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I think the most shocking part is seeing your #1 person in the entire world become a stranger in a matter of minutes
actually true
💔fuck
yeah mens when you have to put down a dog it does hurt. they were with you mens for the ride
What’s extremely painful for me is going to sleep thinking I could forget everything and thinking I don’t need to think about it only to wake up and all the pain come back and be sad all over again
I feel you man, I still love her so I’m trying to fight these feelings it’s really hard for me to accept that we’re not getting back together, but that needs to be the first step to forget her, thanks for the kind words
Why did it end?
She didn’t even give me a normal answer but what I could understand is that I didn’t give her the attention she wanted and she wanted to do more stuff with me etc. After that I told her that I want to change and that I would fix everything but i guess it was too late, i will still love her forever but I guess our road ends here
Sorry to hear that man. Keep the head up, occupy your mind with activities and friends, become better, all will be good again.
Thanks this means alot to me!!
Almost the same situation here I feel you and I’m sorry to her that, this is one of the worst feelings but we need to stay strong and focus on ourself, i’m just hoping the time would pass by faster so the pain goes away
Sometimes I'm diving even deeper into my loneliness. Listening slow sad music to accept my feels instead of running away from them. I'm trying to realize and proccess everything and it's so fucking hard to accept my reality without her. But i found that self-improvement helps to take it easy. I mean not in video games or hobbies, but be a better person. Watching psychology or philosophy videos/movies and it calms me.
Highly recommend "Waking Life" movie. So much reflection around that and it's a kind of movie that would change your life or your own worldview. Also it's relaxing :)
I wish you to stay with people that loves you, your friends. Stay strong my man but sometimes it's okay to be weak and show your weaknesses to relative minds or people
It’s so hard to accept my reality without her, thats true, couldn’t explain it better. I feel so empty without her and every part of my life feels so depressing to be everything is depressing in my eyes right now, The pain is so bad that I can’t really listen to any sad songs rn.
I had so many things that I enjoyed to do when I was in that relationship, now everything I do seems meaningless and I don’t enjoy anything I can’t smile I can just wake up cry go to work come back home and cry again and repeat everything, Before going to sleep I always think that tomorrow will be littlebit better but I wake up and all the pain and memories come back and I’m depressed and feeling like shit right after waking up.
I feel like this will end maybe in weeks maybe in months but i just need to stay strong I just need to have motivation to accept this, get over her and try to get over my feelings for her, good luck to you and to me man! Hard life situation but what can you do!
(Btw I abandoned my pc and started to listen to podcasts)
I’m glad you found something that you can focus on, I’m still searching
bruh, everything she said are stupid excuses(not an actual reason), don't even bother your head with what she was thinking, girls in that age are impulsive and thinking with their boobs. Give yourself some time (2-4 weeks) and try new relationships that will be helpful for you, and dont even think to come back if she wants!! its a pussy way, everything will end the same way.
And btw, shocking period is between 1-2 weeks, after that you decide and create your mood. so i highly recommend you to stay positive, only you decide to be positive or negative and destructive. Give ur self 2 weeks, and find a new girlfriend, even if you dont have strong feelings for her. Just give it a try and feel positive about something new. Otherwise you will die in depression.
Yeah I can tell this depression is actually killing me from inside, I’m really trying to be positive but it’s just not possible with this feeling, I think I just need to wait and fight this! i need like a week or two and everything will get better, thanks!
man watch his videos, he help me alot when i get this shit
its russians but u can watch it with translate sub
youtube.com/channel/UC44oy3QadzoUZt7G0DD..
I’m half finn half russian so I will understand it! Thanks
The most important thing is to NOT contact her. You will have very bad days where you feel absolutely tempted out of pure misery, but contacting them It's the worst mistake, once they clearly tell you that It's over, there's nothing to do and in any case after that in a really short period of time they start hating you in the sense that you will just be annoying more than anything and the replies will be devastating for you.
Stay strong and like the other guy said, accept that It is over, cry everything you have to cry, be sad, but put effort into doing stuff that makes you not think about It, do exercise (helps a lot) and go out with friends even if you don't feel like doing It and eventually you will have one day where you just wake up and you feel good again.
Holy shit that’s exactly what happened to me i was trying to get her back by texting her but we just talked about the same things over and over untill she got annoyed and started talking to me like how I wouldn’t expect her to talk in that kind of situation, i blocked her everywhere and now I’m ready to leave her alone and get over this, thanks for nice advice and support, this is still really painful even tho 6days have passed but I’m pretty sure ill be ok, just need to wait and try to fight this!
the #1 person in the entire world (and hltv news threads) is always a german
Everything checks out.
