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How do you cope with feeling lonely? Every day I wake up in my single appartment on my own, spending all my day by my own just came home with meeting with my friends, a girl came to me and talked a bit, ended up going away saying "sorry got a friend he's right over there" bruh I ain't even been interested in her - she approached me - and she rejected me nevertheless I'm going to move to a new appartment soon, some female friend of mine asked me that she could come over around, like a week ago, a friend of mine told me "maybe she was interested in you that time back then, but thats all gone now", once more rejected without even asking anyone out btw everytime I asked a girl out she rejected me I feel so lonely every day, I don't have any confidence left in me to ask anyone out, nevertheless I get rejected without even asking girls out I think every single day about the opportunites when girls approached me and I rejected them bc of one of my best female friends I hope to get closer to, that - you got it- got a boyfriend now after I've been into her for propably 2 yrs fml TLDR: Lonely every day, what should I do to feel better
2020-07-19 02:41
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Promised myself not to ever write threads drunk ever again but here we go again
2020-07-19 02:41
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and i sit here lonely with suicidal thoughts bcs i cant find an appartment
2020-07-19 15:54
develop a healthy circle of friends, accountices, family and people who share interests with you, go out many times and be active in your community, help others
2020-07-19 02:45
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actually good tip, thank you :)
2020-07-19 02:46
#8
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Slovakia bad_at_life
im lonely as well, i guess im gonna kms if i will fail school
2020-07-19 02:46
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Don't kill yourself, you have been gifted this life live it to its full extent.
2020-07-19 03:17
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i dont enjoy my life, can i refund it somewhere?
2020-07-19 03:23
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why don't you enjoy your life?
2020-07-19 03:24
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why should i enjoy my life, when im either doing nothing or doing bad decisions
2020-07-19 03:25
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Maybe try to self reflect and analyse your decisions, see where you are going wrong and try to fix it? or talk to a therapist
2020-07-19 03:26
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i know whats wrong, but i cant fix it, therapist could help but theyre expensive
2020-07-19 03:29
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youarerad.org/ healthygamer.gg/ these websites are made to help people in your specific condition
2020-07-19 03:32
#102
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Finland FlNLAND
youtube.com/watch?v=NX2ep5fCJZ8 I was THIS close kms'ing then this man started to put puzzle pieces together for me. I've been binge watching his videos for the last year and I finally think I'm starting to figure out life.
2020-07-19 14:17
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fellow Jordan Peterson fan NOICE
2020-07-19 14:37
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#125
niilo | 
Finland t0ki
Jordan Peterson almost bestest
2020-07-19 19:03
Hes been quiet after you posted that. What have u done?
2020-07-19 17:39
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rip
2020-07-19 18:41
#48
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Finland polly147
You're great the way you are<3
2020-07-19 10:58
l love you, please dont <3
2020-07-19 12:07
Typical edgy teen.
2020-07-19 17:37
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yes, im in desperate need of attention
2020-07-19 17:40
Realize that you can be the strongest by being lonely
2020-07-19 02:46
#11
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Myanmar Guzhas
just play cs wtf
2020-07-19 02:50
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Lol thats what I usually do but thats just a temporary fix
2020-07-19 02:56
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not if you dont stop 😎👌
2020-07-19 03:28
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#92
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Netherlands SpiceNut
200iq but not realistic :/
2020-07-19 13:02
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eat cocaine and drink red bull mens))
2020-07-19 18:25
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#134
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Netherlands SpiceNut
Referring to my dutch nationality (drugs and Max Verstappen being sponsored by red bull) lol
2020-07-19 19:33
no idea mate, problem is that i dont even know if I want to be around people or not
2020-07-19 02:50
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force yourself to be around honest people, although I know its much harder over there than here
2020-07-19 02:53
+1
2020-07-19 10:48
nvm
2020-07-19 18:47
Well start doing shit that can bring you some confidence. Sort your damn life out, take action. Get a proper hobby or something, do sports, make yourself a tinder account and go for a few coffee dates or something. Stop drinking, and let go of that girl that you are drooling over like some kind of a beta cuck. You are young and you'll meet dozens of girls who will be even better than her that's a guarantee
2020-07-19 02:52
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Thank you, thats what I needed :) Got tinder a while ago, every time i'm drunk, I reactivate it bc I feel like I need it, got a match and then redeactivate it bc I'm afraid of getting rejected once more But you're 100% right more, every time I'm lying in my bed I feel like the biggest simp, literally rejected 4 girls bc of a girl that didn't want me Gotta take more action
2020-07-19 02:56
Man just imagine you are in a game. Start doing things you dont usually do. Go to the streets and talk to people, fuck the shame. Take it as game where you will fail a few times in order to get your victory. Sign for hobbies/groups where u need to interact to other people. Call old friends u dont see long ago. Just move.
