One of the worst pains.. Whole world flipped upside down in one sentence.
:x
2020-02-22 13:52
It's hard but don't let it bum you out to much.
You have to work against it.If all you do is sit at home , eat and cry you might develope depression and that's not something you want.
2020-02-22 14:10
Don't let that demoralize you , otherwise you're fucked , find someone else who you can love and who will love you
2020-02-22 14:13
Worst of all is, mine works at my job. I have to face her every day.
2020-02-22 14:13
Maybe dont cry because it's gone, smile because it happened.
2020-02-22 14:22
I mean, why couldn't you just stay as friends and don't build walls up?
2020-02-22 14:29
ik that feeling, but whats the point of wasting energy on people who deserve it? dont let one person determine your happiness, keep your head held high and keep going
2020-02-22 14:29
nah its just normal and typical girls nowadays . shy girls are the best loyal being and yeah grrrrrrrrr
2020-02-22 14:35
It's painful. Broke up with gf last night. She truly loved me, but after 3.5 months together I realized that we won't make together in a long term, had to end it now not to make it critical in the future. I know her pain because I've been broken up with before, but I can't do anything to make her feel better and it's killing me, knowing she will suffer for a decent period of time.
Today is a bad fucking day, never meant to hurt anybody this much in my life.
2020-02-22 14:48
Just realise it was never your girl it was just your turn nibba
2020-02-22 14:58
I broke up with my gf 2weeks ago its sucks, but what can you do to prevent pain nothing. It hits bad after first week when you realize that she's not coming back, but I built a mindset to do what keeps me happy, friends, a perfect job in the future, fam, success in my career. It still hurts everyday but i'm much better now. Listen to music you like, do what you like. There is some good things that changed in the process. I've become much more caring about others and I'm more motivated about the future of my life. The one will show up when its time with that mindset the hope isn't lost. She's will be even more awesome person. It's hard to accept just after break up, but there will be the one that truly gives you love like you give him/her.
2020-02-22 15:01
I can't relate but it must be painful af.
2020-02-22 15:02
So many weak people here holy fuck. If you can't get over a relationship then you are not ready for one.
2020-02-22 16:37
dat sucks for now but time heals, sometimes you have to leave somethings to be able to receive better things
2020-02-23 00:51
I know this feeling, time will heal. Just get 1 who is hotter it helps and dont write or respond to her sms.
2020-02-23 01:13
So depressed, 6 days have passed and I’m still thinking about her 24/7 even tho i don’t have anything that reminds me of her, nothing actually helps
2020-02-24 10:14
Never been in a relationship or been dumbed, ez for me I guess
2020-02-24 10:19
''seeing your [insert anyone you care for] person in the entire world become a stranger in a matter of minutes''
life in a nutshell kids, glad to see yall growing up.
2020-02-24 10:22
Time will heal the wounds bro
2020-02-24 10:29
Happily for me we worked together through our stuff, and decided to take it slow and move away from each other but still spend the last remaining time together
2020-02-24 10:36
So many poor victims of an instinct LMAO
2020-02-24 10:44
Do you know zywoo? how did he become a stranger to you
2020-02-24 11:01
thats why my number 1 will always be my cat <3
2020-02-24 11:03
+1. its so terrible, can be really hard to let go too. Sadly people change or want different things or whatever. Love can hurt so much. GL bro keep fighting
2020-02-24 17:11
I actually have done the same that u for 6 months, after that, we was together again, months latter we broke up again, but the worse was that was told to me that she (between our 1st break up and the moment we went to be together again) took another 6 relationship (in a space of time of 6 months). Then, after our 2nd (and last) break up she was already dating another, so, man, i must tell ya: dont be like i was for 6 months cuz, right now, im feeling idiot as hell, please, dont cry for woman, if she doesnt want, then dont be like me, dont be an idiot like me
2020-02-24 21:02
Try weed in a group of close friends
2020-02-24 21:07
Do you mean your first girlfriend?
2020-02-24 21:20
Ive never went through a breakup and this thread made me feel sorry for you :/
Keep your head up, you'll make it through, you deserve to be happy and loved.
2020-02-24 21:56
Just drink or do drugs wtf
2020-02-24 21:58
wait till ur mom or father dies :o that's painful.
2020-02-24 22:01
Well, shit. Do you have actual friends to take you through this? Makes it a lot easier.
2020-02-24 22:17
You must be a pretty hapless fool to get attached to someone so intimately that you react this way after they dump you. If this person had the same feelings or was a good object for those feelings you wouldn't of been dumped so abruptly
2020-02-24 22:17
doesnt even have to be lover, friends can fuck u like this too(
2020-02-24 22:38
Update:
I’m not going to post the text here because it’s in finnish but I texted her, I just couldn’t resist myself and I didn’t want to end this all on a bad note.
I texted her a really long message about what she teached me with this break up and the relationship, I told her how I can finally change and be a better person thanks to her and this shit that she put me through, because of her I’m not going to make the same mistakes in my future relationship, so even tho she broke me down, I still appriciate that she put me through this awful experience but better sooner than later. Now I can change for the better and start te journey to find my true self, thanks to her. I think this is the best move to get over her
2020-02-25 10:45
When you finally realize she is not the one, but deep down, you really wanted her to be.
