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Belgium instagramsuckss 
mens)) pls help i have problem with gf we're dating 8 months now and she is that type of girl that went to parties all weekends and etc im more the kind of CS guy "nerdy" but i skate/gym and do other sports u know... we have completely different tastes but when together everything seems fine and these differences all go away (seems like). Problem is I get kinda uncomfortable with her "past" you know? she has a big number of party pictures in her instagram and she likes those shitty lyric songs where you can only hear "im single and i want dicks etc". She says now that she is dating everything is different because she wants to stay w/ me and life took a different path... I am just being jealous or like... I am wrong to get those thoughts in my mind? I get really upset when she sings the songs and posts anything related to party and "single-life" stuff. I really need help because these thoughts are consuming me and i dont know what to do because i think i'll be wrong to say something.
2019-08-14 15:54
Ok
2019-08-14 15:55
#6
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Peru TheJuan 
+100
2019-08-14 15:55
#69
Vodka | 
Europe Miichu 
+101
2019-08-14 16:44
men you want hole?
2019-08-14 18:35
Yesss
2019-08-14 19:35
but you already have one
2019-08-14 19:59
I want another one
2019-08-14 20:16
tldr
2019-08-14 15:55
#3
2019-08-14 15:55
tldr: is it normal to get a bit upset w/ your partner past lifestyle? or just jealousy?
2019-08-14 15:55
Normally i would troll but I will be honest for one time and give what i think its a good advice: you are stupidly jelaous right now. Everyone can change, i thought you were talking about her going to parties every weekend without you, if that's not the case why are you even thinking about "her past?" thats just stupid man. Let her be and stop showing so many doubts, and i hope you don't show this to her because when you show this kind of doubts and behaviour it's normally because you feel inferior to her and you are scared of losing her, which won't help you at all if you really want to keep the relationship. So stop being jelaous, enjoy your relationship and don't think about her past or "what ifs" because It won't end well trust me. I never understood why guys are jelaous without any reason (with some girls It's justified to be jelaous) but most of the times it's just the guy feeling stupidly possesive or having some kind of complex. If they truly wanna cheat they can do it easily anytime no matter what you do or say. So just enjoy it and hope for the best man.
2019-08-14 16:06
thank you man, soem friend of mine also said that. if u think about the past it destroys you, her past is not your business, but fuck dem thoughts come like a bomb in my head
2019-08-14 16:12
I have to +1 him, I was you a few years back... My (ex) gf had a past of fucking too, I always had some kind of problem with that and was kinda anxious as she was in our group of friends and they're all boys. I always had this thought she would go bang one of my friends (which after we broke up did and now they're together but they're kinda being rejected by our group as being annoying but we don't kick because we ain't about that) and would walk off, which she didn't. Don't worry too much man especially when she says she wants to stay together. Edit: moral to this story, PLEASE set aside your yealousy as this actually kills relationships like mine, I was talking to an old friend (girl) in the club and my gf flipped and went home after that outrage I broke up with her as she hit me because of being drunk and jealousy :)
2019-08-14 16:28
Check out ACT therapy. I don't suggest going to therapy, just look up the concept of it.
2019-08-14 17:52
Have you ever had a real relationship before? The fact that you worry so much, is usually a sign of not having enough trust. Which is something you have to build over time. I was jealous in the beginning too, it's also a bit of self worth, accepting she wants to be with you. If girls don't wanna be with you, they wouldn't and ran off already. Don't be suspicious of her cheating, she is not (high chance). If she is, and you have proof or have a good basis to confront her about it. Then say it and break up. But until that time, try and find peace. Accept that she is doing her own thing and not clinging onto you like a small child. Love her like you would and stop bringing yourself down, just because she is going out. Also, it's always good to be vocal about your feelings. To each other, talk about it. Don't make restrictions, but make her see what you see. Then she will too. You're probably young or inexperienced, or just a first timer. Hoes don't fall for boys who game a lot and have not much to offer material wise. Be cool and stop making yourself crazy. TLDR: Accept and stop being a pussy :)
2019-08-15 11:18
sex her
2019-08-14 15:55
already done lots of times mens
2019-08-14 15:56
#81
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Sweden rushbnoflash 
+1
2019-08-14 17:49
sex her again
2019-08-14 22:29
#7
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Peru TheJuan 
Sex her
2019-08-14 15:56
#8
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Brunei EasyLele 
She properly suck a lot of dick at those parties men))) U better not kiss her, cus thats gay.
2019-08-14 15:56
i dont doubt that mens...
