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I'm so shy to girls
Poland humen)))) 
What to do to be more confident to girls? When I see a girl I become a stone, I don't know what to do
2019-11-19 23:50
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#1
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Reunion 1iquser 
just chill. they're humans like us
2019-11-19 23:50
yea but they are "beautiful" ones
2019-11-19 23:52
#7
OCEAN | 
Reunion 1iquser 
nah you're probably beautiful as well
2019-11-19 23:53
not as much men((
2019-11-20 00:14
believe in yourself mens))))
2019-11-20 00:40
When u bang her ass and suck her pussy for 15 minutes, she'll run after u for all life long. Even if she get married. Just do it. If u act like a nerd, they'll treat u like a nerd.
2019-11-20 12:01
Listen to this man he knows what to do in urugay
2019-11-20 13:02
he ment to say the run for their life after uruguay man kidnapped them and did nasty things to them in basement
2019-11-20 17:30
which basement, you need a house for a basement LUL
2019-11-20 18:06
+1 my bad
2019-11-20 18:07
u guys so idiot.
2019-11-22 17:34
Was this supposed to be a joke
2019-11-25 19:04
If u act like a nerd, they'll treat u like a nerd. that actually makes sense, ty mens
2019-11-25 19:15
Yw my friend
2019-11-25 21:14
Just talk to them much
2019-11-20 01:53
mens)) believe
2019-11-20 16:15
#10
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Denmark potatomato 
Everyone is beatiful , even you
2019-11-19 23:53
but they are so cute, boys are not cute
2019-11-20 00:14
you are cute))
2019-11-20 10:59
Ty mens
2019-11-20 11:02
asian boys > eu/na girls men))
2019-11-26 14:08
lies
2019-11-20 00:15
true, only I'm shit
2019-11-20 00:46
no, but your confidence is shit
2019-11-20 00:48
I'm so nervous when talking to girls
2019-11-20 00:52
do it, the more you do it the better you get
2019-11-20 01:11
Weak suggestion
2019-11-20 16:13
is it wrong though? Nope
2019-11-20 16:52
Its not wrong at all, its just an easy answer, like how do you get better at baseball? Do it more. you get better at it the more you do it. Hopefully it does him good. But maybe tho it makes him try to do what he think is right and he gets rejected and jumps off a bridge, what then? Natural selection some might say but that shit is harsh mate. Dont do that to people
2019-11-20 17:03
Sometimes the easy answer is the only answer. I take for granted that people understand that petty things like a rejection in your teens is part of life and wont matter 10 years in the future. Its much better to try, fail and grow as a person, then to not do anything
2019-11-21 10:45
do it more 4head
2019-11-26 02:52
#64
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United States FrothaIPBan 
+1
2019-11-20 00:25
#16
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Spain Granjero 
You too 😊
2019-11-19 23:55
you are sexy beast
2019-11-19 23:56
This is why HLTV is amazing ^^^^ Btw. You look good, don’t forget that.
2019-11-19 23:58
#28
Germany pmb  
look at those cute comments you got. #reformedhltv
2019-11-19 23:58
im in shock
2019-11-20 00:15
#74
Germany pmb  
same lol
2019-11-20 00:34
2020 HLTV will be all about love
2019-11-20 11:00
2020 HLTV will be all about love
2019-11-20 19:33
2020 HLTV will be all about love
2019-11-25 21:19
Compared to you, not even close
2019-11-20 00:04
They are beautiful, I feel like shit
2019-11-20 00:10
#159
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Sweden dodin0 
nah dude u are a 8/8, believe in yourself bro!
2019-11-20 13:10
no u
2019-11-20 00:07
#41
KRIMZ | 
Sweden bakish 
That girl wish she could be with someone like you, don't worry!
2019-11-20 00:07
#42
Sugar | 
Europe Daddy! 
If they are beatiful, what are you then? Incredible, insanly good looking?
2019-11-20 00:07
You sexy boi
2019-11-20 00:13
#50
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Spain VIKTORAL 
Look up king, you are even better remember that
2019-11-20 00:14
I want to suck your toes
2019-11-20 00:15
I'd do that to my girl if there's any that would like to be mine :(
2019-11-20 00:16
Wtf dont reject me like this mens))
2019-11-20 00:18
U bootyfull too mens
2019-11-20 08:56
#172
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Canada ProvexPyker 
They can only dream of a prince charming. It's up to you to deliver!
2019-11-20 14:23
Don't think like that, you're beautiful in your own way, men! By the way, this comment section is the most wholesome I've seen on HLTV!