2020-02-25 13:56
use it as motivation, become the best version of yourself- the key is to make your mind believe that it is her loss, not yours...
2020-02-25 14:03
I know I didn’t know how bad this hurts in the past but I feel like an idiot because when my friends were going through a breakup I didn’t take care of them, I didn’t help them, but now when I experience this I’m seeking for pity, I’m waiting for my friends to help me go through this and then I’m surprised when I don’t get any help and now I’m fighting this all alone
2020-02-25 21:46
I feel you bro it has to be really hard to be in this situation but trust me it will go away with time try to do activities you like and chill with your friends and if you need help just make a thread or reply this im here for you if you need anything. I know this feeling is very complicated. Losing someone you love isnt a easy thing. But missing someone means that you loved someone. And not everybody gets a chance to love someone.
2020-02-25 22:03
If only there was a cure for this daily anxiety, I didn’t have this before the breakup now everything seems depressing and pointless, wtf is happening in my mind right now?
2020-02-25 22:20
I realized that of course I can live without her, of course I can vointinue my life without her, I was not the one for her BUT I miss her so much.. I want to talk to her I want to see her I want to touch her I miss that so much, almost every night I dream about her, All the time I’m thinking that what would I say if I saw her face to face, I think that i’d just say that I miss her
2020-02-27 11:02
Going through that right now.. The pain is real. :) Haven't felt so sick in a while.
2020-02-27 11:46
This spoke to me a lot tbh. I went through a really bad breakup 2.5 years ago and I can’t say I’m completely over it. I had to move back to Japan and things were okay for a few months and out of the blue she said she needed to talk, and it ended just like that. We dated for a year and a half, it was totally unexpected and we were young (I still am now) so it hurt a ton since I was so naive and believed she was “the one”. In a matter of days some people who I didn’t even talk to regularly were asking if we’d broken up because it was obvious to everyone that she was flirting with this new guy. I understood feelings could change but it all hit me like a rock and the breakup was over a Skype call so it really tore me apart. I can’t give you much advice about how to deal with the pain but I can definitely say that over time it gets better. When people told me that, I couldn’t believe it at all and it’s only now, or a few months prior that I’ve been able to start saying this. I haven’t been with anyone else since, haven’t changed anything significantly in my life, I’ve just lived it like I always have but despite that, I’ve felt myself slowly healing. It takes time but it will get better.
Make sure you don’t shut out your close friends while you’re going through this. Because of how my breakup went I’ve got a lot of issues still to this day (confidence, trust, optimism etc) but some of my friends have really helped me get through these past couple of years.
I was on and off with her for a few months even after we broke up because I asked her to stay, since I didn’t think I’d be able to get through the pain. It didn’t help me in the long run (it felt like the best decision at the time though) and it ended disappointingly since I found out that she only started talking to me more because her interest in the guy was over, and she started talking to me less when she caught feelings for another guy. I blocked her after a short conversation and it’s felt a lot better since. I don’t know what’s best for you but for me, shutting her out was easily the best thing I did to help myself recover. I’m pretty busy with studies and I don’t have any romantic interest in anyone but I’ve felt more satisfied with who I am as of late.
Hopefully it doesn’t take you too long to feel better. However long it takes, time will heal. I’m sure therapy can be a solution too. Keep fighting man. Try not to let it affect how you view yourself, and go on with life. Good luck!
2020-02-27 12:22
Update
I started using tinder
2020-03-16 11:43
understandable @OP
thats why you fight fire with fire, and make sure the person who got so much love and attention from you for the past years, becomes a usable and replaceable cunt that you CAN and WILL replace like a condom, in a matter of minutes ;)
never let a bitch have the emotional upper hand on you, life-lesson kids.
2020-03-16 11:48
let it all out
the best solution is just let things go through and stop trying to be better or forget about her
once you stop trying, you'll realize you're over it for a long time by then
it will get a lot worse before it gets better, but it will get better
cheers
2020-03-16 18:26
Relationships really are a rollercoaster sometimes.
Oddly, it's a nice change of pace to see everyone talking about emotions without being judgmental, memey or trolling for the most part in this thread.
I also relate, 6 year relationship I'm still getting over and I'm not willing to put any of the emotional and mental fallout onto another person until that shit goes away. And there was and is a ton.
2020-03-16 18:28
I don't know if you will ever read this, but...
Yeah, my friend, I completely understand you. Sad thing is, that, many people will never get over a person in their entire lives and they will be ruined for ever (my case).
I have to tell one thing tho: nothing reminds you more of a thing than the desire to forget it.
Wish you all the best.
2020-03-17 11:49
I would cry myself to sleep every night afterwards if I ever lost her
2020-03-17 11:48
Or suddenly realising ones own delusion.
2020-05-25 06:53
I have never been to relationship cuz no life
2020-05-25 08:55
Still thinking about her everyday, so weird
2020-06-02 09:59
cant have the end of it if you never started one
2020-06-02 10:00
Stay strong brother, a few words can tear us down, turn our world, distort our time, and make the pain unforgettable but keep on going, keep on living. Because it won't get better until you keep on going
"There is no way to defeat despair. All you can do is keep walking."
2020-06-02 10:17