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loneliness
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India l3thality 
I've been dealing with loner issues for 3 years, and I still can't figure a way out of it. Read books, saw videos and talked to friends about it. Nothing worked. It's easier said than done, to be able to socialize freely after years of solitude. Can you guys suggest some ways to snap out of it? Pls no trolling and baiting. Thank you
2020-02-19 15:50
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#1
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Korea XigNw0w 
2020-02-19 15:51
#8
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India l3thality 
thanks, but I've already seen it. It recommended me 'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo which had a scientific approach, which didn't fully help. I would've preferred more colloquial advice.
2020-02-19 15:55
how can i suggest when u wrote literally nothing, do u have mental illness or smthng?
2020-02-19 15:52
#12
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India l3thality 
sorry, just thought of adding more about my situation, but fuck, it's too late. Well 3 years ago I asked my crush out, and I was given the worst answer possible, which was "I'm already with someone" Ever since then I just shut close all of my social doors But now it's starting to hurt and I'm having anger issues, getting less sleep, lost a lot of weight and I became very sensitive (crying for the silliest reasons possible)
2020-02-19 16:01
#25
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
Rofl, so much care bout random slut, expected from india
2020-02-19 16:14
#31
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India l3thality 
well dude my self-esteem was high until then I've talked to her for a lot of time, got to know her, helped her in rough times, and when I get an answer like that I'll obviously think life is unfair to me She said we can be friends, but we talk like fucking once a month
2020-02-19 16:18
#34
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
There is no thing such as self esteem. No high no low. Ur mind fucks u up, thats a problem. Not self esteem
2020-02-19 16:20
#29
Rich | 
North America Gumdrop 
How is that the worst answer
2020-02-19 16:16
#32
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India l3thality 
#31
2020-02-19 16:18
bruh I thought you faced something serious in your life that led you to loneliness. turns out it is an unsuccesful love story. btw why "I'm already with someone" is the worst answer? If it's a lie - OK, not good. But if she's in a relationship with someone, what else can she say? There is no reason to act like that because of a girl. Maybe it's a little bit rough answer but I wish you all the best.
2020-02-19 16:50
#64
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India l3thality 
i just stopped social contact for a week or two, but I just put myself into prolonged loneliness.
2020-02-19 17:14
#4
Aleksib | 
Europe Niko0 
There is non. Just get used to it.
2020-02-19 15:52
#15
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India l3thality 
I was used to being alone for a lot of time, the hell I wasn't even aware of it until recently! The mental repercussions are starting to hit me hard lately
2020-02-19 16:04
#6
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United States TrashPanda 
Personally enjoy my solitude. But then again I work around people all day, have kids and a wife. Loneliness likely isn’t your issue. You likely don’t have hobbies and have something productive to do and likely just think about how you’re lonely. Find some hobbies and you’ll likely meet other people that like the same shit you do. Go to an MMA gym, start collecting something, etc.
2020-02-19 15:54
#13
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India l3thality 
I try to keep myself as occupied as possible, but in the process of doing them, my mind is suddenly drawn to my social issues and I can't stop thinking about how life has been unfair to me #12 for more on my issue I sometimes love being alone but at some point, you will long for social interaction.
2020-02-19 16:03
#9
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Europe _EpiC_ 
cry is free
2020-02-19 15:56
stfu
2020-02-19 16:00
#14
LaimB | 
Lithuania Martis 
The more you socialize, the easier it becomes. I stepped out from my comfort zone and now it's much easier for me
2020-02-19 16:03
#17
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India l3thality 
I agree with what you said, but it's strange in my case. I long for company sometimes, and sometimes for solitude.
2020-02-19 16:06
You need a hobby, passion for something. without purpose or goal you will always feel like something is missing.