2019-11-25 19:01
#18
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Spain Granjero 
This guy has very low vibe levels men((
2019-11-19 23:55
One girl wanted to date with me but I rejected even tho she was pretty and attractive to me, mb im afraid of sex or what
2019-11-20 00:24
#118
OCEAN | 
Reunion 1iquser 
yeah he has high stress levels tho
2019-11-20 08:50
#119
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Spain Granjero 
We should calm him down a bit 😏
2019-11-20 08:54
#163
OCEAN | 
Reunion 1iquser 
no homo bro
2019-11-20 13:53
#165
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Spain Granjero 
You said no Homo so now we can legally fuck him
2019-11-20 13:55
#166
OCEAN | 
Reunion 1iquser 
yeahhh 😎
2019-11-20 13:55
#208
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African Union 2011 
sus
2019-11-20 19:21
#212
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Spain Granjero 
you can join us if you want
2019-11-20 19:31
No they aren’t lmao
2019-11-20 21:02
#216
OCEAN | 
Reunion 1iquser 
bro. source?
2019-11-20 21:03
Zeolikk told me
2019-11-20 21:03
#218
OCEAN | 
Reunion 1iquser 
ok
2019-11-20 21:03
ok
2019-11-20 21:04
#2
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Germany AYEONV 
i have social anxiety but i can still talk to girls without being wierd its not that hard lol just chill
2019-11-19 23:51
#3
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
Pretend like they are subhumens))). When you dont care about them,they start caring about you.
2019-11-19 23:52
ok incel
2019-11-19 23:52
#8
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
ok Jerman
2019-11-19 23:53
seeja in hal jermans
2019-11-19 23:55
denmark most useless country ayylmao can't even remember a single stereotype
2019-11-19 23:56
r e p o r t e r e d
2019-11-19 23:57
sweden: gay/trans ppl and kids without gender; UK: yellowteeth; poland: toilet cleaners; germans: nazis; denmark: ???; holland: potheads
2019-11-19 23:59
#33
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
reported
2019-11-20 00:01
for ???
2019-11-20 00:03
#36
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
for calling our little brother sweden trandgenda
2019-11-20 00:04
your little brother? sweden is ur mom and norway your dad, and finland your stepdad
2019-11-20 00:05
#39
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
0/8
2019-11-20 00:06
If anything, Denmark and Sweden are the mum and dad who fight all the time over their favourite child Norway and always forget about the red headed step child of Finland
2019-11-20 11:54
Imagine using not having an insult as an insult. Only in s1mples favorite country...
2019-11-20 00:21
-1
2019-11-19 23:53
Yeah, and spit on them while you're at it. Throw piss at them too, they like that, it says you're about establishing dominance. Ignore them too, every girl loves that. It's not about establishing a valuable, human connection, it's about organizing and managing a pet like an Age of Empires villager, every alpha male knows that. But seriously you need help bro.
2019-11-19 23:54
like an Age of Empires villager
2019-11-19 23:57
#25
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
women age of empires villagers are fuckable
2019-11-19 23:58
Why are you playing age of empires and looking at the female villager model
2019-11-19 23:58
#31
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Denmark Karrigan500IQ 
why not and why not mens)))
2019-11-19 23:59
true
2019-11-20 00:01
Aoe priest hotter mens))
2019-11-20 00:34
#167
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CIS subhumen))) 
WTF men... offensive
2019-11-20 13:57
just talk pussy
2019-11-19 23:53
but I don't know what to talk about? weather? nice shirt? nice body? and what after that?
2019-11-19 23:54
weather? yes, nice shirt? yes, nice body? no thats weird, you can also just drink something to make your tongue loose
2019-11-19 23:55
I just need to feel like a man, not like pussy but it's hard, it's in my mind
2019-11-20 00:29
-1 won't help him, if he doesn't know the rules (accepting himself first, understand female perspective) what is more cringe ? an awkward dude a drunk awkward dude
2019-11-20 00:47
#240
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United States reddzera 
an awkward dude bc they what they doing
2019-11-25 19:04
#14
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Europe laczyslaw 
dont be pussy.. 2019 and boys cant talk with girl hahahahhahahahah looser
2019-11-19 23:55
#43
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France Kimir0iq 
reported
2019-11-20 00:08
#65
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Europe laczyslaw 
hmm.. im confuse, france and report not white flag?
2019-11-20 00:26
0/8
2019-11-20 02:02
#70
ropz | 
Canada Bucket0 
ok boomer
2019-11-20 00:32
what if i only have male friends, not female...
