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My life right now
Germany aitscheltihwih 
I heard some dudes talking about how their life sucks at the moment and when I heard what problems they had I was surprised and how amazing their life seemed. For 6-7 years I struggle with a chronic depressiod. I learned to live with it and try my best to no let it take over. 4 Years ago my grandma that is still alive (the other died around 15 years ago) started getting problems healthproblems, so she got a new place to stay closer to me and the whole family. 2 Years later it got so bad that she moved into the house of my parents. Her mental state got worse and she started to get forget things more and more. Thats 2 years ago and Im 30 now. A year later my farther died (doesnt matter how he died) and my grandma is his mother, but at that point her mental state was already very bad dementia has taken over her, she forgets everything within 1-2 minutes, she unlearns basic things such hygiene (properly showering, cleaning yourself after the toilet etc), cooking and so on. She used to be alone while my parents where working but in the months before my dad died I took care of her for several days per week, a few hours per day. And now we get to the part, that I have been living thorugh for the last year, which is a oure horror show.... My dad died and sicne then I love in the house of my parents again, as my mother has to work obviously and somebody needs to take care of my grandma. Now because of the dementia she DOENST KNOW THAT HER SON/MY FARTHER IS DEAD. In the last years he was her anchorpoint as she bought stuff for her, helpe her with everything etc etc and now she will continously ask about when he comes home. Everyday. Every hour. Sometimes if I sit next to her and do anytign that doesnt keep her busy, she will ask every 1-2 when "*insert name her* will be home today". Its unbearable and I have been living thorugh that for almost a year now. Im not writing this down here for the attention, Im writing this down so other people realize that sometimes lifes hands you shit instead of lemons and you surely dont wanna make lemonade from that. Appreciate what you have and make the best of it.
2019-10-07 16:28
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#1
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Germany cucKingxaxa)) 
men(( 😥😥😥👍👍
2019-10-07 16:30
#51
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Europe men) 
men(( 😥😥😥👍👍
2019-10-07 20:52
#53
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Germany cucKingxaxa)) 
men(( 😥😥😥👍👍
2019-10-07 20:59
#54
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Europe men) 
men(( 😥😥😥👍👍
2019-10-07 21:00
#2
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United Kingdom Klashnekoff 
ok but you didn't really post this for any other reason than "my problems worse than yours"
2019-10-07 16:30
+1 but it's all debatable
2019-10-07 16:35
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United States MaxHolloway 
+1
2019-10-07 16:40
I could have posted this a long time before, but I didnt, also nobody hear knows who I am. No clue how posting something like this anonymously would do anything good for me. As I said in the beginning, the reason I wrote it was a conversation I overheard and I thought its important to appreaciate what you. In case you didnt realize, I didnt cry about how my life sucks and that I will kill myself etc etc etc, I try to deal with everything and take it as granted and look forward, cause shit gets better with time usually. But crying about a current situation wont help for that. If that doesnt mean anything to you, than sure, Im fine with you thinking about me that way.
2019-10-07 17:23
Good luck with these issues brother. This will pass and your life will get better and you will be happy. I just know it. Dont be afraid to seek professional help if you think it might help. God Speed brother!
2019-10-07 21:04
Even though you're going through a tough time you will come back stronger. Life is hard and unfair but we all have to fight through it even if we don't know what we're really fighting for. Keep it up, I wish you all the best!
2019-10-08 13:35
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Chile gentleeH 
Good luck men, dont tell her the truth, cause she will grieve and be sad but then forget, and then grieve like the first time again, thats what happened to my grandma at least.
2019-10-07 16:32
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Sweden Sw4de 
but being constantly reminded that his father died is the worst part i'm sure. you should send her to some facility or get a person to take care of her, otherwise i don't think your mental state will get any better
2019-10-07 16:35
Thats the thing, it makes no sense telling her... 5 Minutes later she will have forgotton and ask again. Her dementia has already done so much harm, that the only thing you can do is making it somewaht comfortable for her.
2019-10-07 17:25
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tiziaN | 
Germany FREIER 
I had the same with my grandaunt her sister died but she had strong dementia. we agreed not to tell her but my granddad did tell her in the end, big mistake. So she was shocked and cried for hours only to forgot it again. He told it to her a few times. She died a few months later. Lesson for life, if you are near the end and old, do not prolong it unnaturaly. Best wishes for you! Hope you can get a place in the altersheim.
