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Too lazy to talk to people?
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United States Tor_Browser_Official 
Since starting university a couple of yrs ago, I have failed to make any friends. I have not really tried though. Once I met this guy and he gave me his phone number, but I never contacted him and sort of hoped that he wouldn't speak to me, which he didn't. I rarely call people by their names and also don't like being touched by my parents. I think I am scared of intimacy somehow. I will be all confident at home and in my head say "ok I am gonna approach some women tomorrow", but at the time, when I am outside, I always feel too cold, too tired and too lazy to talk to anyone. Like it takes a load of effort to even speak to someone. Not sure what to do thx
2020-10-27 02:18
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you're socially (r-word) ed bro im sorry
2020-10-27 02:20
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socially restricted, yeah
2020-10-27 04:39
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Finland jakem0n
2020-10-27 14:37
>I rarely call people by their names and also don't like being touched by my parents. Literally the same, and it's really weird...
2020-10-27 02:29
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same, when anyone try to touch me i get defensive unless i really try not to.
2020-10-27 02:36
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what if it's one of those insta girls?
2020-10-27 02:59
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then i turn attacking 😎
2020-10-27 03:00
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Brazil ghcnvbkn
2020-10-27 03:01
2020-10-27 02:42
try calling people by their name, everyone likes to hear their own name, i always call persons even close friends by name, even my wife not some hunny bunny bullshit, why everyone has name, use it everyone likes to hear it, sounds respectful.
2020-10-27 14:36
Personality trait i guess, some people are just like that I also feel drained from talking to people but not to that extent
2020-10-27 02:31
isnt you the guy who would aprouch to 200 girls?
2020-10-27 02:33
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yes. I say that to get over any social anxiety. I want to do stuff like that but it is so hard
2020-10-27 02:59
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Bro of course it's hard, you're trying to go from being too scared to talk to anybody, to talking to 200're setting an impossible task. Why not start with "can I leave the house and talk to one stranger today". Just ask someone for the time at a local store. Repeat this a few times. Then, try it on a girl you find attractive. Then, try talking to an attractive girl and being playful. Then, do the same but try to close the conversation with an arrangement of a future meet/conversation. Don't set yourself a goal so unreachable that you won't even attempt it. Start small, and keep growing a little bit every day. Before you know it, you will be huge.
2020-10-27 14:26
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Yeh you're right. This is what I should do. 1. Make eye contact with a girl 2. smile at a girl 3. say hi 4. longer conversation 5. romance stuff
2020-10-27 14:28
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Great ideas. Number 1 is harder than you think, I used to be TERRIBLE at this. But it's a skill, which you can get good at and you will quickly improve at. The thing to remember about all this is that you will feel so amazing and full of confidence if you just start doing some of the things that I suggested! Next time you are out, think about how frustrated you are with yourself when you fail your own goals with girls. Think about how you feel when you create these posts on HLTV. I promise you, you will feel amazing if you can get past these demons in your mind.
2020-10-27 14:34
2020-10-27 02:37
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but I won't know if I like them if they are wearing a mask
2020-10-27 03:00
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You can be attracted to another by just looking into their eyes, been there done that. 1. Be polite when you approach someone that you're not friends with. - "Excuse me, what time is it?" - "Excuse me, how can I get to..." So on so forth. 2. If you're uncapable of holding an eyecontact, don't. You can look around when you talk and occasionally glance over to your partner and see if they're still interested in what you have to say. - Though, I'd recommend holding an eye-contact for a few seconds, every now and then.
2020-10-27 14:51
i agree, if you have any issues with any social interactions, wearing a mask helps
2020-10-27 14:22
smoke dmt probably
2020-10-27 02:53
North America NotJuan
Yes I get very tired after talking to people
2020-10-27 02:55
sounds like early signs of depression
2020-10-27 03:01
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I'm not depressed, also I've been like that for 2 years
2020-10-27 03:04
Feel the same. I also started making less contact with a few acquaintances I already have. I don’t text anyone, and don’t feel like answering when I’m being texted. Not that I feel uncomfortable, but more like I dont care at all at the time. When an unfamiliar phone number is calling, I don’t answer at all. If for some reason I went outside to hang out with smn for a bit, I feel like returning home at a first possibility.
2020-10-27 03:13
you need to get a job, any job. if you are at job you wont be allowed to be lazy and you may meet new people. but if you find a way to be lazy at your job also then i cant help you.
2020-10-27 03:30
United Kingdom alcazar4
do you at least have a core group of friends to talk to?
2020-10-27 03:39
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3 people who I have known for over 10 years. We meet up for a couple of days maybe 3 or 4 times a year. We are busy all doing different things in different places now.
2020-10-27 04:09
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United Kingdom alcazar4
do you at least talk online?
2020-10-27 04:48
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I go through phases when I talk to them and play games with them a lot. Last summer I played a lot with one friend and now I haven't seen or spoken to him in 3 months or so, this time I played a lot with the other friend but now we don't see each other so often
2020-10-27 14:26
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United Kingdom alcazar4
unlucky, im not in the same situation bc i have online and irl friends who i talk to regularly. dont particularly enjoy meeting new people also.
2020-10-27 14:43
I never attempted to make any friends in uni either, everyone in computer engineering was a boring nerd. All my friends are from middleschool and highschool. If you're really desperate to make friends, join clubs.
2020-10-27 03:43
You just don't have the likeable energy as other people who don't have to try. Could be because of looks and approachability too. Oof!
2020-10-27 04:12
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2020-10-27 14:18
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?? Look it up! Lmao
2020-10-27 15:52
me too bro, i can relate
2020-10-27 14:23
Europe Nuskel
Sounds like me, except I feel like I'm glued to the chair right now haha
2020-10-27 14:25
You sound like you have extreme social anxiety. Hope you can come out of your shell.
2020-10-27 14:30
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how do I do that?
2020-10-27 14:33
Pick one "crazy day" on your calendar and do all the things normally would not do
2020-10-27 14:34
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cool idea. Any suggestions of things to do?
2020-10-27 14:45
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Greet strangers and talk to everybody you normally would not approach. Keep in mind : nothing to lose, next day you can allways turn back to your "normal mode"
2020-10-27 14:50
i personally like talking to people.....problem is friends and people in general can hurt you....if you can enjoy your own company then that is the best...Having nice girlfriend is always good though...but even that kind of becomes boring with time...:(
2020-10-27 14:36
Czech Republic realProkda
Your life - your choice. Being socially awkward or step out of your comfort zone and start having friends.
2020-10-27 14:38
Algeria abdodz32
Do you wear glasses?
2020-10-27 14:45
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2020-10-27 14:46
you're just shy
2020-10-27 14:56
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