2019-11-20 11:30
#222
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Colombia realblizzy 
Hi shqipe
2019-11-21 10:51
#17
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Brazil |LUCAS1| 
They're just humans dude lol I know it's harder than it looks, but even if you are not confident, try to act like if you are (without being an asshole tho).
2019-11-19 23:55
I'm weaker towards girls/woman because I can't create sentence with much sense when she is around
2019-11-20 00:09
The question is how old are you, honestly?
2019-11-19 23:56
age doesn't matter it's like saying you're too old for this spider phobia or fear of heights
2019-11-20 00:51
Not what i was going for. Age will tell how much experience he has had with girls and will change the way to approach them. U wouldnt approach a 12yo the same way ud do a 20ish
2019-11-20 00:57
#71
2019-11-20 00:59
#139
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Netherlands Ye_I_Yeet 
20 here, struggle with it on a daily basis 😎😎
2019-11-20 11:09
Just be playful but not rude man, they like mens))) who make them laugh.
2019-11-20 12:59
#164
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Netherlands Ye_I_Yeet 
Yeah too bad I only made friends with that xd, guess I'm too ugly
2019-11-20 13:54
Starting dating my best friend which was a girl, this was two and a half years ago. Being friend is important to become more than a friend later
2019-11-20 15:42
#224
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Netherlands Ye_I_Yeet 
nah most of them are like childhood friends and I don't wanna fuck anything up so I'd rather not risk it
2019-11-21 11:08
i cant either bro If its to some random girl then maybe i can hold a convo If its the girl i like same happens to me Just avoid them unless they talk to you i guess
2019-11-19 23:57
they will never approch you just like that so in your understanding you will stay forever single
2019-11-20 11:32
thats O-K my only girlfriend will be CSGO
2019-11-20 15:09
csgo sucks, ive got there 4k hours, now im addicted to fortnite LOL
2019-11-20 18:03
i want to b pro i really dont see myself anywhere in the future but in IEM Katowice doing headshots but srs idk what to do with my life even tho i could be anything i want cuz good grades
2019-11-20 18:34
FORNITE IN 2019 AND ALEKSIB WAS THE PROBLEM LUL
2019-11-23 05:49
0/8
2019-11-23 14:28
#27
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Yugoslavia Safet_Isovic 
Be muslim they fuck so many beautiful blonde women sweden very pretty women big chad
2019-11-19 23:58
#38
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Belgium HLTVnewfag 
Da kkomrade
2019-11-20 00:05
they're usually 10x more insecure than you think
2019-11-20 00:10
like everybody but doesn't matter if he feels like shit inside you need to work in your our garden first
2019-11-20 00:53
Then dont talk to them, youre clearly not mature enough for a relationship, you will make her life boring and then get cheated on even if she says yes.
2019-11-20 00:11
Yea I'm kinda afraid of that, yes you're right I'm not mature enough
2019-11-20 00:18
I am mature enough but I am afraid of embarassment...The beggining is toughest.
2019-11-20 11:33
#48
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Poland bakoishKSC 
build ur confidence at gym and try to talk a lot with girls
2019-11-20 00:12
Then stop seeing girls. What are they worth to you anyways?
2019-11-20 00:14
I try to ignore them but u know there's more girls than boys in this world...
2019-11-20 00:30
#227
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Belgium HLTVnewfag 
A lot of opportunities bud
2019-11-22 17:40
dont see everyone of them as a potential girlfriend. just look at them like your mother or sister. learn from it and get used to it... ez clap
2019-11-20 00:18
But you know, when I look at my mom, my sister - it's my family I know them for years.. When I look at random girl that is pretty attractive, my "man power" decreases and I feel like pussy
2019-11-20 00:21
because from the inside you are a pussy... maybe stop wanking off so much... and start going to the gym. to much porn is bad for you...
2019-11-20 10:57
+1 mens, this helped me
2019-11-20 13:58
imagine they're bois with longhair and peepeeless
2019-11-20 00:29
boys with curly hair as kit harrington are hot
2019-11-20 11:34
#69
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
age? normal Question btw
2019-11-20 00:32
25 :(
2019-11-20 00:32
#73
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
oooh damn okay! how ugly from 1 to 10? how tall? hobbies?
2019-11-20 00:33
185cm but 90kg not bad face :)) I like to play on keyboard, ride a bike
2019-11-20 00:35
#78
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
are you ''good'' at those hobbies?
2019-11-20 00:36
7/10 ?