2019-08-14 15:57
#22
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Brunei EasyLele 
Nice men))) You must be very happy
2019-08-14 16:01
She´s already riding another horse. feelsbadman
2019-08-14 15:57
#12
shox | 
Serbia Ch11co 
If shes 16-19 she might cheat on you on those partys +if you aint rich and some rich homeboy buys her a drink and she goes loco she might do smt like that
2019-08-14 15:57
shes 23. she doesnt go tto parties anymore w/o me man.
2019-08-14 15:58
#17
shox | 
Serbia Ch11co 
Lol then chill you fine man you didint put that in the tread. You gucci
2019-08-14 15:59
#23
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Brunei EasyLele 
No im gucci.
2019-08-14 16:02
#24
shox | 
Serbia Ch11co 
Gucci mane?
2019-08-14 16:02
#25
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Brunei EasyLele 
GucciLele mens)))
2019-08-14 16:03
#31
shox | 
Serbia Ch11co 
Mensss))))
2019-08-14 16:06
#13
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Poland PanArek 
I dont understand this gril
2019-08-14 15:58
she indeed confusing in my head too men
2019-08-14 15:59
Nowadays a lot of girls dance and upload photos on instagram of this dirty songs... But most of them really don't like the letters and only enjoy the rythm, so idk about your case but she may be the girl that only enjoys the beat of the song but has to put the letter in his photos in order to make ppl know that she likes that type of song... In fact, most girls hate this letters because of feminism but they keep dancing them when the disco put the song
2019-08-14 15:58
yea she likes dancing. but dem dirty songs, why have them in your spotify playlist? i dont get it men. And also some are literally about "single-life". idk music taste is actually ridiculous. but thats not the problem, i can get on with that
2019-08-14 16:00
Because of the rythm. I know a lot of girls that have a couple (2 years of relationship or more) and like listening to this kind of songs bro, just dont say anything and forget about that, you can sing dirty songs to her about single life too :)
2019-08-14 17:54
what a beta XD
2019-08-14 16:00
not even baiting, just break up with her these thoughts of jealousy will only get worse. you deserve someone who doesnt make you this uncomfortable to the point where you are posting stuff like this about her it will suck mens, and maybe you dont find the right one for 1, 2 , 3 years. but you will find someone who matches ur interests and doesnt make you feel insecure if you keep improving yourself. i am on the same path atm. edit: even if you arent super unhappy with the relationship.. you clearly need some time to yourself to work out these jealous thoughts (to figure out if they are unreasonable). i would ask for some space at the very least
2019-08-14 16:03
thanks4advice. I feel asking a space will kill the relationship. IDK we dont share the same interests, actually very opposite, but everything else is perfect... Im trying to fight these thoughts but its very hard its my first relationship also,
2019-08-14 16:07
#96
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Belarus fan_of_North 
My first relationship ended in 1 month lmfao
2019-08-14 20:07
#21
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Brazil JazZ98 
my relationship was similar, but I went out a lot to parties with and without her, she did the same. I never fucked up, and neither did she because we trusted each other, and there was no need to want anyone else in our lives. But now, do you trust her? And she calls you to go to parties?
2019-08-14 16:01
Men, i trust her, she trusts me. But u know that there is a little somthing in your mind? I cant have 100% certainty but like 98%? she calls me to all parties. I never go cause u cant stand it, and just imagining guys looking into your girl etc... In fact I HATE parties, for real, but i like other stuff that she also enjoys too. We travel together etc etc, normal couple... But idk im so insecure when it comes to her past.
2019-08-14 16:05
#42
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Brazil JazZ98 
Well, I understand you about paranoia.I used to stay like this until I realized that the fact that people are looking at it doesn't mean anything's gonna happen. Don't be insecure about her past, maybe she's that person you love because of what she's been through. Remember that you also have a past.
2019-08-14 16:12
#48
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Brazil JazZ98 
anyway you're not wrong to feel that, because it's natural, just don't make hasty decisions by simply "finding," you can end up with a great regret. I suggest you talk to her about her insecurities too, she's her biggest confidant
2019-08-14 16:14
she literally has pictures of her ex FWB in her instagram, i mean is that crossing the line or i am being too much jealous? I dont know if this is paranoia or whatever... i try to remain calm and try to get into things she likes too although i hate some of it. really really have disgust for it, like tehfuck sertanejo songs where they only sing about being solteiro and going in the night etc, i think u gonne get me.
