Seemed like a truly awful game, friend. I don't envy your position or miss those games at all...
I just simply played the game to the best of my abilities back when I used to play. vocal, friendly, tried my hardest, I just ignored everything else that involved hate-speech, death threats, flamers, ego-boosters, etc... You don't want to interact with those kinds of people, friend.
I'm rambling -- apologies -- Have a good day. :D