Nt i have 2 #1 in news
nt jerman
I’ve been hearing the same thing from my family and my friends that I can’t just sit at home depressed and cry, My plan is to take 2 days off and do nothing because I’m physically and mentally unable to do anything right now but after these 2 days I will go back to work, go to the gym, meetup with my friends and things like that to try and forget this girl
Thanks man
+1. Nice to see some wholesomeness on HLTV
what
Don't let that demoralize you , otherwise you're fucked , find someone else who you can love and who will love you
Thanks for the advice but I can’t do anything with any other girl right now even if I really wanted to I just can’t.
Worst of all is, mine works at my job. I have to face her every day.
If you still loved her after the break up, it must have been like hell, I can’t even imagine how horrible that feeling would be to watch her everyday at work knowing you can’t get back together
Still love her. It's her that deceided things can't work out between us.
Deceided to quit my job and go travel for 6 months in april.
That’s a bold and brave move, Without her I view the rest of my life with sadness and depression I can’t even think about going anywhere Everything seems so depressing so you’re really brave for travelling spree for 6 months good job man..
Listen up my man, take a trip down memory lane, a nostalgic backtrack, flashback; whatever you think'll do!
What was life like before you met her? I'm sure you had great times and the depressive thoughts were much further away. None can neglect, that heartbreak is unforgiving on the soul, yet accepting is the first step. I'm not gonna sit here and say "there's plenty of fish in the sea" or some other cliché quote, as she could've been really "special" - but take it as an experience.
I'm sure you'll find similar joy and happiness just around the corner my man! Keep your head up high!
Really wise words thank you but right now it feels like my life before her was meaningless even tho deep down inside I know that’s not the case I just feel so lonely without her even tho I have family and friends
Had same story with my ex. We started dating shortly after she joined my team, and broke up 8 months later both loving the team. My leads asked us both whether I want her to change the project and if she wants that. We both agreed and she moved to another team a few days later.
Still hurts to see her around in the company.
Wow.. that must have felt like hell
There was a girl in the high school that i loved like i havent loved anyone in my entire life. One day I finally picked up the courage to invite her to go out somewhere. She declined me with an excuse, which sounded something like: "i am too young and immature for a relationship". Guess what? She started going out with my classmate 2 months later. So, since we are studying in the same class, I had to watch them hanging out together for 2 years straight.
The worst part was that before my invitation I thought that she liked me too. That I finally found a person who needed me, who would support and understand me. Turned out to be not so true.
And yeah, I also got her as my partner for the graduation ball. Randomly. LUL
We deep deep out here
Im sure things are different when dating 11yo girls.
Yes, I guess you have to deal with their parents...
I think that's what he talks about in #17
I know I know I just can’t think like that right now..
When our relationship was fine, I was sometimes thinking about what if we broke up, I would love to stay as friends with her because shes so fun and I love everything about her, but now that we broke up I realized that it just wouldn’t be possible because I still love her, if we stayed as friends I couldn’t get over her or stop thinking about her, it’s just too much for me I’d rather try to forget her as soon as possible I didn’t know the pain would be this huge
Imagine the person you trust and love more than anything the person you thought believed in the relationship, gave you hope and cured you from every bad feeling, tells you that this is not going to work, that this is the end, this is not going to cointinue and we’re never getting back together
I'm in a 5 year relationship rn so i guess i could imagine how it would feel, then again if we are to separate i think we'll just laugh it off since we've been friends for a really long time.
It must be rough on you though, how long were you together? if you don't mind me asking.
For 2 years, i’m only 21 years old so I guess this just teaches me a lot
nah its just normal and typical girls nowadays . shy girls are the best loyal being and yeah grrrrrrrrr
It's painful. Broke up with gf last night. She truly loved me, but after 3.5 months together I realized that we won't make together in a long term, had to end it now not to make it critical in the future. I know her pain because I've been broken up with before, but I can't do anything to make her feel better and it's killing me, knowing she will suffer for a decent period of time.
Today is a bad fucking day, never meant to hurt anybody this much in my life.
Exactly that happened to me, she said that she still loves me but we wont make it in a long term relationship, I feel for you and for her, that’s really sad
I broke up with my gf 2weeks ago its sucks, but what can you do to prevent pain nothing. It hits bad after first week when you realize that she's not coming back, but I built a mindset to do what keeps me happy, friends, a perfect job in the future, fam, success in my career. It still hurts everyday but i'm much better now. Listen to music you like, do what you like. There is some good things that changed in the process. I've become much more caring about others and I'm more motivated about the future of my life. The one will show up when its time with that mindset the hope isn't lost. She's will be even more awesome person. It's hard to accept just after break up, but there will be the one that truly gives you love like you give him/her.
