiad 
F bro, no not normal at all
2018-10-12 07:42
My dad passed away from a 3 long cancer battle this August 27th. I'm 20. Unfortunately, it is normal for you to be put in this situation as I was constantly called upon to advocate for him throughout his many infections. Every time he had infections and was hospitalized he would come to the ER in a state of delirium where he couldn't advocate for himself which put the onus on me and my mother to answer questions such as "what happened" "what symptoms has he shown" and my personal favorite was the many variations they used of trying to lightly say "do you want us to help him fight it or should we just let him die". Every time I wanted to blow up at them but had to control myself and tell them his wish was to fight to the end. So, unfortunately, yes your experience is normal when they can't directly communicate with the patient and while it sucks and is hard to deal with, it's necessary to stay calm and communicate your father's wishes to the doctors so they can do all that can be done. I am so sorry to hear about your loss though and can answer any questions you have as someone who not to long ago went through a similar experience. The next couple of months are going to suck but you will move on and eventually when you think back you will only remember the happy memories and smile.
2018-10-12 07:51
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gabs | 
Russia DiaRhea 
I'm sorry for you too man, I see you made this account just so you could write this msg and help him pass through this tough time as you had also just gone through similar, i respect that.
2018-10-14 06:43
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Nifty | 
Poland Kwjx22 
It's sad man, sorry for your lost 😞
2018-10-12 10:05
the more ppl die the better thats how corporation think including the hospital criminals, ofc not all of them but they are thought totally wrong to begin with. 90% of the problems can be cured with nutrition and non chemical bullshit in this age.
2018-10-12 10:08
My Condolences
2018-10-12 10:13
Sry for your loss :(
2018-10-13 01:19
sorry for your loss
2018-10-13 01:21
sorry for your loss
2018-10-13 01:24
#114
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Bulgaria Nik069 
sorry for your loss i loss my father when i was 5 years old..
2018-10-14 00:12
#116
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Sweden Yung_Lean 
rip
2018-10-14 05:01
sorry bro :( hope you feel better soon
2018-10-14 05:07
sorry bro , i know how you feel... stay strong
2018-10-14 05:13
#120
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Australia Hall565 
Sorry for you man, I hope they weren't treating you unprofessionally because they were apathetic about the situation though, maybe these Doctors are moved or hurt from working in the medical industry. They were probably under intense pressure, humans aren't always perfect when dealing with emotions. Glad you have had good moments with him. God bless you and your family.
2018-10-14 06:35
#122
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United States ferric 
Sorry for your loss, Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un
2018-10-14 06:45
i'm sorry for your loss
2018-10-14 06:48
What was he diagnosed with? I’m very sorry for your loss and everything that had happened. I can’t speak on the doctors demeanors but stupid questions may seem stupid if you aren’t in the medical field. For example, did you have any recent travel? Been around crowds of people? What do you do for a living? Long car rides? When’s the last time you ate? But all of these can be relevant given the right context.
2018-10-14 21:27
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