2020-07-19 02:52
Being lonely is way better than being with fake people. I’m always by myself.
2020-07-19 03:00
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+1
2020-07-19 16:38
#22
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Europe LordSF95
Well beeing lonely is not a bad thing after all. How old are you? Beeing lonely, the life gives you the opportunity of choice and freedom, things you will never get back once you grow up, a mature adult. Go to the gym regullary, cook for yourself, do not trust others, do not overcross when you talk about yourself to others, don't let your feelings to be driven by alchool, beeing drunk gives you confidence as i see. The problem is, you are insecure, close into yourself and qffraid of failures, get hurt feelings very easy. Read some alpha male tips and the most important shit nowdays, be urself, be original.
2020-07-19 03:08
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Thank you! I'm 19, turning 20 soon
2020-07-19 12:14
This dude has helped me in my worst time in my life. He is talking about the reality which surrounds us every second of our lives but most of the humans are not even capable to understand these things. If you are looking for answers, listen to him. With his help, I have achieved peace and a state of mind which vibrates only positive vibes and unbelievable things happen to me while maintaining this state of mind, it's not that simple and it won't come out of nothing, you have to believe and revibrate yourself towards it and then... you will notice amazingly positive changes in every aspect. Just try! Btw there is an official channel in german aswell youtube.com/watch?v=xPJ15iv1N2E
2020-07-19 03:15
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Ah yes Sadhguru my dad used to watch alot and follow some of his exercises too.. he's pretty good though I've listened only a few times. Now we only watch him like once a year during 'shivratri'.
2020-07-19 12:05
#24
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France Insidium
Try to find something to do, loneliness is a thing only if you want it to be. Try to find yourself a hobby you really enjoy doing : working out or if you're not a physical kind of guy, try stuff like 3d modeling or just gaming. Try to have some friends you trust or at least that don't hurt you and don't spend your whole time on the internet (unless you're with your friends) And don't forget that life doesn't end if a girl doesn't want to fuck with you right away, relationships take time to develop, try to be chill and not annoying and you'll be completely fine.
2020-07-19 03:15
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I'm actually quite fit, been going to the gym for 3 yrs now but as I'm getting more and more depressed I struggle to really find interest in anything - I feel like I just wanna do nothing everyday, lay in my bed and be on the internet or watch useless youtube videos. I loved going to the gym but now I only go because I tell myself "I have to" and often I don't even want to meet with friends anymore and I just go because if feel like once more I have to
2020-07-19 12:14
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relatable
2020-07-19 12:21
#94
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France Insidium
Then go talk to a doctor, I think it will help you more than random people on hltv trying to diagnose someone they don't know xd
2020-07-19 13:29
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True, thought about it a lot but its quite expensive, would cost me hundreds of euros Or if I'd get it payed by my insurance I'd have to wait quite a while to get an appointment
2020-07-19 13:48
See a therapist, maybe get on meds for a while. Its about breaking a downwards spiral
2020-07-19 19:11
theres like less than 1 % of people who are actually enjoyable to hang out with and one thing they all have in common is that all of em smoke weed ,so try that tho i don't understand how can you get lonely even without friends just so many things to do edit: i wouldn't wanna hang out with a jerman tho TBH 😎👌
2020-07-19 03:23
Idk Learn to accept loneliness Everyone has a different reason to why they dont want to be/cant be around ppl for so much (wont say mine) Its your choice to not be around them so just learn how to deal with not being around them, videogames, multiplayer, discord, CSGO maybe, Youtube, idk, Life is just about having the best way to waste your time, so you dont notice you are wasting your time
2020-07-19 03:18
Stay strong brother.
2020-07-19 03:19
Oh shit, here we go again
2020-07-19 03:22
ok sudaca
2020-07-19 03:33
mac miller and scott mescudi
2020-07-19 04:07
#46
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Finland polly147
You'll get used to it
2020-07-19 10:50
#47
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Yugoslavia seeeed
Fill up your day with things to do i.e read or watch a show. Maybe listen to music. And if you want some "purpose" behind listening to new music write down reviews. Dont need to post them anywhere. Just for yourself IDK i cannot give advice since lonelyness is my friend 🤷‍♀️
2020-07-19 10:55
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replacing voidness with entertainment, sounds like something i've tried to do my whole life to hide my inner loneliness in this world, and it doesnt really help in the long run what we really need is to form a relationship with some other human being(s), but this is also what is so hard for us for some reason (parents,upbringing,genetics,etc)
2020-07-19 12:09
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#70
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Yugoslavia seeeed
Ofcourse it wont help anything. I am well aware of it. One needs to talk about and refelct on their problems.
