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social anxiety HLTV user dating a 2.4k follower Instagram girl??
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Germany DerMitDerDeagleTanzte 
I am going on a first date this Friday with someone I met on Tinder. I have gone on dates before but I'm usually scared shitless throughout the entire thing and can't make eye contact/say reasonable things and I go home feeling awful. We're meeting at a bar so at least I'll have alcohol to calm my nerves. Does anyone have any more tips on how to be calmer and more confident on a first date? I've considered having three or four before we actually meet but I'm also scared it'll be noticeable. What would you talk about to a girl at first date? I mean I literally have no social life, no hobbies except gaming and web design.
2020-09-17 19:12
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#1
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Other gastivy
sex her
2020-09-17 19:13
#2
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Brazil IsFree
+1
2020-09-17 19:13
#3
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Czech Republic VetriX_
+1
2020-09-17 19:13
won't happen i bet :DDD
2020-09-17 19:23
Bro, there is a lot off vids på youtube about topics u can talk about and how to carry yourself through the date. Me personally would say that, you meet a girl from tinder, if you care about fucking up or being uncomfortable you probably know it wont be anything after that date. So insted just dont give a shit about being good enough or intresting enough. If she is hot and u wanna sex her then u gotta practice your game. If you want something serious or a lasting thing with her, then you should just imagine that u are good enough for her, if she thinks otherwise then she aint something for u. Drop the nervs and expectations u think u have on you from her. Be chill and yourself, make the talk to be about her and put the spotlight on her. She will ghost you if you aint something for her, good for you.
2020-09-17 19:34
ty man
2020-09-17 19:51
"på" XD
2020-09-17 19:53
ohh xD
2020-09-17 21:15
get sveriged
2020-09-26 11:28
på hahahahhahahahhaha
2020-09-24 22:44
#4
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Brazil IsFree
What size cock is she rockin'? I get nervous around the bigger ones too
2020-09-17 19:14
#47
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Greece m3s0v
lol
2020-09-17 20:23
2.4k as he said...
2020-09-17 21:09
#6
JUGi | 
Denmark PH4M1
@instagram or fake
2020-09-17 19:14
after this weekend, hltv will fuck it up i guess
2020-09-17 19:19
Wouldn't do it after the date either lmao
2020-09-24 22:45
#64
JUGi | 
Denmark PH4M1
update? ;O
2020-09-24 23:36
pm
2020-09-25 10:44
#69
JUGi | 
Denmark PH4M1
yoo, thats a dub bro
2020-09-26 11:25
you fucked her you sly fox. wp
2020-09-26 12:40
Through Tinder, really? :/
2020-09-17 19:14
#78
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United States LULW_KEKW
Wdym
2020-09-26 12:35
Tinder isn't really a good app when it comes to dating if you ask me. Especially when social anxiety is involved.
2020-09-26 14:09
2020-09-17 19:15
TBH, i used to do the same, i used to drink 2 cans of beer, b4 the date, and ofc buy halls (candy is that also known in your country?) so taste disapear. Once you there, try to drink slowly so u wont get drunk Once, i actually drunk a beer b4 a job interview, GOD BLESS BEER.
2020-09-17 19:20
I went high as a damn kite to like 4 interviews :))) interesting experience tbh.
2020-09-17 20:22
4 interviews means you never got the job, or...?
2020-09-17 21:10
Not for the same job ofc :)) I did get 2 of those jobs, 1 of them being as a foreigner in Holland... which is funny because you know.. quite stereotypical and I don't understand how nobody even noticed.
2020-09-17 21:18
bro they noticed, they just didnt give a fuck
2020-09-26 11:55
but did it help
2020-09-18 13:07
I'd say 100% yes, but don't do it if you're not a long time smoker. For me it made it just kind of fun.. as much as a damn interview can actually be, so I was more engaged and just more present overall.
2020-09-18 13:21
smoking for 8 years now so i should be fine.
2020-09-23 19:13
don't overestimate her, you're probably painting a picture in your head that she's much more important than you and above you because of some losers who are following her on instagram. It's probably going to sound wrong and I mean it in a good way kind of but just think of her as worthless trash because at the same time you're thinking that you're more worthy.
2020-09-17 19:25
+1
2020-09-17 20:19
Ive always made eye contact even while i was insecure and anxious sorry cant relate hope you solve your problem
2020-09-17 19:27
i dont have any good anxiety coping mechanisms but ill bump if that helps
2020-09-17 19:27
Go drunk man ez win 16-0. Also you can talk about the life and ask her the hobbies, you sex her in 2 hours 👌😎
2020-09-17 19:31
2.4k followers on instagram isn't much so you don't have to nervous about it. It's no big deal, just try to have a normal conversation, it doesn't have to be perfect. First dates are usually awkward, she's probably feeling nervous too. Stay confident and remember that you have nothing to lose. I don't think you should have any alcohol before going out, its just another experience and getting drunk would kill the entire point.
2020-09-17 19:32
You don't need to be drunk just drink 1 or 2 beers so you can be funny 👌😎
2020-09-17 19:36
Don't worry she won't even turn up
2020-09-17 19:33
I have no advice to give you, but still good luck :)) and have fun
2020-09-17 19:33
show her less emotions dont be needy madafaka sometimes dont even give attention to her and after 1week she gonna sex you
2020-09-17 19:36
#37
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Russia AlexFrutis
most stupid advice here imo
2020-09-17 20:11
'no hobbies except gaming and web design.' - she's just another person - don't talk to her about gaming unless she starts that subject - let her talk, don't interrupt her but keep the conversation interesting - make a lot of small talk and develop off of that - don't be disappointed in yourself or full of remorse if it goes wrong, plenty of other wet pussies around - here, learn from this something: youtube.com/watch?v=4IirJlWFhXo&app=desk..