2019-08-14 16:15
#55
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Brazil JazZ98 
Like I said before, talk to her CARAIO. Like I said before, talk to her. Some people don't want to erase their photos because life is made of moments, you know? And deleting the photos doesn't mean she didn't get over it, it was just a phase she went through, et cetera. go from each person, if it bothers you, talk to her and she'll probably tell you the exact reason. Sertanejo é foda men, arrastar o chifre no asfalto e pa edit:: Probably i'd stay uncomfortable seeing her ex pictures in Instagram, probably talk to her about it.
2019-08-14 16:26
musica de corno mens, why listen to this? are u feeling corno? I hate it with passion. I'm going to talk to her about this. what bothers me the most is like: she had that fwb guy that she told me he promised her wonders and disappointed her and made her feel shit and cry and etc and WTF they are still friends? its just like her ex (i think so). I JUST DONT GET it man, why have insta pics with him? Why even talk when the mofo did so many bad things. I'm also little friends (not anymore after knowing this) with the guy... but wtf. Just cant really understand it sometimes and it gets my frustrated a lot
2019-08-14 16:29
#67
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Brazil JazZ98 
They follow friends because they probably get better that way, caring for the person is eternal. KKKK i feel u bro srsly, this happened in my relationship, in short, I ended the relationship because she's depressed to the point of reaching my sanity. But, four months after we broke up, they tried to reconnect, which left me disappointed, and I talked to her about it after I found out they didn't work out. At Carnival this year I fucked her best friend xD and probably now my ex hates me. CARNAVRAUU they follow friends because they probably get better that way, caring for the person is eternal. Música de corno men(((, muito legal de cantar bêbado!!
2019-08-14 16:44
You want HLTV Expert answer or serious answer?
2019-08-14 16:03
both will be gud
2019-08-14 16:06
HLTV expert answer: she is a slut and 100% cheats on you with your brother/dad/best friend/random club dude. Dump her Serious answer: if she is not clubbing anymore and you love her, who cares about her past? I mean, if it bothers you, just talk to her. Every problem is solvable.
2019-08-14 16:09
thanks man, i'll try to talk but idk so hard.
2019-08-14 16:10
Go get her tiger 😎👍
2019-08-14 16:12
#27
Poland joeb 
you need to check Doc Love - The System book or watch his youtube videos about dating & relationship
2019-08-14 16:03
as long she only sings i see no problem
2019-08-14 16:03
#33
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Germany Landwirt 
So you hate her for being a normal person who goes to parties at weekends instead of being a basement dweller?
2019-08-14 16:07
never said i hate her. just i get uncomfortable with some stuff of hers, she literally has pictures of her ex FWB in her instagram, i mean is that crossing the line or i am being too much jealous
2019-08-14 16:10
#39
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Germany Landwirt 
Yes you're too jealous
2019-08-14 16:11
#35
tiziaN | 
Germany FREIER 
make her your girlfriend. then tell her you dont like it and if you want to change she should search for another guy an you for another girl.
2019-08-14 16:08
how do i tell her without looking like a jealous beta?
2019-08-14 16:13
#51
COCAINE | 
Mongolia bozgor 
if she is not handicapped she can already smell you are a jealous beta so just be honest, better later than never
2019-08-14 16:17
#52
tiziaN | 
Germany FREIER 
+1
2019-08-14 16:20
tldr mens
2019-08-14 16:11
#3 mens
2019-08-14 16:12
#40 mens
2019-08-14 16:13
You either tame her or let her go. Things cant go on like this.
2019-08-14 16:13
You are just insecure.
2019-08-14 16:16
yea im 50/50 thinking of insecurity or something is wrong
2019-08-14 16:20
#54
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Denmark EyesWallow 
maybe you are gay
2019-08-14 16:22
To be honest, she really seems to have changed from what you wrote - and it's unfair to punish her for something she hasn't done purely based on a small suspicion. If you're feeling insecure in the relationship, it might be worth talking about with her sometime. Honesty and being open communication-wise are the two best facets of a long lasting and healthy relationship IMO.
2019-08-14 16:23
thank man i really appreciate; i also think she has changed a little
2019-08-14 16:24
#59
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Brazil JazZ98 
+1, nice words men((((((((((((((
2019-08-14 16:26
It is fine to have those feelings, the less you think about it the better, my current gf had a body count of 8, and she fucked 7 guys in last 9 months before we were dating, i felt like i was gonna get cheated on any minute now, but you have to find peace in that. Past is past and you have to get trough it somehow. Honestly thinking about it makes me sick, cause i was a fucking loser too and my body count was 3. Its okay to be jealous, i wish i had experienced similar things as your or my gf, but hey it is what it is.