2020-07-19 12:14
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Thats good advice. I just disagreed with the first advice #47 ;)
2020-07-19 12:16
move in with your mom
2020-07-19 11:02
#50
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Finland ToxicDUD
get friend
2020-07-19 11:21
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I've got friends, but I still feel lonely, especially in relation to girls. Got many female friends but would love to have someone to really trust and be close to, and it never worked out for me, got rejected every single time
2020-07-19 12:11
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have u tried Tinder? I havent myself but it seems to bring a lot of success to ppl
2020-07-19 12:19
I just don't think, it's literally best way to handle it. I don't play games for fun, I do it just to not think about problems like that xD
2020-07-19 11:24
Good song, really shows Jari is a great singer.
2020-07-19 11:32
#57
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Germany hjngvnhgg
Nothing, that’s how life works.
2020-07-19 11:40
The system of arranged marriage is a solution to this cancer of loneliness, depression and suicides. Humans need society to survive. Individualism has almost destroyed society.
2020-07-19 11:42
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+1 Asia is smart for keeping old traditions. Western society is killing itself. Theres a reason why the west is finally getting into buddhism/zen/yoga
2020-07-19 12:08
go out and get to know people. go to parties alcohol makes social life easier!
2020-07-19 11:52
try workout in home, best feeling when you make progress everyday!
2020-07-19 12:00
the fact that you even talk to women is showing you arent LONELY. But you can still feel loneliness. Those are separate things. I'm even more alone, and yes, I feel very much lonely, and yes it is depressing. I'm moving in to a new apartment in a couple of months hopefully and I hope I won't be in same position as you :(
2020-07-19 12:07
my grandma always said, if u cant stand being alone, u'r not happy with who u are and u really. it's kinda true. i was always sad and depressed cuz i was skinny asfk. then i went to the gym 3 years started to totally switch my life around and it felt way easier to be alone.
2020-07-19 12:08
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Good advice
2020-07-19 12:23
U jerman. Listen to this youtube.com/watch?v=SzLVL6qtB2s But srsly. Get handsome and rich by working as a dj 32k/month. Get expensive apartment and car, sexy haircut, tattooos. And hang out with ppl of similar status. Satisfaction guaranteed. Or maybe. Stop fapping, stop smoking, stop worrying, uninstall CS:GO ofc.
2020-07-19 12:13
You have friends. You are not lonely, just drunk.
2020-07-19 12:20
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True, still feel lonely often But tbh yes I was mostly drunk
2020-07-19 12:23
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:D no worries, just love yourself and people will notice that part of you, and not the allegedly lonely part
2020-07-19 12:24
go out
2020-07-19 12:36
#82
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Germany notnazi
Beta
2020-07-19 12:36
your life is better than anyone's life
2020-07-19 12:36
Lmao there are people that are way worse off than you. I've been at both ends of the spectrum dude, I'm young and there's been a point in my life where I didn't have a single friend for 10 years. That doesn't discount your experience, but you just seem salty you have bad luck with women and not that you're truly lonely. If you want some serious advice you seem to give off simp tendencies, act more masculine and don't be needy. You should give her the impression you enjoy talking to her, but you don't care at all if she leaves.
2020-07-19 12:39
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is this a bait? 👌😳
2020-07-19 12:45
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No, why would you think it's bait?
2020-07-19 12:49
True I know, a few years ago back in school I was off worse and would propably laugh about my current problems, just like you didn't have any friends You might be true about latter
2020-07-19 12:48
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Being happy means feeling okay alone or with friends. Your insecurities around women probably comes from never being satisfied with your life. At least feel happy you're improving and you're better off than you were in the past.
2020-07-19 13:03
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True words :)
2020-07-19 13:42
i was a loner my whole life. my parents both passed when i was 8 and my older sister raised me. u get used to it. most of my friendships were based on pity and drug consume and partying.