2020-09-17 19:40
Exactly. That’s more hobbies than most people. She is probably panicking thinking that she has zero hobbies.
2020-10-15 20:29
#26
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United States kanchi
yolo
2020-09-17 19:53
try to be real, be yourself. don't be shy. if she doesn't like you she's not for you tell her you feel nervous, and joke about it - helps a lot don't try to follow a routine, just try to get to know her, to show her a little about yourself, and above all to have a good, truthful enjoyful moment
2020-09-17 19:54
#35
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Russia AlexFrutis
+1 joke bout feelings really works
2020-09-17 20:08
#29
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Denmark Raskoiano
FAke it to you make it
2020-09-17 19:54
The thing about anxiety is the more you fight it, the worse it gets. You can compare anxiety to a muscle, the more it works the more tired it will get (sounds stupid, but its true). The only way for anxiety to get better is exposing yourself to what gives you anxiety. When it happens, don't try to "win" over it. When it happens, just be aware its happening, let it take it's course, and it will only get better.
2020-09-17 20:01
#33
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Lithuania eZaF4BYMAS
you already failed by posting this shit
2020-09-17 20:06
#34
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Russia AlexFrutis
Just be urself dude, u can tell her what u r so anxiety at. There is also some psychological tricks try to put on a "confidence mask" - act like u r confident. U can rehease few topics when the conversation gets stuck
2020-09-17 20:06
#46
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Lithuania Ufasas
put covid19 mask, true, she will not notice
2020-09-17 20:23
is 2k followers supposed to be a lot?
2020-09-17 20:11
it is a lot for an average person who doesn't promote herself and doesn't do followers for followers
2020-09-17 20:15
Viel Glück))
2020-09-17 20:12
danke man
2020-09-17 21:02
2.8k is a normal amount for girls ngl don’t be intimidated and be urself and try to act natural act like it’s just with a friend who you sex not a date
2020-09-17 20:15
Are you comfortable in bars? If not, visit the bar you're planning on taking her to. Make sure you feel comfortable in that space. Pre-conditioning yourself to an environment can help reduce the feeling of not belonging. Know the location inside and out. Then that's one less thing to be anxious about. Also, don't be so outcome dependent. Nothing turns a woman off faster than feeling like a man is terrified of losing her (especially a stranger). Understand that if things don't work out, it's ok. Focus on getting to know her instead of obsessing about how well you're doing. Remember that you're assessing her as well. You don't want to date someone you have zero chemistry with. If you're still too nervous, consider a supplement like 5-HTP which affects your serotonin levels. Even if it's a placebo, taking it will make you feel like you have some degree of control over your anxiety and provide a psychological edge.
2020-09-17 20:18
just act like shes a normal chick with 0 instagram followers? like what so special about this? its all fake anyway. dont put her higher on the pedestal, cuz then u willl put urself into a nogo zone in short time.
2020-09-17 20:20
#44
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Lithuania Ufasas
talk a bit what new hobby you would like to start too, when all talks about web design, gaming run out, why you like them and do them, then you ask about her, it;s give and go, why just talk about you , or why just her talks about her, it's selfish and draining. also when there are all topics drainers, you take the bish home, and sex her and kiss her and sex her
2020-09-17 20:22
#48
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Lithuania Ufasas
if nothing works, put covid19 mask, true, she will not notice, if she starts commenting why you put covid mask, tell her 'i'm nervous during this date, and if you see me nervous i will be even more nervous, because i want to impress and not to ruin things, and it's hard to see through mask how nervous I look to you, let's carry on'
2020-09-17 20:26
cocaine just kidding be yourself, if she doesnt like it then fuck her 👊
2020-09-18 13:08
Schnauze desi.
2020-09-23 19:14
ok
2020-09-24 22:41
+1.
2020-09-25 08:36
#60
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Germany Germania
Do girls really think they are something special with 2k insta followers?
2020-09-24 22:43
I think im special with 279 followers so I think yeah
2020-09-26 11:30
can you sign my steam profile
2020-09-26 12:00
of course, I do anything for my fans
2020-09-26 12:22
#73
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Ukraine W1ldHunt
Yeah they do. After all, those 2k followers are her validation points and ego boost.
2020-09-26 11:33
#63
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Russia Praeter
i don't know, i never do dates
2020-09-24 22:48
#79
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United States LULW_KEKW
Why
2020-09-26 12:37
#67
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Brunei cyLoL
Yes mens)) sex her gud I proud of you
2020-09-25 10:46
So now it's a thing to have 2.4 Instagram followers ? Does that really matter nowadays ?
2020-09-25 10:52
yeah crazy how 4/10 of a person can follow you these days
2020-09-26 11:43
#80
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United States LULW_KEKW
Lol
2020-09-26 12:37
Feeling scared of fucking up? Oh the only way to get rid of that feeling? Yeah, that's right, it's by fucking up. Good luck.
2020-09-26 11:32
#81
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Netherlands toothpaste
talk about your web design and what kind of fun youre gonna have when you have lots of money
2020-09-26 12:40
How it went?
2020-10-15 20:15
it was ok i guess :D don't think we will meet again xD
2020-10-15 21:21
#85
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Germany Bier
I am pretty sure this is a bait but you'll get a serious reply nontheless. 2.4k insta followers literally means nothing lol I had a date once with a girl that had 5k or sth and i don't even have insta. So what. It's not like it's an accomplishment or anything E: nvm just noticed it's an old thread
2020-10-15 20:20
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