2019-11-20 00:37
#81
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
any girls you know that have the same hobbies with the same amount of goodness
2019-11-20 00:38
idk man, I have problems to even ask them
2019-11-20 00:40
#84
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
why? tell me what happens!
2019-11-20 00:40
when I see beautiful girl I'm silent af I feel like she doesn't deserve such shit as me
2019-11-20 00:41
#88
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
are you shit? why?
2019-11-20 00:46
just feel like that, there are better men than me
2019-11-20 00:47
#93
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
why are they better?
2019-11-20 00:47
they are stronger physically etc
2019-11-20 00:48
#160
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Belgium NisseCS 
stop acting like a beta, just dont give a fuck about what you think is gonna happen if she says no. You will learn from it, and it will go easier the next time. If you keep doubting yourself you'll never be able to get a hot girl. It's all about confidence, dont think about what could go wrong, think about what could go right :)
2019-11-20 13:34
#162
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
+1
2019-11-20 13:46
+1 But it's easy to say this tho, it's hard to do.
2019-11-25 21:23
that what I thought you have low self - esteem you need to learn to love and accept yourself and sadly girls won't solve it, only might show you how deluded your beliefs are
2019-11-20 00:58
8.5/10 180 cm No hobbies Is there any hope for me? i just dont talk to girls because when i try i always regret it later
2019-11-20 17:07
#225
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
why do you regret it later? no hobbies? what are you doing on a daily basis?
2019-11-22 17:31
Im either studying, playing some games or watching tv shows, on weekends i go out with friends to a bar or smth. Thats basically it. I can talk to girls very easily, i can be confident. But when im talking with the one im interested in then it suddenly becomes impossible. I always think that something i said was cringe and im overthinking. My friends are saying that im nice and funny person and should have got a girlfriend by now but i think im pretty boring from the girls point of view, i have nothing to say about myself to make a good first impression.
2019-11-22 17:58
#229
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Netherlands zuzelmonster 
what do you like to do when you have nothing to do. like in vacation times were schools are shut down etc.
2019-11-23 02:13
let's be fair it's too late for you to learn how to socialise IMO it would be better for you to stop caring about those unimportant thing and care about yourself,your development,hobbies etc.
2019-11-20 10:15
#72
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China imd0g 
stop fap
2019-11-20 00:32
this actually
2019-11-20 00:57
#76
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Finland Urban_Terror 
Acquire life experience by doing wicked things
2019-11-20 00:35
#79
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Netherlands poeya 
sex them
2019-11-20 00:36
long road ahead of me
2019-11-20 00:40
#87
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Netherlands poeya 
we are all humen))))
2019-11-20 00:43
#90
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Hungary subzera 
its okay man, it is something every guy has to overcome. one way is to just get better at talking to people. get out more and talk to more guys. dont think of girls as potential gf material, just think of them as any other person, because thats what they are. once you get good at talking to people, the universe is going to get out of your way or thats what ive heard at least. alcohol also helps.
2019-11-20 00:46
pee on them to show dominance
2019-11-20 00:47
try pua
2019-11-20 00:48
#99
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Turkey tastemycobra 
there is nothing you can do. women are different; soft skin, fertile booty, fluffy boobies
2019-11-20 00:52
#105
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United Kingdom SLurSs 
Haha
2019-11-20 00:58
Be more confident. I think that's the key to solve the girls paradox, they want guys to laught say funny and cute things etc. Btw here in Brazil this "problem" (i'ts not a problem, but here in Brazil are) r so rare, here that friendship here it's just so normal, when I was reading the article i thought u was kidding.
2019-11-20 01:01
Can I come to brazil ? Here people are so serious and strict and it’s driving me insane
2019-11-20 19:20
Of course u can dude! Let's drink cachaça together! (OBS: cachaça is the same as vodka for russians)
2019-11-24 11:58
just relax and be yourself. talk to her just like you talk to your best friends. they are humans like you and if they reject you, so what ? laugh about it, make a joke and move on.
2019-11-20 01:04
+111111111111111 I should say literally the same
2019-11-20 01:14
1. do you like yourself? 2. are you excited about your life? 3. are you proud of who are? 4. are you proud of the way you live your life?
