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Lending money to family
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Germany Germany_best_country 
I lend two family members a total of 6000€ combined in the last 6 months and only got 1000€ back so far.I don't need the money right now but it really sucks to remind them all the time. Any advice?
2019-09-02 22:45
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2019-09-02 22:47
You must have a trash family usually when i borrow family money they give it back straight away
2019-09-02 22:48
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yes
2019-09-02 22:54
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Say you need the money for something then maybe they will give you it
2019-09-02 22:58
u borrow the money and they give it back? what kinda jewish trick is it, teach me
2019-09-02 23:47
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Legends say u can only hear when u have no foreskin
2019-09-03 17:21
Why would you give them money in the first place?
2019-09-02 22:48
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They asked me, i said "no problem i have enough saved up atm"
2019-09-02 22:54
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Just say you don’t have money next time
2019-09-02 22:54
What you do is say look guys, you are my family and I love you so I was willing to help you , but I need you to start paying me back some of what I lent. Then set up easy payment plan like 200/month
2019-09-03 02:11
He would give them the money cause he is a decent guy & it's family members asking... Family is family, if they don't give it back then it's another thing entirely.
2019-09-02 23:12
Only if they can payback in a few weeks.
2019-09-02 22:52
Remember this, when "loaning" money to family never expect it back.
2019-09-02 22:56
dont expect it back any time soon. and dont give your family money again in the future unless you're willing to lose it
2019-09-02 22:56
#17
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Netherlands BigMarvin
Your family is fucked. Come to Zeeland! Better mens))) Better womens))) Better beaches Better food Better family Come now!
2019-09-02 22:57
Never lend money to family members. This is only effective for ruining your relationship with them. Either GIVE them money, or do nothing.
2019-09-02 22:59
Perhaps they can't give them back at the moment or struggle financially? Don't be harsh on them, it is your family after all.
2019-09-02 23:03
If you dont need it let i be. Surely one day u see them or maybe not. But it's family, so who gives.
2019-09-02 23:03
Honestly, if you lend money to family members, don't expect to get it back
2019-09-02 23:04
Only suggestion i can think of is this. Do not remind them that they owe you money. Write the money off, forget it ever existed. When they ask for money again in the future & they probably will, just say you haven't got it, especially if you do have it. If family members don't pay it back right away without you having to jog their memories, never lend them a penny ever again. They already took you for a ride once. People like this do not know the value of money nor appreciate what it takes to get it. I know it sucks, i really do. Maybe just consider it a lesson learned about those family members ? And then move on with your life :)
2019-09-02 23:07
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+1
2019-09-03 00:09
yes men smart advice!
2019-09-03 00:10
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I'm still sorry it happened to you. Could maybe try this?? Maybe ! Give it a few years and then ask for a loan of a slightly lesser amount (important bit !), from both Family members and then never give it back, if they bring it up remind them that you gave them x amount years ago which was more than they gave you & that they still owe you some money !!
2019-09-03 00:18
gave my mum 15k. will never get anything back.
2019-09-02 23:14
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You owe your Mum way more than 15K......
2019-09-02 23:44
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its all I had, wanted to use that money as a down payment for a nice car I had in mind
2019-09-02 23:45
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I get it but still... Your Mum made it possible for you to make every cent you'll ever make in your entire life and experience everything you will ever experience in your entire life :D You owe her in a hard way. At least call her once a week :)
2019-09-02 23:53
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Lol it wasnt his desicion to be born
2019-09-03 00:01
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True it was his Mum's and he owe's her for that, in the hardest, most serious way imaginable.... If you are sane that is !
2019-09-03 00:03
#41
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Netherlands poeya
maybe he can call your mom once a week
2019-09-03 00:02
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Truly stupid, unthinking reply.... Is you an NPC ?
2019-09-03 00:05
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#48
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Netherlands poeya
yes it may be unoriginal, but what is truly stupid is this grammar from an actual person who lives in England
2019-09-03 00:06
Can you give me money pls? I'm a poor student without home :(
2019-09-02 23:19
Welcome to the club, My sister is 9years older than me, has a family rly good wage and so does her husband but i lent her 4k for her Honeymoon a few years back, I haven't received it yet... If i bring it up subject change and if she does say about it she says "Money isn't important compared to family"...
