Take a look around you, what’s the first thing you see? Maybe you answered with some inanimate object or your dog or some shit but bro, your body is constantly in your field of vision. It is the first thing you see. Your beta brain just automatically discounts it as unimportant, but your beta brain is lying to you. Your body is the very engine that makes your will manifest upon this world. It must be cared for and emboldened. So step two, get to the gym and start lifting*, analyze your diet, I bet my next protein shake you aren’t getting enough iron in your diet. You will notice as you focus on your daily nutrition, exercise, and mental health that these things have contributed more towards your unhappiness than whatever failures you believe are holding you back. You are now finding yourself important and worth taking care of, that’s a fundamental Chaddism right there.
Step 3, analyze your friend group. You do not need yes men or even worse “whatever, men”, you do not need bros who just smoke weed, watch rick and Morty with you, and never challenge you. I bet an entire week of meal prep you exist inside a friend group that doesn’t care where you exist socioeconomically. You may even think that’s a good thing. They feel no obligation towards making you a better person, and they challenge you in no way what so ever. These same friends would likely feel threatened and insecure if you were to fully ascend to Chad status. They may try to tear you down even. Google “bucket of crabs” and ask yourself which one of these mother fucking crabs may need to get stiff armed on your way out the beta bucket? Maybe all of em? Be prepared for that. A lonely Chad is living a better life than the entire combined experience of a bucket of betas.
Replace these “yes men” with “do men.” guys who are gonna follow up with your shit, keep you goal oriented. People who want you to have victories worth celebrating. You want to participate in their victories as well. Together you become a tide that raises all boats.
Step 4: finally find your game. Most of the chicks obsessed with LeBron do not give a fuck about him being a basketball player. They love that he’s the BEST basketball player**..You gotta put some thought in, you gotta find out what your game is, and then you gotta get good, son. Picture your ideal self, what does he do for a living? What can you do today that will put you in that direction? Hopefully by this point you have learned how to make goals and follow through by mastering your body, hopefully by now you have learned sacrifice and self reliance by cutting the toxic people from your life. This step should, by this point, be less cloudy, and less challenging than it was when you were full beta, because now you are part Chad, and Chad can fucking do this!
I hope these steps are useful to you. Incels and beta boys believe Chadhood is all confidence and aggression. They are wrong. It’s EARNED confidence and the willingness to be aggressive. You’ll find both on your path once you commit yourself to it.
*gym membership ship is not a requirement. If your time and budget are limited military push-ups and jumping rope will take you a significant distance.
**LeBron is also tall af, ripped, and rich, obviously, but hopefully you understand my point.