2019-11-20 01:49
No No No No
2019-11-25 18:58
then girls aren't the problem in that case they are just the result of the above "you attract what you are, not what you want" or in other words your outer world is a reflection of your inner world
2019-11-25 21:15
Ye you right but how can i like myself? Im ugly and asocial
2019-11-26 14:03
meditation daily at least 20 minutes read valuable books work on yourself maybe even psychotheraphy belive in yourself go about accomplish what you really want in life it's not quick fix solution - it would rather take time first to unlearn what blocking you from loving youself then learn again to love yourself
2019-11-26 14:10
You are good guy
2019-11-28 13:37
When you go to the fundamentals of confidence, it's about self-love. Why are you confident in other things, like for example your favorite game/sport/activity? Because you appreciate your own abilities in that field to their proper value, you value your own abilities, you love yourself in that field, you love the potential that you have to act inside that field. And yet you did not have that before, back when you just started in that field. So what changed? Exposure is what changed you. Repeated exposure to the field made you learn and changed your abilities, which changed your view of yourself and your love of yourself in that field. So, do you want to change your behavior or not? If you do, you'll need exposure, you'll need to be around women regularly and talk even if it's just to say hi or thank you. You're afraid to make mistakes? You're already making the same mistake every time by staying silent anyway, so if your goal is to avoid mistakes, your current strategy is not working. You will not avoid mistakes, doesn't matter what you do or don't do. So might as well try to do something.
2019-11-20 01:56
+1 for that self-love part
2019-11-25 18:24
yeah although the second part is logically correct it won't work, because of how the human brain works
2019-11-25 21:23
+1 self - love and self - worth is the baseline to start with, then mastering the communication and women perspective (what do they think and feel and why)
2019-11-25 21:20
second part would work if we were robtos, but we aren't the primary motive of behavior is to looking for SAFETY, SAFETY, SAFETY - btw like all the rest mammals if his brain scream around women DANGER DANGER DANGER there is no way for him to act in rational manner in that scenario you have take care of emotional part of the brain first otherwise in 99 cases out of 100, it will override the rational part of the brain
2019-11-25 21:36
It has nothing to do with robots, it's how humans generally accumulate confidence: through regular and frequent exposure. As long as you don't accumulate experience in a task, your confidence in this task will not improve. Now that does not mean that knowledge or emotion management are useless for *performing* the task, of course they help, but nothing else than exposure can make you feel confidence in doing the task, because that's how you build your personal experience, which is what gives you the sensation of control over a situation. You can have all the knowledge in the world about the field and be the most emotionally stable person on earth, that will not give you confidence in doing something that you have no experience in doing, including talking to women (or whatever gender you're attracted to). There's not a hundred ways to short-circuit your lack of confidence, there is only one: do it anyway. In other words, get exposure. Accumulating knowledge or preparing emotionally are only helpers, without exposure they're useless to build confidence. Now some people argue that you can also build confidence by being removed from responsibility, usually by a teacher (or in the field we're talking about, a coach), who will tell you what to do, but that's an illusion, that's not building confidence, that's just borrowing the confidence of someone else, as soon as this person is gone, if you don't practice without them (in other words, get exposure), this will never translate to your own confidence. And again, nothing against having people teaching you things, on the contrary, but that's not what will bring you confidence, it will help you prepare, it will help you avoid some mistakes, it will help you gain time and efforts, but that will not bring you your own confidence, only your own exposure and your personal experience in the field can do that.
2019-11-25 22:36
if that would be so simple I would be already alpha pimp with a hundred women in bed, but that not what happned to me, by external exposure 95% of the time you repeat the same patterns and behaviors, and nothing will change inne game is more important than you assume
2019-11-26 01:36
"if that would be so simple I would be already alpha pimp with a houndred women in bed, but that not what happned to me, by external exposure" It's not simple. Exposure doesn't make it easy or simple to build confidence, it only makes it doable. It's a requirement, but certainly not a guarantee. I'm only talking about building confidence, not about achieving personal fantasies. You can accomplish your personal fantasies with or without building confidence (although obviously you will require something to compensate for your lack of confidence, such as money for example, and the feeling of accomplishment may be completely nullified in the process). "95% of the time you repeat the same patterns and behaviors, and nothing will change" If you do not learn from exposure, you will indeed not develop your abilities, and as a result your confidence will not grow. As I mentioned above, it's a requirement, but not a guarantee. The problem in this case is not the exposure, the problem is what you're taking from these periods of exposure. It's the same in any other field, if 95% of the time you repeat what didn't work, your progress and your confidence will not grow, or very slowly. "inne game is more important than you assume" It's definitely important, but it's useless without exposure (at least if the goal is to build confidence). Even a well-balanced, clear-minded and secure individual can be clueless (and as a result lack confidence in the task) if they have no, or very few (or very limited) interactions with the gender they're attracted to. You can even see this in people who are socially very capable but crumble as soon as it's about seducing the people they're attracted to. It's not that they don't know how to interact, it's just that they lack exposure, so they lack confidence, which makes them limit their exposure, which doesn't improve their confidence, etc... You have to break that cycle, and you cannot break it by just "deciding" to be confident on command, so you have to break it by searching for exposure *despite* your lack of confidence. And yes, it will definitely improve your chances of success if you accumulate knowledge, or work on your emotional management, or if you do lots of activities, or if you try to expand your social circle, or all of that, but all this without exposure is meaningless (at least if the goal is to build confidence in the task of seducing the people you're attracted to). It would be like spending a lot of time and resources studying to be a doctor but not have any patient. Not only would you not build confidence, but you would not even actually heal patients. Now doctors have to wait a few years before practicing on patients, for obvious vital reasons, but people who want to seduce other people do not have that constraint, they should get exposure as soon as possible and as much as they can handle. Of course I'm putting aside here actual psychological conditions, there are mental health issues that have to be addressed by a professional in order to improve, I'm only talking about the typical anxiety to talk to people you're attracted to.
