another way to think of it is: there are about 37,230,000 commercial flights each year. Of those, how many crash? What we've heard about 2 in the past year right? So that would mean your odds of being in one of those planes that crashed is 1 in 18,615,000
The odds of being struck by lightning in the USA for example is 1 in 700,000 in any 1 year
The odds of being struck by lightning is 1 in 3,000 in your lifetime
So you should be much more scared of being struck by lightning than of dying in a plane crash :)
I used to have very bad anxiety of flying, however, I had to fly due to school and also work later on, and now it is fun!