2020-02-19 16:05
#19
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India l3thality 
I do nature photography, and vector art apart from daily work When bored I even practice the drums with the help of some old charts #13
2020-02-19 16:09
#18
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Indonesia JoSuaLB 
If everything can't work just enjoy the loneliness by your own way don't take it as problem but as opportunity to know yourself better until you ready to have social life again
2020-02-19 16:06
#24
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India l3thality 
I found new interests lying inside of me when I was alone. To be honest, I sometimes enjoyed my lonely times, but right now it's too much for me to handle. Just quoting John Cacioppo here, "Loneliness is similar to hunger. You feel hungry when your body says it needs food, and you feel lonely when your body needs social interaction"
2020-02-19 16:12
#57
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Indonesia JoSuaLB 
I know Everyone can feeling lonely but do not sink too much in loneliness and it is up to you you are gonna get up or sink way much deeper. I suggest go get up and conquer your loneliness and stay positive by enjoying socializing with good friend and other
2020-02-19 16:37
If nothing is helping u ask for help a psychologist there is no shame. U might get the help you need or get meds that Will help u deal with anything whats going On in ur head hltv cant really help you since we dont and never Will know you. We know as much as you want to tell us which is nothing
2020-02-19 16:09
#26
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India l3thality 
I'm a little afraid of going and meeting a psychologist, it makes me look like a mentally ill person, which I don't like being referred to. I'm trying all the other ways for help, like reaching out to people on HLTV.
2020-02-19 16:14
#43
Rich | 
North America Gumdrop 
No don’t reach out to retards on HLTV for social advice. If you’re not ready to meet a therapist in person yet you can do it online. There are many websites with approved therapists. Also a lot of people go to therapists. I believe you have that own image painted in your head that only mentally ill people go to therapists. I’ve known many people that have struggled with loneliness and addictions who sought out to therapists and it was probably the best thing that could have happened to them.
2020-02-19 16:23
#49
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India l3thality 
will try online, and will try to force myself to consult one in person if possible Thank you for your kind words
2020-02-19 16:26
Visiting a psychologist is like Talking with ur best friend. The psychologist cant tell anybody whats wrong with you So ur secrets are safe. First sesions might be hard but then it get alot better. Also why would u think that visiting a specialist would make u look like ill person? By that logic drinking alcohol makes u alcoholics drug addics etc but you know that it isnt True and it is the only thing that matter. Ur real friends would support that decision, real friends are always with you and they want whats Best for you, fuck the strangers and what they are thinking
2020-02-19 16:24
#21
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Brazil Corot1nho 
Look if you feel like its complicated and you cant do it all on your own,better go get help,a therapist can guide you to deal with your problems and help you deal with whatever hurted you. All it takes is to be open and honest with them,take your time also,dont rush it and be patient with the treatment and even medication.
2020-02-19 16:10
#22
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United States sorcrcrc 
stop complaining and acting like its a problem, its not
2020-02-19 16:11
#27
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India l3thality 
well, I told this to myself until recently, when the issues actually started to meddle with my daily life.
2020-02-19 16:15
#23
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United States HLTV_RUNNER 
The only known PROVEN way to get rid of loneliness is to find a gf. Having a passion/hobby may not always net you some friends, and if no one cares about your purpose or goals, why bother? We all want some form of validation from others for the work we put in, and having a gf is the ONLY surefire way to get some.
2020-02-19 16:12
#28
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India l3thality 
can't get a gf :( #12 my self-esteem is non existent to go look for a gf
2020-02-19 16:16
#30
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
There is billions of people and this retards talking bout loneliness kek. U never alone, NEVER. BILLIONS OF PEOPLE AROUND U ANY SECOND OF UR LIFE
2020-02-19 16:17
#36
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India l3thality 
dude Only thousands are there who are willing to patiently talk to me and solve my problems, not considering rude people like you
2020-02-19 16:20
#39
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
There is no problems
2020-02-19 16:21
#37
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United States HLTV_RUNNER 
ok? who cares if they never talk or interact with you? who cares if any form of interaction between you is always transactional? if you've never been in their shoes, you don't get to tell them how they should feel.