I’m sorry to hear that but yes I need to focus on myself and my family, it’s just really hard right now
I can't relate but it must be painful af.
So many weak people here holy fuck. If you can't get over a relationship then you are not ready for one.
Everyone will eventually get over a relationship, I just need a quick solution to forget her because I can’t deal with this pain for too long it’s not impossible but it just sucks a lot so I wanted to ask if theres people who know how to deal with this.
I know this feeling, time will heal. Just get 1 who is hotter it helps and dont write or respond to her sms.
So depressed, 6 days have passed and I’m still thinking about her 24/7 even tho i don’t have anything that reminds me of her, nothing actually helps
What did you do those 6 days? Any activities?
Also it will probably take at least 2 weeks for it to become less and months to get to a point of 0 pain
Never been in a relationship or been dumbed, ez for me I guess
You’re lucky but even tho I wouldn’t wish this for anybody, I think everyone has to experience something like this, this teached me a lot even tho I hate this.
I’m only 21, i’ve never cared about or loved anyone this much, she was the one and I sill love her that’s why this is so hard for me and just talking about it helps me a little bit, these 6 days have been pure hell so this is one of my escapes
Exactly, I know I’m weak because I’m crying about my personal problems on hltv and I know I’m weak because I can’t just let her go but this is something new and unexpected to me I didn’t know loving someone this much would hurt also this much
Time will heal the wounds bro
Yeah I know but knowing that does not help sadly.. but its ok<3
I’m sorry to her that but that’s the right way to do stuff, it’s smart to just slow down things soon enough
That must hurt you a lot mentally, sound like torture
So many poor victims of an instinct LMAO
Do you know zywoo? how did he become a stranger to you
Lol you will understand this sooner or later
i have this thing allways on mind "i m too smart to fall in love" love is just pain at the end
i dont date
cute girls with good personalities have asked me out
ill never have gf trust me
i consider my self as asexual
i will have sex for sure at some point but i dont want to stick with anyone or have relation ship
ill do it just to know what people talk about
17
ive had one i left her
Grills big nono for me
hell no :D
as i said i enjoy being alone more
what you get for having girl friend? school work etc will be damaged you need to spend time for stupid shit spend money on that bitch etc. and you get? feeling somebody likes you and is there for you. like idgaf if somebody is there or not i will spend time with broes
i rather have nice time with male friends playing or drinking or having fun and you can talk deep think with male friends too
can typed wrong and also i have worked long time for mcdonnalds i get my money and make my self hapier with it than being with girl
well some peopels not me i m wingman to my homies
NiP :( rigoN :(
+1. its so terrible, can be really hard to let go too. Sadly people change or want different things or whatever. Love can hurt so much. GL bro keep fighting
Exactly, she changed I stayed the same and that’s why I still love her and she does not love me back anymore, and thats why it’s really hard for me to let go, thanks for the kind words!
Its okay im sure youve heard all the advice under the sun here before. So just keep strong and know the pain does go away.
Yeah thanks! These comments is an ok escape from reality for me right now so these help me when I read them!
+1 been through a similar thing before too, the thread, reading and answering and stuff helped a lot for me too.
I actually have done the same that u for 6 months, after that, we was together again, months latter we broke up again, but the worse was that was told to me that she (between our 1st break up and the moment we went to be together again) took another 6 relationship (in a space of time of 6 months). Then, after our 2nd (and last) break up she was already dating another, so, man, i must tell ya: dont be like i was for 6 months cuz, right now, im feeling idiot as hell, please, dont cry for woman, if she doesnt want, then dont be like me, dont be an idiot like me
+1 this
just get together with your homies and light up a j
Weed actually helps me with the depression, I don’t get happy or excited anymore because of this break up but weed helps a bit, I still think about the relationship when I’m high so it does not help with that
Really deep
true is so weird my man
Thanks man reading these nice comments helps me
Just drink or do drugs wtf
It's the worst, going through the same rn, seeing 3 years go down the drain for no apparent reason (and she broke up with me via text WTF ) i really cant understand what is happening
Exactly same here man and I’m really sorry to hear that.. hope you’re well because I know this pain is fucking awful, I would rather break my hand or something to get this feeling away
Still hurts man, id take her back in a blink of an eye, but my friends say that i shouldnt bc of the way she (DIDNT) manage this whole thing.
But things will be better eventually and we have to focus on healing mens))
This isnt the endgame
I have but I just moved so they’re all in my hometown so I’m fighting this all alone.