2020-07-19 12:51
Listen to this youtube.com/watch?v=UDVtMYqUAyw and your life will fly away as a grey nothingness asap
2020-07-19 12:57
#95
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Germany MackyGee
okay
2020-07-19 13:31
Find a boyfriend
2020-07-19 13:45
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wtf
2020-07-19 13:48
#100
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Libya NoobGreen
learn some rocket science become richer than elon musk get all chicks ez
2020-07-19 14:10
i like being alone, i hate to be around people for a long time in my job i am with people for 8 hours and thats enough for me 😂
2020-07-19 14:25
learn to be with urself, get comftable in your skin and u will never feel alone.
2020-07-19 14:43
I live without my parents for about 15 years. After some time I had to learn how to cope with loneliness. Now it's hard for me to be in a company of people for too long, I need some time to be on my own. There's always the other side. About the girls: fuck that shit, bro. Don't waste your time, emotions and efforts on people who don't give a shit about you. Keep grinding, try other options, live your life and there will be a person who shares with you the same mindset. I know, it's not kind of advice (and how the fuck it can be, it's only you who should find the answer), but eventually everything is gonna be alright. If your age is around 20-30, try to set to yourself lifegoals, which you need to achieve until *paste your age +5 years or so*. Be a better version of yourself, that's more important than some random chicks who are only interested in likes.
2020-07-19 17:18
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Great to hear you're able to show strength despite your tragic loss, thank you for your advice - you're absolutely true with it, wish you all the best!
2020-07-19 17:27
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I wish you all the best and don't give up. Maybe, after some time, you'll remember some random guy from hltv who knew what potential you had.
2020-07-19 17:35
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Thank you bro :) HLTV has helped me more in life than anyone would expect, people here aren't as stupid as many think, will surely remember your advice!
2020-07-19 17:53
Don't come off as desperate, play it cool or they'll run away. But then again, if your loneliness is the outcome of a psychological disease, e.g. Depression or SAD, you need to go see a doctor because simply having a gf is not the cure.
2020-07-19 18:37
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+1
2020-07-19 19:13
Even as a psychologist there is probably not much I can state that hasn't already been stated already. My only question is this: Do you not have any friends/family members? Also to note you're never truly alone in the world of online interactivity; whether it be HLTV or online gaming, you're only truly alone when you yourself state that you are truly alone. Anyhow, I wish you all the very best and I hope life finds a way to help you in the future. :) Have a wonderful day, friend.
2020-07-19 18:47
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Didn't expect to hear from an actual psychologist on hltv haha Actually the thing isn't that I don't have friends and family, without sounding braggy, I've actually got a lot of friends, If I wasnt completely drunk I would've propably written this post better, was just feeling really down (and drunk) when I wrote it Its more just that I've got this constant feeling of lonelyness - not especially in case of general friendships, more like friends I can really trust and especially a partner - also due to the physical aspect. I'd be afraid to openly talk about many things with most of my friends as I know they'd just instantly tell everyone and people would end up making fun of me etc. Along the topic of a partner, as stated I've always been rejected by the girls I was interested in or approached. The times girls approached me I often rejected them bc I was stuck thinking of other girls or was afraid that my friends wouldn't find them "good enough", especially lookwise and they'd make fun of me - so I got stuck up not trusting my friends, being afraid of asking new people out bc of fear of rejection and reject those who want me bc of those friends I don't trust much Thought of maybe getting professional help, would you recommend it? Was always quite afriaid of the costs, got a quick test by my health insurance company which result was that I was propably suffering from severe depression and should get treatment
2020-07-19 19:07
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Sorry for the long paragraph just wanted to write it once in for all better and clear up my situation as my main post is not concrete enough
2020-07-19 19:07
"Didn't expect to hear from an actual psychologist on hltv haha" I'm an expert in psychology but I refuse to be of one in profession because I strongly feel and believe professional help/psychotherapy should not be charged ludicrous amounts of money for, it should be free as mental health is extremely commonplace in the world of today. I've helped loads of people as best as I can and I won't charge a single penny for it because I feel it unnecessary. I understand all professions need be to paid but it's the reason why it's not official, I just know everything there is to know about it. "Actually the thing isn't that I don't have friends and family, without sounding braggy, I've actually got a lot of friends, If I wasnt completely drunk I would've propably written this post better, was just feeling really down (and drunk) when I wrote it Its more just that I've got this constant feeling of lonelyness - not especially in case of general friendships, more like friends I can really trust and especially a partner - also due to the physical aspect. I'd be afraid to openly talk about many things with most of my friends as I know they'd just instantly tell everyone and people would end up making fun of me etc. Along the topic of a partner, as stated I've always been rejected by the girls I was interested in or approached. The