2019-11-26 02:50
you're missing key factors about human psyche althought I agree that you learn seduction by interacting with women and their feedback a person without proper mental structure to go about, might use that exposure to only hate, reject and feel worst about himself judging himself even more and only reinforce more already existing NEGATIVE beliefs and SELF-IMAGE about himself the same fact of exposure isn't enough look around you everybody make mistakes, but only few people get insight and move forward, the vast majority repeat the same mistakes and never learn anything from them to the day they die ... otherwise everbody would be sucessful, but that's not the case
2019-11-26 14:28
I never said exposure was enough. I said it was a requirement. If it was enough it would be easy. And it's not easy. If you use exposure to reinforce your already existing beliefs, it means that you're not in an approach to learn, so you will fail (or at least have a lot of trouble) to learn whatever you're getting yourself into, whether it's seduction or something else entirely. It's like the people who want to learn a language but don't want to replace concepts from their native language for those of the target language. But even if you have the correct mindset for learning, without exposure to what you want to learn it's going to be useless. Self-image can't be built separately from exposure, otherwise it's just an illusion that you create without any concrete basis. Self-image is something that is built through exposure, because that's how you confirm that the way you see yourself is indeed the way you behave and the way people perceive you. Now again, of course it's very helpful to work on yourself separately as well, but all this is useless to build confidence if you don't get exposure. Learning is an organic process, you can't separate exposure from the rest, you need it as soon as possible and as often as possible, that's how you track your progress and that's how you learn what works and what does not, having theoretical knowledge and being emotionally secure will not do anything for your actual learning, all it does is provide a healthy base from which to learn, which is good, but the actual learning happens through exposure. "look around you everybody make mistakes, but only few people get insight and move forward, the vast majority repeat the same mistakes and never learn anything from them to the day they die ... otherwise everbody would be sucessful, but that's not the case" The majority of people don't really want to actually learn (anything, not just seduction). Instead they fantasize about learning, they want the result without the journey towards those results. So some of them never get to actually learning, some of them try to learn but are frustrated by the time and the efforts it requires, some of them get so embarrassed about their mistakes that they stop altogether, etc... And you or me are not special in that regard, we've all been like that (or will be) about something, whether it's a game, a sport, a professional field, anything. Again, exposure is a requirement, not a guarantee.
2019-11-26 15:06
Men, very insightful convo right here. Thank you for both your opinions :)
2019-11-26 22:31
#114
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Brazil JazZ98 
Remember that you aren’t different from her
2019-11-20 02:00
#128
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Finland mustiGOD 
he has vagina too? 😱
2019-11-20 09:57
#145
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Brazil JazZ98 
Nt dickhead No man he’s emotional like everyone, if he knows that he is a nice guy the only thing necessary to talk with a girl is courage. And to earn courage you have to “put your face on to get slapped.”
2019-11-20 11:43
#146
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Finland mustiGOD 
merhaba
2019-11-20 11:44
#148
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Brazil JazZ98 
Kebab
2019-11-20 11:50
#149
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Finland mustiGOD 
anani avradini sikeyim bunyamin orospu evladi
2019-11-20 11:52
#151
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Brazil JazZ98 
Kebab kebabkebab allahuakbar
2019-11-20 11:54
#152
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Finland mustiGOD 
merhaba
2019-11-20 11:58
#154
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Brazil JazZ98 
Bom dia
2019-11-20 12:03
#116
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Brazil Bene_Tleilax 
take the pussy off of that pedestal, get a job if you dont have one and go to the gym nothing else to do
2019-11-20 02:04
the only way is being drunk
2019-11-20 02:06
#121
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Austria epiXYZ 
just show them ur dick
2019-11-20 08:58
#122
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Kazakhstan MahNinja 
Be always honest and be yourself, it really helps. If you tell a girl that she is beautiful, then she will be shy and not you.