You must be a pretty hapless fool to get attached to someone so intimately that you react this way after they dump you. If this person had the same feelings or was a good object for those feelings you wouldn't of been dumped so abruptly
bitches be crazy, man
think you know em but nah
Of course I’m as intimately attached to my gf as I can be? Shes the one I wanted to spend at least most of my life shes the one I trusted and loved the most.
doesnt even have to be lover, friends can fuck u like this too(
Yeah man anybody you’re really attached to
No I’m depressed
Update:
I’m not going to post the text here because it’s in finnish but I texted her, I just couldn’t resist myself and I didn’t want to end this all on a bad note.
I texted her a really long message about what she teached me with this break up and the relationship, I told her how I can finally change and be a better person thanks to her and this shit that she put me through, because of her I’m not going to make the same mistakes in my future relationship, so even tho she broke me down, I still appriciate that she put me through this awful experience but better sooner than later. Now I can change for the better and start te journey to find my true self, thanks to her. I think this is the best move to get over her
She replied with a heart, I really want to text her more because I feel better by texting her but I know this needs to be my last message to her
I think I will start paying for a therapist because I just moved away from my hometown so I don’t have anyone to open up to, she left me at my worst times
I just got out of a three year relationship. It hurts man. It does. See if you can wait just some days before rushing into a therapy session because it costs alot and time heal wounds. You will feel better soon. Instead of paying therapy. Go out and find new hobbies for the money.
7 days have passed and I still feel like shit, nothing actually takes the pain away and nothing decreases it, today is the first day I’m going to the gym after work so will see if I can not think about her there, I think I will do this without a therapist but I felt so lonely that I started thinking about that, thanks
Hit me up on steam if you want to release some thougts!
steamcommunity.com/id/VaktMaestarNN/
When you finally realize she is not the one, but deep down, you really wanted her to be.
I was begging for her to stay with me, she was the one who broke up with me so it does not feel like her loss, it’s definitely mine.
I know I didn’t know how bad this hurts in the past but I feel like an idiot because when my friends were going through a breakup I didn’t take care of them, I didn’t help them, but now when I experience this I’m seeking for pity, I’m waiting for my friends to help me go through this and then I’m surprised when I don’t get any help and now I’m fighting this all alone
I feel you bro it has to be really hard to be in this situation but trust me it will go away with time try to do activities you like and chill with your friends and if you need help just make a thread or reply this im here for you if you need anything. I know this feeling is very complicated. Losing someone you love isnt a easy thing. But missing someone means that you loved someone. And not everybody gets a chance to love someone.
Thank you so much, I’m trying my best!:(
No problem bro. Hltv is always here for you
Good luck on this hard thing and if you need anything hit me up please
If only there was a cure for this daily anxiety, I didn’t have this before the breakup now everything seems depressing and pointless, wtf is happening in my mind right now?
I realized that of course I can live without her, of course I can vointinue my life without her, I was not the one for her BUT I miss her so much.. I want to talk to her I want to see her I want to touch her I miss that so much, almost every night I dream about her, All the time I’m thinking that what would I say if I saw her face to face, I think that i’d just say that I miss her
She was special for me I think she is the only one like that I think I’m never going to find anybody like her she was everything to me even tho I know that’s not actually true and theres ”plenty of fish in the sea” I still miss her so much and I think I’m not going to find anybody as good as her
Bulllshit. Take it from me. Had a lot of relationsships and girls. I've been there. Thinking I would not find the one again. I did, and she was better. And then I did it again. Stop being a softboi.
IMPROVE yourself and STOP thinking about her. Get shredded, get rich, get better social skills.
There's only 1 way and that's forward. Best way to get over her is to get under someone else.
I’ve had many relationships but this was the longest one and at the start of this relationship I was not sure if I want it or if it’s going to work but she promised alot to me and I believed her, then I got attached to her and I was so much in love that I didn’t care about anything or anyone else, it was my first actually long relationship, after all those amazing days what I got to spend with her she broke up with me, my point is that i’ve never loved anybody this much and I never cared for anybody this much except my mother.
I cried for 3 days straight after she broke up with me I lost all my hope in this life everything is so depressing and sad without her but now I started to go to the gym, I started connecting with my friends a lot more and I take care of myself more, the thing is that I feel a little better at least physically but I still can’t let her go because I got so attached to her, I still miss her so much I didn’t miss any of my other ex girlfriends this much
I have never been so sure abput amybody before her, she was the one for me, never had gf as amazing as she was, shes something so special, and I think ill never find one like her, she did understand me but I could not keep her
Nah, there will be another as good if your improve.
But you have to learn about women and relationships.
And you learnt from this. You can't be with a girl if you don't have the heavy experience.