times girls approached me I often rejected them bc I was stuck thinking of other girls or was afraid that my friends wouldn't find them "good enough", especially lookwise and they'd make fun of me - so I got stuck up not trusting my friends, being afraid of asking new people out bc of fear of rejection and reject those who want me bc of those friends I don't trust much" There is a lot of trepidation in your actions... always putting others before yourself. Which is not a bad thing at all, but sometimes life requires you to be selfish from time-to-time... Wanting a partner to spend and share the rest of your life with is deeply humbling and I can only wish the best for you on that endeavour. :) I truly believe there is a person out there for everybody and eventually you'll find that right person to spend life with. This is going to seem egregious and I apologise for it, but if you have such reluctance with your friends are they really your friends? True friends would back you up no matter the decision made, obviously within moral context; but seeking out a potential mate or girlfriend shouldn't be the topic of jest, it should be treated in a way friends do and do not do. Rejection is a way of life, I'm afraid. It's the worlds way of telling us to move on and try again elsewhere. Feeling lonely necessarily isn't a bad thing and rejection shouldn't be the cause of loneliness, it should be endearing and provide some positive encouragement. Do you look in the mirror at yourself often? Do you give yourself any positive encouragement whatsoever? Can you name or describe anything positive about yourself? What unique skills or traits do you have? There are almost 8 billion people in the world of today and each and every one of them, including yourself, is unique and individualistic in every single way. :) The quirks and traits are a sign of this and mistakes, rejections and loneliness only make us human alike the rest of the world. I know the context you provided was in that of a drunken-state of mind, but I think the thought is there and it's crying out to be heard. "Thought of maybe getting professional help, would you recommend it? Was always quite afriaid of the costs, got a quick test by my health insurance company which result was that I was propably suffering from severe depression and should get treatment" I'm afraid I'm unaware of any free-psychological treatment in Germany (going by your flag as accurate) but the best place to start is your local GP. They can provide therapeutic treatments and even offer up some free CBT self-help services for you. You should never be afraid of who you are and you should only accept you are a brilliant, unique human being who simply wants to be loved by a vital soulmate like every mammal in the world of today. :)
2020-07-19 19:23
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Thank you very much for taking your time to write this message! Absolutely agree with your first part, looking for psychological help in form of psychotherapy, I even struggled to find any Psychologist charging less than 100€ per hour - as I'm currently going to university and lost my side job due to corona, I definitely can't afford sth like this on a regular basis. Health care might pay for it, but mostly only smaller rates as to why most of those reject public health care clients - so I'd have to apply for one of those who'd accept me and would propably have to wait a few months. To your second paragraph - I fully understand where you're coming from with your question: "are they really your friends?" - They are my friends in relation to me spending a lot of (mostly enjoyable) time with them. But I feel like in relation to topics like this I feel like them always making fun of me (and also the others), them acting like this stems from their own insecurities, none of them actually ever had a girlfriend themselves - resulting in their constant childish behavior. At University for once I've actually found a (female) friend that I can fully trust, was nice to know that this is what friends could act like. The part about rejection propably is true, but me already feeling really depressed, every single rejection is something pushing me even further down and spiralling into worse and worse thoughts "Do you look in the mirror at yourself often?" Yes, quite often "Do you give yourself any positive encouragement whatsoever?" Very rarely, got told by a friend of mine that he worries that I basically always reject compliments, talking them down, saying they're not true. One negative comment from someone always cancels out 1000 positive in my brain As a result of it replying to your next 2 questions is quite hard, I feel like every time I talk positive about me I'm "bragging", what I do not want to do, nevertheless I'm just gonna answer completely honest "Can you name or describe anything positive about yourself?" Rarely thought about something like this: Would say that I'm a caring person, trying to be nice and helpful towards them, as well as that I am very dedicated to my goals "What unique skills or traits do you have?" Even harder to think about a reply to this question than to the one above as I struggle to find anything. I feel like if I'd ask someone they might be able to answer the question for me, but I myself struggle to come up with my "unique" traits Thank you very much, especially for your nice and encuraging words at the end - thanks for the time and effort :)
2020-07-19 19:48
#129
niilo | 
Finland t0ki
Find something you're interested in and focus on that. I've just been studying science and listening to smart ppl meanwhile friends out there drinking and smoking
2020-07-19 19:11
very simple thing, try hitting gyms, u will feel way better after some training
2020-07-19 19:13
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Been going to the gym for 3 years now, always been my escape and loved it, until I got more depressed and I completely stopped enjoying in, nevertheless I still force myself to go there at least 2 times a week (used to go 4-5 times back then)
2020-07-19 19:16
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