There was no total democracy in our history, not even Ancient Greece (they put limit to citizenship making only 10-15% of total inhabitants able to use democratic power such as vote).
Perhaps some tribal culture are totally democratic, with everyone in the tribe with equal right, I don't know.
Democracy is an ideal we should aim for, even it is not achievable in our complex society, the more there is the best it will be according to everything else we tried.
Ofc you can think that things like right to decide or equality is not something we should aim for.
That's your right, but when I open a map, I see the countries were the people are the happier are also the most democratic such as Switzerland.