Because you're fat :)
Going through that right now.. The pain is real. :) Haven't felt so sick in a while.
Yeah man I understand this so much, I donmt think i’ve ever felt this lost, sad and lonely on my whole life, the mental pain was so bad that it turned into physical pain too, I hope you will get better cheers
Same shit here bro. Friends tried to cheer me up, but I keep waking up feeling like shit and lonely. Stay strong man.
I think nobody can help us, I think only me, I can help myself and only you can help yourself, but this is so hard, it feels like an impossible task to get over her and cointinue life and actually enjoy life without her but I believe in us. I’m afraid of lonelyness and I’m afraid that I will give up. You too man stay strong and believe in yourself
<3
This spoke to me a lot tbh. I went through a really bad breakup 2.5 years ago and I can’t say I’m completely over it. I had to move back to Japan and things were okay for a few months and out of the blue she said she needed to talk, and it ended just like that. We dated for a year and a half, it was totally unexpected and we were young (I still am now) so it hurt a ton since I was so naive and believed she was “the one”. In a matter of days some people who I didn’t even talk to regularly were asking if we’d broken up because it was obvious to everyone that she was flirting with this new guy. I understood feelings could change but it all hit me like a rock and the breakup was over a Skype call so it really tore me apart. I can’t give you much advice about how to deal with the pain but I can definitely say that over time it gets better. When people told me that, I couldn’t believe it at all and it’s only now, or a few months prior that I’ve been able to start saying this. I haven’t been with anyone else since, haven’t changed anything significantly in my life, I’ve just lived it like I always have but despite that, I’ve felt myself slowly healing. It takes time but it will get better.
Make sure you don’t shut out your close friends while you’re going through this. Because of how my breakup went I’ve got a lot of issues still to this day (confidence, trust, optimism etc) but some of my friends have really helped me get through these past couple of years.
I was on and off with her for a few months even after we broke up because I asked her to stay, since I didn’t think I’d be able to get through the pain. It didn’t help me in the long run (it felt like the best decision at the time though) and it ended disappointingly since I found out that she only started talking to me more because her interest in the guy was over, and she started talking to me less when she caught feelings for another guy. I blocked her after a short conversation and it’s felt a lot better since. I don’t know what’s best for you but for me, shutting her out was easily the best thing I did to help myself recover. I’m pretty busy with studies and I don’t have any romantic interest in anyone but I’ve felt more satisfied with who I am as of late.
Hopefully it doesn’t take you too long to feel better. However long it takes, time will heal. I’m sure therapy can be a solution too. Keep fighting man. Try not to let it affect how you view yourself, and go on with life. Good luck!
Sorry man forgot to reply while reading all these nice comments.. i didn’t go to therapy because I noticed that time is actually healing this but I still have a long way to go
Your story is almost like mine, big up to you
Update
I started using tinder
understandable @OP
thats why you fight fire with fire, and make sure the person who got so much love and attention from you for the past years, becomes a usable and replaceable cunt that you CAN and WILL replace like a condom, in a matter of minutes ;)
never let a bitch have the emotional upper hand on you, life-lesson kids.
FeelsBadMan
Yes man
let it all out
the best solution is just let things go through and stop trying to be better or forget about her
once you stop trying, you'll realize you're over it for a long time by then
it will get a lot worse before it gets better, but it will get better
cheers
I stopped trying and it actually helps with getting over her, I still think about her daily but now that I lost all hope in getting back together I feel much better, thanks!!
Relationships really are a rollercoaster sometimes.
Oddly, it's a nice change of pace to see everyone talking about emotions without being judgmental, memey or trolling for the most part in this thread.
I also relate, 6 year relationship I'm still getting over and I'm not willing to put any of the emotional and mental fallout onto another person until that shit goes away. And there was and is a ton.
6 years wow.. and yeah this has been a really long rollercoaster ride for me, it’s getting better tho, But I can’t even imagine how you feel from breaking up after 6 years
I don't know if you will ever read this, but...
Yeah, my friend, I completely understand you. Sad thing is, that, many people will never get over a person in their entire lives and they will be ruined for ever (my case).
I have to tell one thing tho: nothing reminds you more of a thing than the desire to forget it.
Wish you all the best.
Yeah that’s sadly true, not crying over her anymore but I still think about her everyday, I see dreams about her every other day, it’s painful, but finally I’m starting to get better, need more time, thanks and same to you man!
That’s what I did everyday first 2 weeks, after that I tried to convince myself that she don’t want me back and we’re not getting together, it was hard but it helped me alot, still think about her everyday but at least I don’t want to harm myself or blame myself anymore, I’m still trying to find myself!
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