2019-11-20 09:03
#123
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Korea XigNw0w 
Are you always shy person? Like when you meet new people are you shy when you talk to them? Or just shy when you have to talk with girls?
2019-11-20 09:39
#124
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Other EaSync 
stop fapping
2019-11-20 09:44
#125
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Iceland ban1c 
It's genetics or something or you just aren't as used to social exposure maybe stop playing as much video games and spend time with friends, making new ones and eventually being surrounded by people will adjust you to social comfort. There's no quick fix to be super confident outside of maybe alcohol, but i'd never advise to resort to that
2019-11-20 09:44
#127
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Finland Qurko 
+1 you don't have to try get every girl in your bed or to be ur gf, even just casually talking to them about random shit increases confidence
2019-11-20 09:54
#131
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Iceland ban1c 
exactly having women in your life that are just good friends not only helps you socialise better in general, but it can in fact also help you talk to girls you actually do want to get in your bed ;)
2019-11-20 10:18
#126
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Australia Lon3wolf12 
Your name is literally humen))) socialising is genetically infused in you bro. Don't take what others say seriously about you. What ever you think are your flaws will be your flaws in your mind and no one will change that accept you. Wholesome moment man, good luck.
2019-11-20 09:46
Press E
2019-11-20 11:01
#137
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Ukraine martnlo1 
Men just drink vodka and u will be cery confident with girlz
2019-11-20 11:06
#138
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New Zealand Belfer 
Use tinder xd
2019-11-20 11:07
You need start to like yourself to be confident with girl When i start to care about my physical form, hair, clothes(not really much) i start to feel confident with girls, even say a lot of compliments
2019-11-20 11:10
Girls like dirty convos so go for it
2019-11-20 11:46
#158
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Russia cuba_libre10 
so... can someone explain how u even meet these women? XDDD and this guy thinks he has it bad, at least he's actually finding himself in a situation where he can talk to a woman
2019-11-20 13:07
#175
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Canada ProvexPyker 
I'm guessing it's at his school. Honestly idk, I guess you could meat them at a hobby "club" or something
2019-11-20 14:39
#177
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Russia cuba_libre10 
my hobby is gym / eat / study / sleep and I do all of this alone :s
2019-11-20 14:43
sex them
2019-11-20 13:36
girls value the personality of men very much. so adopt a nice and exciting one.
2019-11-20 14:02
i would say make girl friends not lovers just friends and try to get to know how they think in general cuz they are humans so nothing to be shy about gl
2019-11-20 14:04
You have to get more experience in communication with girls to understand how shit works. Use Tinder or any other dating service, but don't consider each girl as a potential gf, just talk to them for whatever purpose to build confidence and basic understanding of how to to approach different kinds of girls. Talk to them over an app and ask out when you feel like you're ready for that. Dating my very first Tinder girl I asked out btw.
2019-11-20 14:06
#173
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Canada ProvexPyker 
Learning to socialize is something that takes place at any age and skill level. There's so many forms, it's ridiculous to think one should give up because it's too late. No, we always keep learning and improving. My advice would be to act normal first. What do guys your age do for girls that they don't even date? They treat them like a normal friend. Try talking to girls without that "looking to fuck" vibe. You might stutter, you might not make eye contact, you might tilt your head and avoid them completely. Take this one step at a time. Take note of where you go wrong by grasping how uncomfortable the girl is. And once you have it down, you practice and practice and even though your "acting" normal, you'll be doing it like you don't even notice. Remember: the only ugly person, is a lazy person. The person you hate and don't want to be, will always be the one that doesn't make the effort. Have confidence in yourself because we're all inherently beautiful.
2019-11-20 14:42
#174
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Canada ProvexPyker 
Tldr, don't look to fuck, look to friend and train/act normal on those.
2019-11-20 14:37
people actually nice this time,wp mens))
2019-11-20 14:41
#180
Sweden PPH 
You're cockblocking yourself by overthinking what you should do or say, act normal be yourself, dont try so damn hard to impress her
2019-11-20 15:45
Hit them
2019-11-20 15:47
#182
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Finland Homeless775 
Fucking pussies stop jerking off and talk to people for more confidence
2019-11-20 15:48
Well, you just gotta man the f up and walk up and talk to them. Thats basically it. If you get rejected by a girl, then move on to another.