2019-09-03 00:02
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lol fuck this, never give her anything again
2019-09-03 00:07
That is such a bullshit move on her & her husbands part. Try this. Never mention it to her ever again but bring it up privately with her husband every possible chance you get, maybe it will get to him and eat away at him until finally, you get your money back. Worth a try ? If you think so, be relentless, show no mercy. Remind him that you paid for his Honeymoon every chance you get :)
2019-09-03 00:12
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I would but I also don't feel like hes obliged to pay it, I mean he knows and I bet he feels bad but whats the point in him bailing my sister out cause shes selfish
2019-09-03 00:23
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The point is to needle him every chance you get until you get your money back. Or he hit's you :) He isn't bailing out your Sister, they are a Married couple whose Debt's are shared
2019-09-03 00:27
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suppose your right brother, I'm just leaving it and have been at peace with it for some times but I wish one of them would grow some morals and straight up pay me without me asking, it's just at the time of this happening it was 50% of my networth or whatever you wish to call it so it was a big deal You a wise cookie though brother appreciate the words
2019-09-03 00:30
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Thank's and you're welcome. I understand, it grates hugely, starts you grinding your teeth and that can lead to talking and swearing to yourself :) Been there, done that ! Leaving it is probably the right idea, less stress & brooding on it. Live for today and tomorrow and ignore the slight's of the past ! Gl Bro :)
2019-09-03 00:38
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You too brother, danke
2019-09-03 00:38
Bro, you will never collect your money back. Stop thinking that she owes you money and start thinking that you gave her a nice wedding gift.
2019-09-03 00:14
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but I didn't thats the point, she specifically asked to lend the money till they returned, that was 2015 mate
2019-09-03 00:19
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2015?? And you still think that they will pay you back? What I meant is that you should account this money as lost. Thinking that it was a gift could at least bring some peace to your mind.
2019-09-03 00:25
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You're probably right, I am beyond it now but doesn't mean id turn it down if It was offered back to me, but until 2017 i Only had around £9k saved so that 4k was an extremely large amount of my total savings but all good now
2019-09-03 00:29
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You need the money? Or what really triggers you is the fact that she doesn't even bother about paying you back?
2019-09-03 00:31
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I don't need the money anymore, I have way beyond that saved now but it pisses me off that this is my sister and doesn't feel obliged to pay it back, at the time I had just turned 18 and I had literally no money while she was 27 and didn't feel morally obliged to give my money, just sad to consider people like that family but we don't choose our family so
2019-09-03 00:32
0/8
2019-09-03 00:03
#54
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North Macedonia trashbait
stop talking to your family
2019-09-03 00:13
Close related ((grand)parents + brothers)? If yes, then forget it. If not, then keep pushing until you find a solution. I had plenty of issues with that in the past, and my experience tells me that the best solution is to reach an agreement. Maybe you can propose an installment, where they pay you a sum on a monthly basis until the whole debt is covered (forget about interests).
2019-09-03 00:21
Ask em if they can pay you in nature, like sis
2019-09-03 00:25
Demand the money back immediately and never lend them anything again.
2019-09-03 00:40
Do they have jobs? I wouldn't lend money to a family member that couldn't pay it back.
2019-09-03 00:41
don't lend money. They borrow money because they don't have money. If they don't have money right now. That means you won't get it any time soon. So don't lend money to anybody. Lending money is for bank. Or someone who can send someone to your home to collect money by force.
2019-09-03 00:57
#76
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Turkey AlwaysL1fe
Dude its only money and its ur family whats wrong with society nowadays but excepted from Germany where Family isnt a big thing and Im living in Germay so I can say that
2019-09-03 01:15
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#82
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Egypt BomberMan_
so if you lend someone money and they are family they can keep it? Just give it to them why lend in the first place
2019-09-03 01:35
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#83
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Turkey AlwaysL1fe
thats why there shouldnt be "lending" in family (parents, sis, bro).
2019-09-03 02:08
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#85
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Egypt BomberMan_
For parents/sibling I agree with you but I think or I am guessing he is talking about extended family like cousins uncles aunts that stuff.
2019-09-03 02:33
murder them and sell their kidneys and hearts on organ black market, should make up for your loss easy
2019-09-03 01:16
When lending money to friends or family that you want or need to be reimbursed for it's a good idea to set a very well-defined return date. Make them understand that you need the money back by a specific day. It's better to come off as a little rude or overbearing initially than to have to ask them over and over for the money back. Also this might make them think twice about borrowing from you if they are unsure if they will be able to pay you back in a timely manner.
2019-09-03 01:20
#81
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Egypt BomberMan_
when you lend someone money unless you trust them 100% expect the money to be gone
2019-09-03 01:35
I just bought a bike for 3000€ (shouldn't have done that tbh) for my brother, help pay for his weeding which is in a few days, and going to help him pay his degree (5years).. Ps: he's 4years older
2019-09-03 17:32
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