2020-02-19 16:21
#41
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India l3thality 
+1 people who are not lonely perceive differently of loneliness, compared to those who are
2020-02-19 16:22
#47
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
Believe in that more
2020-02-19 16:24
#44
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
If they dont wanna talk to u bour ur anime or ur waifu from anime or another weird shit u r into, doesnt mean u r alone. U can talk to anyone U can go to stranger and say that u love cheese. U can talk with anyone about anything. But u scared pussy u just afraid that people can thought u r weirdo, thats it
2020-02-19 16:24
#52
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United States HLTV_RUNNER 
No, you can't talk to everyone about anything. No one cares about what you talk about unless they have a shared interest in it. No one IRL wants to have a conversation about CS:GO, gaming, esports, etc. The more niche your interests are, the harder it is to find someone IRL who have the same interests, which means its harder for you to find friends. The harder it is for you to find friends, the less you relate to people, and finding friends becomes even more difficult. The thing is, people will already have the preconceived notion that you are weird if you have niche interests. So most of those people won't really want to talk to you anyway and will avoid any form of social interaction with you.
2020-02-19 16:33
#65
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
I was always thinking that americans r stupid but it seems like its not a thing. U right, dunno what i was talkin bout, i agree with u :)
2020-02-19 17:25
#48
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
Never been? How do u know bout that? Nostradamus?
2020-02-19 16:25
#38
jks | 
Switzerland cykalater 
u never felt love did you?
2020-02-19 16:21
#40
f0rest | 
Russia 1.6 FTW 
I feel love every second of my life
2020-02-19 16:30
#33
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Poland Feym 
What;s your problem mate?
2020-02-19 16:18
#35
jks | 
Switzerland cykalater 
get yourself a cat. get yourself a motorbike. go to a club, play football or something. the harder you try, the more u gonna get hurt. just do things you like, and the people who deserve you, will come. always forward
2020-02-19 16:20
#42
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India l3thality 
agree but what should I do when I'm struggling to get such thoughts out of my mind while doing what I love?
2020-02-19 16:23
#50
jks | 
Switzerland cykalater 
then ask yourself if its really the right thing ur doing. a.e if i'm doing what i love, i feel passion and i'm focused on what i'm doing. theres no room for other thoughts in this moment. just go on and don't worry too much.
2020-02-19 16:27
The only solution to loneliness is family. Believe me. Friends or girlfriend can't be a cure to your feelings. If you don't have mother/father, you should marry. You will see the interesting and big difference between girlfriend and wife.
2020-02-19 16:24
#51
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India l3thality 
Don't have a great connection with mother and father, so I never approached them when it comes to such issues I'm 25 and thinking of marriage now is almost impossible in this superstitious society
2020-02-19 16:30
Then you should believe your god. Otherwise, your emptiness will be delayed, but not gonna fix. Because after you enjoy gf, hobbies etc, when you done every perfect thing in this world, you will definetely feel empty again, saying "This shouldn't be the purpose of this world..."
2020-02-19 16:36
#58
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India l3thality 
The religious faith in my country is too hard to believe. Over a thousand fucking gods, ridiculous rituals, and whatnot. I read about other faiths like Christianity and Islam but I found them to also be hard to believe.
2020-02-19 16:39
#55
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United States HLTV_RUNNER 
+1 I'm not close with most of my family members, but sometimes I feel blessed to have a brother who will play the same games I do and watch the same things I do, none of my friends play CS:GO or watch esports
2020-02-19 16:39
getting to know new people is pretty easy. find some hobbies and u will meet new people in max 1 or 2 weeks.
2020-02-19 16:34
#60
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India l3thality 
nice gives me eurodance vibes
2020-02-19 16:41
#59
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Portugal SAg0N 
if you're dealing with a mental illness (depression), you should go to a doctor. My personal opinion? Find something you truly love in life (CS, some sport, movies, music, etc) and find or make a small group to share that love, you'll find yourself much better and less lonely then
2020-02-19 16:40
95% u will ignore all those suggestions anyway, so, but...at first stop overthinking, at second like many people said already, find hobby or something u can spend time together with other people. third u always can find someone in internet, badoo, tinder, chatroulette and etc...u probably always can find some people which love travelling and just go in road trip with them or just one person...u always can reach old high school/college friends or friends from childhood....and etc. Or like other people said already, go to doctor and get professional help, we just can offer simple suggestion probably :D
2020-02-19 16:50
#67
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India l3thality 
I'm trying my best at reconnecting socially Thank you very much for the kind words!
2020-02-20 16:43
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