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half my friends forgot my birthday ama
slaxz- | 
Germany GermanHLTVAmbassador 
It was my birthday yesterday and like a good half of my friends, some of which I would have considered my closest friends until recently forgot my birthday. Feel free to ask me anything. :) Please dont congratulate me now, just help me get my mind off things.
2020-09-28 00:15
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they arent your friends happy birthday for yesterday tho mens))
2020-09-28 00:16
that's what I figured. I checked some of our text convos and a girl I considered a close friend has not initiated a conversation with me in all of 2020, it was just me trying to keep sth alive that was never there.
2020-09-28 00:17
#2
arT | 
Brazil eumesmo
if you don't teel then, it is normal they wouldn't know.
2020-09-28 00:16
They definitely know because they have congratulated me in thepast and have been to birthday partys of mine.
2020-09-28 00:17
Like me, they may just have bad memories. Only way I remember is if a social media reminds me, and then I'm not always sure because some people fake their birthday inputs. I wouldn't end friendships just because people forget to just say "hbd" once.
2020-09-28 00:27
It is a multitude of things. It seems like the only time I am ever invited to sth is when I just tag along. Nobody ever texts me and if I initiate contact I get the most dry responses. One time I asked a female friend of mine whether she wants to hang out on day X and she told me she can't b/c she and her boyfriend would be celebrating his birthday. On day X i texted her boyfriend hbd and he ignored me which lead me to believe it wasn't actually his birthday, but she made sth up to avoid me.
2020-09-28 00:30
They are as*holes, sorry for saying but that's it. I don't even think this unnecessarily human beings can be useful for you, stop the contact, you deserve better ones.
2020-09-28 00:38
ok that's p relatable. recently I've gotten too lazy to tag along, and the real friends have really shown themselves with invitations. in some cases, though, people just are already in proximity so they spontaneously go "let's head to ____" and it's not rly meant to exclude u, so things rnt always black and white, but I get what u mean definitely. it's rly up to u to decide if they're actually slighting u or not.
2020-09-28 01:09
#28
arT | 
Brazil eumesmo
yea man, no one remind of that dates.
2020-09-28 00:30
I could tell you from my head the birthday of every person I consider my friend and family. Even if they are not good with dates, you can set a reminder etc. It might seem very minor to you, but it is the last straw for me.
2020-09-28 00:32
#39
arT | 
Brazil eumesmo
don't be so sensible about that man, i personally don't know the birthday of no one except me and my mother.
2020-09-28 00:35
I am not wired that way and I know for a fact neither are they. Also is it really too much to ask to remember the birthdays at least of your closest friends or siblings etc?
2020-09-28 00:44
#62
arT | 
Brazil eumesmo
i don't know man, i think for most of people birthdays are only a thing when we're kids, i doesn't really matter for me anymore.
2020-09-28 00:47
Yes, birthdays were a lot bigger when we were younger since we would have cool celebrations and get gifts etc. This is not what I care about, it is just a little message that I want. Something that makes me see that you have not forgotten about me, that you still somewhat care about our friendship. Maybe you can relate to this better. When I left school for uni keeping in touch became harder, I then moved, not far, but out of my hometown. So birthdays are a great way of getting in touch again and doing things together again.
2020-09-28 00:50
#76
arT | 
Brazil eumesmo
Post something about being your birthday, if they don't respond to this, then they really don't care.
2020-09-28 00:53
keep running anime girl, keep running ((
2020-09-28 00:18
who cars if we exist men)))
2020-09-28 00:20
For what it is worth, I hope you are happy man.
2020-09-28 00:22
I forget my own birthday half the time.
2020-09-28 00:17
I am not that way. I know that a message to your birthday or even a phone call shows a person that you think about them and care. Not even my fucking grandmother had the decency to text or call lmao.
2020-09-28 00:20
#6
Gustav | 
Sweden günT
If it's of any help I haven't got a clue when any of my friends have their birthdays except for like a couple. Some people really don't consider them to be important.
2020-09-28 00:17
I know that they considered them important enough in the past, it just seems like they all stopped caring for me and only play pretend that we are somewhat friends. I think I am gonna drop the act completely next time I see them and tell them to fuck off.
2020-09-28 00:19
I'm in a similar position my friend, and I've been there before. Shit hurts but sometimes you just gotta move on, few relationships are permanent :)
2020-09-28 00:21
It surprises me how little it hurts. I am more upset at myself for letting me be played like that. I was always there for them when they needed me, but that was the only times they initiated contact in recent times.