2019-10-07 21:09
my grandma had similar problems, later she couldnt even speak and move so she was 24/7 in bed and we had to move her around the bed so she wont get those nasty bedsores. problems with forgetting stuff was nothing compared to this
2019-10-07 16:33
Its good to talka bout it though, many people sooner or later have to deal with such a scenario. Many people just give the grandparents/parents to a retirement home, but that is pretty awful in most cases unless you can pay for a really really good one. My other grandma died 15 years ago and she suffered from alzheimers. That is like dementia paired schizophrenia... She thought we want to poison her and stuff like that and became pretty furious at times (she was a quiet person during her live, this was the alzheimers speaking there I guess). So yeah its important to talk about such things, as it affects the whole family and everyone just lives with that situation.
2019-10-07 17:28
+1 and for her it is definitely better when family takes care of her in such situations
2019-10-07 18:22
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United States 1for1discount 
sucks you have to tell her that your dead father is coming home soon. That must hit you so hard
2019-10-07 16:36
Pretty much, yeah. It was hard the first weeks espcially but then suddenly my head didnt get triggered anymore. I probably got used to it and understood the situation better so I can deal with it in a better way. It still sucks alot at times though.
2019-10-07 17:30
#8
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Russia SW@G 
noob
2019-10-07 16:37
#9
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Other mikeyjb 
tl;dr PS: im sorry to hear about your situation, ive never been there and thankful for it but it will probably happen to me too, my father is also deathly ill and my mom will most likely also not live longer than 5-10 years
2019-10-07 16:42
Do you have any siblings? Its good to think and talk about stuff like this advance, so it doesnt overwhelm you. If possible the sibblings should try to work together. Your parents spent so much time to raise you and if a illness or sage strikes, its time for the "kids" to give that back and honor them (unless they completely fucked your life over, maybe that would be an "excuse"). Do you want to share whats wrong with your dad and why your mom probably wont live for too long aswell? You can screenshot this and I promise I will never use anything of the stuff in this thread against you in future threads or wahtever. No-fight zone :D
2019-10-07 17:34
You can always talk with me <3 I hope you get better and can do stuff you want to do in life. Life is a struggle and it goes up and down. But I hope it goes more up in life ;)
2019-10-07 16:40
Thats nice to hear, but Im good, I have a GF and a hand ful of good friends I can talk to when I feel shit :) At least my family doesnt really have any problems with finances and this wont be a problem in the future aswell. Sadly many people dont have the money to properly care for someone with dementia. But in germany you also get alot of money from the insurance, if you care for them yourself and Im glad that germany (and norway most likely aswell) have social programs like that.
2019-10-07 17:36
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Serbia FaZe_nexa 
stopped reading at depressiod
2019-10-07 16:42
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Finland Goble81 
Why so toxic? Yes, please stop reading there if you like, but why post and "brag" about it here? Some people just don't have any sympathy, but please don't try to spread that "not-having-sympathy" poison around. aitscheltihwih. Afterwards you can be proud of how you have tried to take care of your grandma. I'm sure FaZe_nexa someday hopes he would have a grandson like you, but probably FaZe_nexa doesn't deserve one.
2019-10-07 16:57
#18
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Serbia FaZe_nexa 
tldr
2019-10-07 16:57
edgy
2019-10-07 16:57
#20
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Serbia FaZe_nexa 
deez nuts
2019-10-07 16:58
Its good, I dont need sympathy. I mean he exposes himself if he writes something like that anyways ;D
2019-10-07 17:37
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India Wise_Indian 
I hope it gets better soon , good luck brother .
2019-10-07 16:43
#14
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Lithuania Planum 
Your grammar gives me dementia
2019-10-07 16:45
Okay LevelUpp
2019-10-07 17:37
#15
LoOna | 
Korea ARBOGA 
Wow just pull through, when God closes a door he opens a window!
2019-10-07 16:48
Its fine, I mostly learned to deal with the situation and this wont last forever. She is already 92, so I think its safe to say that she already lived a long and mostly healthy life until recently :)
2019-10-07 17:39
Flair checks out
2019-10-07 16:48
:D I actually wanted to stop smoking. That this crap happened and I dont have the energy to do that right now.