2019-11-20 15:50
Don't you have any girls at school or work? Don't try to talk to them any differently than what you would with a guy. And if you are shy with girls that you kind of want to hit on, don't try to impress them too much. Just be yourself and don't overthink the conversations.
2019-11-20 16:06
+1
2019-11-25 18:48
#187
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Poland Jancz1 
Pytasz sie jej czy lubi sok jak powie że tak to powiedz to sok maj kok hehe
2019-11-20 16:22
theyre normal humans, just be normal lol
2019-11-20 16:26
Because you have low price for yourself and you are praising them more than they really deserve. Women in general and more stupid than Men and more emotional / primitive.
2019-11-20 16:29
get drunk
2019-11-20 17:04
Talk about anything.. trust me, you will fail. Then you learn through mistakes.. turning mistakes into gold. Get more experience, and after that you will probably fail again. Don't worry, as time goes on you will understand how to speak in a way that makes each personality type really listen and pay attention, and eventually you will succeed. btw, if you have money, will be so much easier and sometimes, you won't even need to say anything. Confidence is the key to everything. Be good. Do good. Live good.
2019-11-20 17:29
talk to them more often? like what can go wrong? worst case she ignores you and moves further. best case you get a date, get laid and maybe even a relationship. when I went to a psychiatrist, he told me to do 4-5 things a day that I'm scared of. Talking to strangers, especially woman was one, and you would be surprised how many girls just talk to you if you don't approach in a too creepy way.
2019-11-20 17:32
#197
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Finland KieZuZ 
Part of me becomes a stone also when I see good looking woman.
2019-11-20 17:32
my cousin hes a good lookin lad even girls come talk to him and he mostly just fucks it up within 5 minute. its shocking, such a good looking cunt approached by girls everytime when we go out and just mentally handicapped. and they say if ur good lookin ur less socially awkward.
2019-11-20 17:33
Im your cousin wtf
2019-11-20 18:04
#203
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Brazil 1stworlder 
Yeah but he said the good looking one(((
2019-11-20 18:19
now i see :(
2019-11-20 21:01
#205
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Belgium therealV1c 
u litterally have to talk to them normally i had same problem but u will enjoy urself way more if u just do it
2019-11-20 18:37
Just fuckin ask her: Do you like me? and if she says no, then it means that she likes you and ask her out or ask for oral. If she says YES, then ask her out or ask anal. Just fuckin ask or some other boy is going to take her
2019-11-20 18:40
lol you poor poor soul
2019-11-20 19:22
Pee on her to show dominance
2019-11-20 19:23
if you crack jokes like "go back to the kitchen" dont even bother, old & boring joke by now
2019-11-20 19:23
Nie startuj nawet, dziewczyny nie sraja
2019-11-20 21:04
oh wait, is it a female girl?
2019-11-21 11:00
#231
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New Zealand is_love 
>When I see a girl I become a stone Bro stop looking at Medusa.
2019-11-23 05:52
Same problem here, pal, they're my kryptonite, always fear I might do something wrong when I'm around a female immediately. Every sort of communication helps, even if you speak about a school subject, about something that's funny, hobbies, etc. It just comes with more and more talk, I intend to make this a daily goal and overcome one of my biggest fears!
2019-11-25 18:59
#241
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Brazil millerjmatos 
No fap
2019-11-25 19:09
learn it, its easy to learn. like csgo play 10.000 hours and u will be good. worstcase she ignores u and walks further. bestcase, u get a date, a girlfriend, sexytime
2019-11-25 19:19
You need booze.
2019-11-25 21:16
my penis becomes a stone too
2019-11-25 21:17
#255
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United States theory^ 
I used to be shy aswell, grew out of it
2019-11-26 01:36
Don’t force anything, let it be natural
2019-11-26 01:46
OMEGALUL CLEARLY A VIRGIN
2019-11-26 02:03
#258
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Morocco KH4L1D 
not gonnna lie polish grills are hot af
2019-11-26 02:19
Rape them.
2019-11-26 02:26
#260
jOELZ | 
Finland ZAPAANS 
wait years and socialize with other people
2019-11-26 02:42
Just talk, girls are also stressed, it's no wonder but as a boy you have to take the initiative, remember not to show stress, be confident and funny do not pretend anyone and do not make a jester.
2019-11-26 14:07
join a fkn club or something, ask their name, whats up, start with small talk then go from there. ez
2019-11-26 14:07
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