2020-09-28 00:22
First, Did you ever tell them your birthday recently? Second, Did you congrulate their birthday? And the last one, Did they messaged back like ''happy passed birthday!''?
2020-09-28 00:19
I did not, but they do not tell me their birthdays. I know them all from my head and always congratulate them. It is my way of showing that I still care about keeping in touch and our friendship. Seems like the feeling is not mutual.
2020-09-28 00:21
Okey, this is a mistake. If you want people to congrulate your birthday tell it before your birthday and make them remember. In the past (really really past, when i was a child) i was the same as you and become the only one who is broken, then found a way for it. But most importantly: Did you talk with your friends recently?
2020-09-28 00:25
I tried to reach out here and there, but it felt like I was talking to a wall most of the time. Contact was never initiated by them, or only if they needed sth like help for university etc. This is my final straw with those people, I feel like cutting them off for good.
2020-09-28 00:27
I would recommend don't stop the conservation (if someone use you, you can use them too) but stop the friendship (if there didn't happened something serious between you and your friends). Don't allow people to use you, never trust anyone. I know it is hard at the start but you will get used to it. Try to find new friends and get new successful life. Unfortunetely people are this prick these days.
2020-09-28 00:34
I dont like using people even if they mistreated me in the past. I just want people to openly and honestly tell me where we are at with one another. If you do not enjoy me as a person anymore that is totally fine, but at least tell me so I don't waste time and energy trying to conserve a friendship that has already died on your end.
2020-09-28 00:40
I can undersand man, Just stop your contact with them and hang with the other half. Happy birthday (even though it's been a day late but anyway) youtube.com/watch?v=-RWKohWx8JQ (this is the only happy song i know in German xd)
2020-09-28 00:49
I couldn't help but smile, ty :)
2020-09-28 00:50
Bitte schön. Es ist gut wenn ich kann dir helfen. .p
2020-09-28 00:55
#11
Rob4 | 
Serbia e_loK
Its normal A lot of ppl dont remmember dates well or just dont keep track of what day is it That is why facebook exists
2020-09-28 00:20
My own family doesn't remember birthdates, I know it may seem important to you but they may just be the type of people who don't keep track of a ton of dates very often or have enough stuff on their mind they forgot idk them though so just a guess honestly they really coulda just forgot like an honest mistake
2020-09-28 00:23
It is not some random people that forgot, it is like the entire friend circle of my hometown. I almost think like they purposefuly ignored my birthday. They definitely had the date in their head in the past.
2020-09-28 00:25
Well ya said half your friends forgot, so at least the other half of your friends still got your back right?
2020-09-28 00:34
It is an entirely different friend group, but yeah, I guess so. I know that they have my back, but it still hurts to see that so many people I considered friends completely stopped caring about me. Also nice nickname, pfannkuchen ftw.
2020-09-28 00:35
you'd be surpised how many people you consider friends in life and don't consider you one back, or just grow distant with their relationship towards you overtime and danke
2020-09-28 00:37
Typical g*rm behaviour.
2020-09-28 00:23
Is that a supposed insult for germans? I am confused.
2020-09-28 00:24
Perhaps...but truth; it is.
2020-09-28 00:37
You have no flag0.o
2020-09-28 00:26
It is the Andorran flag for me.
2020-09-28 00:27
Oh, probably it cause of my computer is so old.
2020-09-28 00:35
#21
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Ukraine ksay
that's normal tbh unless you are talking to them every single day people will miss birthdays especially without any notifications on social media
2020-09-28 00:27
BRUH
2020-09-28 00:31
yes, i feel fucking hurt. I am sorry.
2020-09-28 00:32
i feel sorry for you heres a little Happy Birthday to make you feel a little bit better
2020-09-28 02:30
happy birthday man but unfortunately its hard to find people who care about you like you care about them ( talking from experience )
2020-09-28 00:31
thank you mate
2020-09-28 00:32
#36
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Brazil ZerongBr
become good friend with those who didnt
2020-09-28 00:34
It will happen more and more as you get older , get used to it + its not that big of a deal . Might show who your real friends are or simply those that forgot might have bad memory for dates like me for example .
2020-09-28 00:34
Birthday don't mean as much to some people so they don't commit as much energy to remembering them as others. Have you made it clear that you care a lot about your birthday?
2020-09-28 00:37
Yes, they know I am a person who enjoys little gestures like that. And I know they definitely care about birthdays as well, because they make full blown slideshows to one another on their birthdays. Idk, I feel stupid.