2019-08-14 16:30
Jealousy screws EVERYTHING up. It's not healthy for you or your relationship. Try to give her the rope she needs, and it'll pay off or she'll reveal her true colours. Either way you'll have tried your best.
2019-08-14 16:30
Stop playing Captain Save-a-Hoe and move on. You list 10 redflags and ignore them all.
2019-08-14 16:32
#64
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Portugal ImNotKaZ 
Does she mention that she has a boyfriend on her instagram, like on her bio or some shit?
2019-08-14 16:32
#70
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Portugal pttpedro 
+1 rly good point
2019-08-14 17:07
#72
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Portugal ImNotKaZ 
Following that, if she don't mention, or in other ways tries to hide it, it means that she is open for the possibility on meeting another people.
2019-08-14 17:11
#73
tiziaN | 
Germany FREIER 
fox is right, check that.
2019-08-14 17:11
#77
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Portugal pttpedro 
fox washed up like mourinho
2019-08-14 17:21
well she has 2 pictures w/ me that she added recently, facebook status also.
2019-08-14 18:36
#93
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Portugal ImNotKaZ 
You must have atleast one friend who hangs out with her to those kind of partys, use him, ask him to keep an eye on your girl, my friends usually ask me to do that.
2019-08-14 19:27
Youre not a pro. And propobly will not be one Go to the party with her. Whats more valuable to you? Cs where you cant get shit or love?
2019-08-14 16:33
#66
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Portugal ImNotKaZ 
Anotha one, your grind in this game will never give you money, go spend your time with her, unless you don't really like these kind of things, I have some friends who hate loud music and these kind of partys (bitch ass nerds). Sorry for literally coping your comment men, but +1
2019-08-14 16:36
its literally me. hate loud crowds and shitty music. that doesnt make me a nerd tho
2019-08-14 18:35
#99
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Belarus fan_of_North 
Yust go get drunk go sit outside somewhere with her hugging no need for all dis inside of house stuff ya kno
2019-08-14 20:13
#68
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Europe vrx10 
Belgian Cuck
2019-08-14 16:43
#71
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Spain mokerz 
if a women can make you ask for help .... you are not a man.
2019-08-14 17:09
its 2019
2019-08-14 18:35
#106
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Spain mokerz 
an indian
2019-08-15 11:08
Hello 1940?
2019-08-14 20:20
#107
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Spain mokerz 
and a belga
2019-08-15 11:08
#74
Boo | 
France mbl4 
Parties and having fun in life =/= being single. If your gf sometimes misses her old life, it doesn't mean she doesn't want you, you can just go outside and go to parties with her, or just let her go to parties alone with her friends (if you trust her enough it shouldn't be a problem)
2019-08-14 17:13
#75
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Brazil OEspalhaLixo 
Just end it bro, the relantioship will collapse on its own over time. I'm being rly serious.
2019-08-14 17:20
#76
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Czech Republic LastOneCS 
die her
2019-08-14 17:20
I was just like you once, but just hang on and trust her and eventually you'll know if she's a keeper or a faker. Either way it's a win win situation since you will either keep her or lose a fake person that doesn't deserve you.
2019-08-14 17:27
She's a slut bro.
2019-08-14 17:31
#80
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United States LaDaDee 
Break up with her. You deserve way better mens))
2019-08-14 17:47
#82
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India St3elSh0t 
she gonna dump yo ass men and have orgy with nibbers
2019-08-14 17:49
#85
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United Kingdom zaidinator7 
she's a normie
2019-08-14 18:01
sadly. that i know from the beginning...
2019-08-14 18:33
#87
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United Kingdom zaidinator7 
unfortunate man
2019-08-14 18:34
Stopped reading at Belgian flag
2019-08-14 18:35
Eveyone can be jealous but you need to surpass it. Past is irrelevant. Try to tolerate more, also you can try to be with her doing stuff she likes. If she does the same, you'll have a better relationship.
2019-08-14 20:10
oh yeah, but she would fuck a hot mens, 195 cm, 80 kilos, jacked mf wouldnt she? luckily i have those characteristics
2019-08-14 20:12
I'll give you a simple solution. Do what your gut says. You never regret that. One a more important note , process your thoughts , identify and segregate them as emotional or rational thoughts. I think you'll be good to go.
2019-08-14 20:19
#103
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Kuwait Yarrak 
give her real music taste
2019-08-14 20:24
#104
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Brazil tinows 
cuck
2019-08-14 20:31
#108
jOELZ | 
Andorra Kuulers 
Sniff mephedrone with her at a techno club and everything will be cool)) (I'm serious) You should try this underground culture and improve your relationship
2019-08-15 11:12
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