2019-10-07 17:39
just an advice. u need to move out, bruh. just pack ur things and move out. u can't ruin ur own life. u need to take ur grandma to a place where old people live just because they have staff to care about people. wish u the very best, but at the moment u should just move out. it'll be much easier right away. also try to find a friend to chat. good luck!
2019-10-07 17:03
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Bulgaria goatse 
this
2019-10-07 17:29
#29
s1mple | 
Denmark Weylyn2 
+1
2019-10-07 17:32
I appreciate this and I somewhat agree. The thing is, my mom has done so much shit for me and I couldnt leave her hanging in there alone. I make some money which is enough and if I ever had financial problems, I know she can help me out without a word. My grandma is already 92 and she wont live for that long anymore. She recently started trip and fall a few times, which is usually a sign that the body shuts down more and more, not only the brain. My other grandma had alzheimer, so I have some experience with this before and my mom works as a physical therapist, so she is very familiar with this situation aswell. But I agree, if I see that it fucks up my life and I cant take it, I have to move out. Thanks for your advice!
2019-10-07 17:43
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Brazil 1stworlder 
He's not telling you to ditch your mother. Isn't there some kind of retirement home where professionals can take care of her? So that you don't have to sit through this and can focus on your own well-being.
2019-10-07 18:26
Yes there is, but we arent a huge friend of those, but my mother is organizing a stay for her where she will be for 3-5 days for like 6-8 hours a day. That way she kinda gets both of everything. Atm its not impacting my finances really, as I can live here pretty cheap (my parents build that house when I was 1 year old and its almost fully payed for now). I should also mention that I have 3 brothers, which sometimes come over to help aswell. I dont wanna get too much into more private details, but my living situation here is good enough. I will probably even move in hre with my GF once my grandma is gone. Its a house with a kinda big basement, then the "groundlevel" and 2 stories above, so my mother could not possibly use and care for all of it alone anyways. Makes no sense to leave the whole house empty or spend tons of money so its good to rent to other people.
2019-10-07 18:32
be strong men
2019-10-07 17:05
My grandpap has dimensia u have to keep reminding myself that he has that disease and it is an excuse for his poor hygiene and how mad he could get at me
2019-10-07 17:13
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Poland Hanse 
your life good my life bad give me attention/internet points/donations
2019-10-07 17:38
Thanks for your attention *furiously masturbates*
2019-10-07 17:44
axaxaxa, people these days have no idea how great they have it.
2019-10-08 08:32
#39
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Germany Sonnabend 
Well that sucks but you know what also sucks? Scamming HLTV user. hltv.org/forums/threads/2088802/bitcoin-..
2019-10-07 17:45
#41
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Germany Sonnabend 
+1
2019-10-07 17:50
#42
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Germany Sonnabend 
true
2019-10-07 17:50
#43
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Germany Sonnabend 
sad....
2019-10-07 17:50
Im not scamming anyone, none of the users even wrote me and besides that both didnt answer to any of my msgs before aswell. I dont care about people that ignore shit and the eventually show up (which none of them did by the way)
2019-10-07 18:25
#49
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Germany Sonnabend 
You want proof that im istheGOAT?
2019-10-07 19:06
Id rather not engage with random accounts that claim to be people I should give money too. If you have actual proof write me a PN.
2019-10-07 20:50
#61
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Germany Sonnabend 
all proof given on pm
2019-10-08 13:30
Honest people are hard to come by, should not trust randoms on the internet.
2019-10-08 08:28
#40
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Bulgaria goshyy 
That is indeed a sad story, if its true I genuinely feel very bad for what is happening in your life, stay strong German brother.
2019-10-07 17:48
#45
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Georgia Gvprtskvni 
Tldr but hopefully you doing fine
2019-10-07 18:23
#52
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Germany Vini_1337 
> For 6-7 years I struggle with a chronic depressiod oh boi here we go again
2019-10-07 20:54
tldr kid right here
2019-10-07 21:08
dude that's very noble but you really need to seek prof. help with this caretaker situation. any sozialarbeiter should be able to provide at least a proper contact. you can't throw away your life like that. i wish you good luck. stay strong!
2019-10-08 08:01
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