2020-09-28 00:38
It's possible you're overthinking this, but it's also possible you aren't. I would definitely look more into it before declaring them as bad friends.
2020-09-28 00:39
I might sleep on it, but I have been having these thoughts for quite some time now. But it is now that I can somewhat pinpoint it and be certain of my suspicions.
2020-09-28 00:42
Good luck mens
2020-09-28 00:44
#49
NiKo | 
Serbia Krosis
It is inevitable. The older you get the more normal this will become but its not a bad thing to have only a small circle of friends(less exhausting). Dont see it as a competition about who has got the most amount of friends, learn to be content on your own aswell so you dont always have to rely on other to entertain you or make you happy.
2020-09-28 00:41
These are honestly very wise words, they put my mind at ease a bit. Thank you.
2020-09-28 00:42
#55
NiKo | 
Serbia Krosis
No problem, how old did you get btw?
2020-09-28 00:44
Turned 20. Feels depressing to think my teenage years are finally over and I am now approaching the 30 mark. Balding and grey hair, here I come )))
2020-09-28 00:45
#50
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Brazil Urie
Hope you can let it go man since those people are clearly avoiding you, it's not worth it.
2020-09-28 00:41
Thank you. I will stop trying to keep in touch, I will just get hurt if I invest anymore into those relationships.
2020-09-28 00:43
is 0 a 50% of 0 or 100%?
2020-09-28 00:42
#67
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Australia Am2de
lmao
2020-09-28 00:49
#57
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Germany yaGmi
not me men happay birthday))
2020-09-28 00:44
thank you friendly kazakh.
2020-09-28 00:45
All my friends seemed to forget to invite me to their birthday parties last two years. People just can have bad memory!
2020-09-28 00:46
I am not sure if this is a joke or not, but you might also have to reevaluate your friends.
2020-09-28 00:47
Well they obviously didn't forget just didn't want to do it((
2020-09-28 00:52
#64
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Australia Am2de
I don't remember birthday of any of my friend. But Facebook and Insta always saves me lmao
2020-09-28 00:47
#66
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Australia Am2de
btw Happy birthday
2020-09-28 00:49
thank you
2020-09-28 00:53
i dont like birthdays :/
2020-09-28 00:50
honestly neither do i. i always get depressed around my birthdays, because it makes me reflect on the past year and I always feel like I have not made any progress in life. Like I am still the same person as the year before and the older I get, the more the feeling of loneliness manifests itself.
2020-09-28 00:52
Same(
2020-09-28 00:55
#93
N1K3RR | 
Finland sAA_
True that's me
2020-09-28 03:03
U dont have a Facebook acc?
2020-09-28 00:50
I am zoomer, not boomer. )) But snapchat for example shows them a cake next to my name
2020-09-28 00:51
Thats why then
2020-09-28 00:55
#80
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Canada puckpuck
ey man sometimes people forget
2020-09-28 00:57
who cares, birthdays are overrated these days
2020-09-28 01:04
#82
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Europe Nuskel
I kinda wish no one would remember mine.
2020-09-28 01:00
To be honest with you, birthdays are just overrated nowadays. If you think they are good to you, treat you well and are there when needed, that's all what you need to focus on. Birthdays are there just for completing friendships that's all. I myself forget so many birthdays of people that are so close to me, and yet we never harmed each other or whatsoever.
2020-09-28 01:04
+1
2020-09-28 01:06
I have not felt that way for the last year or so. So no, I do not think that they just do not care about birthdays or that they just forgot in the midst of work or sth. I think they do not care about me anymore and it kinda hurts man.-
2020-09-28 01:11
+1
2020-09-28 03:19
Happened to me aswell man and I was thinking exactly the same.. All my friends who are close to me, I know all their birthdays and remember about it and I also think everyone who is close to each other should remember this, but it's seems like these good old days where we really remember about each other are gone, people won't remember your birthday unless you remind them and I guess there's nothing you can do about it. Still pretty shit feeling, but I understand you completely. It's nice to see someone still thinks about things like that.
2020-09-28 01:12
#88
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Malaysia Suno[t]
well only my mum and brothers remembers my birthday :D
2020-09-28 01:15
Atleast you got friends. think about that
2020-09-28 02:53
Sorry but If you don't make a party it is your fault.
2020-09-28 02:54
some times it's better to be like that,in brazil(atl in my ex hometown) they throw eggs and coffee on you lmao
2020-09-28 02:58
happy birthday my friend <3 <3 <3
2020-09-28 03:12
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