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Liking yourself
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Russia VelsVivard 
When I make a photo of me and look at it, at whatever angle, I never like it. It lacks something. When I look at myself in the mirror, there are things to love me for. It looks much better, like I know I would be on screen. What's to blame? Am I such a bad selfie snapper or is the beauty really far away? The closer you are, the uglier you become. How is it for you? Whatever you're feeling at the moment of a shot has to be captured, otherwise it will be a fail. I never had the photo man, so I'm yet to find out how I'll be in the hands of those who had been doing it forever. Do you like yourself on pictures and generally?
2021-03-05 02:17
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#1
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Estonia whosmans
I also dislike seeing myself and believe that the further away I am from the camera frame in a picture the better I look, but it is a deprecating delusion and one that doesn't accurately reflect my peers' perspectives
2021-03-05 02:22
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+1
2021-03-05 19:29
same if i take a selfie i look like a fucking mongloid in the mirror i look hot i dont undersand honestly
2021-03-05 02:18
11 replies
biggest +1 in the history
2021-03-05 02:21
2 replies
you know there is number 2 when you need big +1?
2021-03-05 17:18
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He still isn’t two persons tho
2021-03-05 18:05
+1
2021-03-05 02:22
#11
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Russia VelsVivard
Relatable, I only started taking pictures very recently. Before that, I kept my screen virginity and for good. Now I feel very inexperienced but not very ugly.
2021-03-05 02:22
#14
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Brazil ghcnvbkn
i could not agree more
2021-03-05 02:24
The reason you look different (better) in the mirror is because the mirror is a reflection of your face. However, when you take a photo of yourself, it is not your reflection. So it is another way of the world telling you what you could have been but got stuck with being uglier.
2021-03-05 03:34
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#30
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Germany brasiI
and people see you like you see yourself in the selfies. but i guess it's not that you look better but rather the problem is that you haven't seem yourself in the 'real' way very often (compared to the mirror)
2021-03-05 04:17
if u use iphone, its camera shows how people sees you! where as in mirror u see a reflection of urself which u are accustomed to seeing at everyday. if u are using android, u can always flip the camera to show u mirror image. iphone really sucks
2021-03-05 05:03
take a picture of urself in the mirror then
2021-03-05 15:37
Same
2021-03-05 18:05
I like myself every night sometimes twice
2021-03-05 02:18
sometimes i like, sometimes i dont. key here is not to judge urself as u would judge a girl, u are not one afterall. girls wont love u for ur looks, and so should u
2021-03-05 02:19
Your photo self is your real self tbh. Do you ever look at people you know and then those same people in pictures and see a real difference? Most likely not. The camera lens will probably distort your face's shape slightly, but not to a noticeable level to anyone but yourself.
2021-03-05 02:20
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#9
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Russia VelsVivard
I tend to agree, one shot in twenty will be good, but I have to picture being what I am not. The way I am doesn't look very appealing, do the photos reflect the mental state and happiness of those who are present there?
2021-03-05 02:21
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#1 reason for this is because you are used to seeing yourself in the mirror everyday so when you see a picture (which is your mirror image flipped horizontally) you think it looks weird. Vsauce did a video about this before but take this image of Abraham Lincoln. All the American textbooks show the picture on the left which is an actual photo of Lincoln. The picture on the right looks so weird to me but it is actually Lincoln except flipped 180 degrees. Funny thing is Lincoln would probably prefer the image on the right cuz that’s what he would see everyday in the mirror randomtalke.files.wordpress.com/2016/08/..
2021-03-05 05:54
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#81
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Russia VelsVivard
Woa, interesting stuff. I'm actually fascinated by the old photography and it makes a whole lot of sense. So what buddy should I trust more? The one I'm seeing in the mirror or the one I see captured on camera? And will I make both equally pretty if I take the shooting confidently and actually feeling like what I'm pretending to be at the moment?
2021-03-05 06:23
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You should trust the one in the mirror because that’s the real you to yourself. The one in photos is the real you to others, but they prefer that you while you prefer the mirror you. Either way if you think you look good in the mirror who cares, confidence is all you need 👍
2021-03-06 18:02
#15 disagree. yes people look similar IRL to photos because you do not scrutinize them when you see them IRL, you don't notice every difference like they definitely do.
2021-03-05 02:25
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+1 Some girls look good in photos and bad in person and vice versa
2021-03-05 04:22
No and no.
2021-03-05 02:19
Nop, i never take pictures of myself, i'm very insecure about that. I could lie to you and say "wow i'm beautiful and sexy, the girls love me" but i mean, let's be honest, i'm not the only person here that doesn't take pictures of himself too often
2021-03-05 02:20
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im with you man. I dont even have pictures of me anywhere I tend to stay away from cameras.
2021-03-05 02:23
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+1, same here
2021-03-05 02:26
#13
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Russia VelsVivard
Same here too, hence the thread. I just started taking snaps a year or two ago because loneliness pressured but I never feel right or confident doing it.
2021-03-05 02:24
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Me too, i don't know what happens, sometimes i look good, sometimes not, its like when you see yourself in the mirror and ask yourself: "do i was looking like this all the time?"
2021-03-05 02:28
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#26
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Russia VelsVivard
Yeah, we can only hope the others see us at least half as good as we do in the mirror.
2021-03-05 03:30
I am the same. Look great in the mirror, weird in pictures. things to note: -IRL you see people moving and they are not stationary so mirror is more accurate - mirror is the exact same except it is inverted (not a big deal IMO) - camera lens distrorts image and it looks different on different cameras - you have 2 eyes, photos is 1 camera - you are also probably used to seeing yourself in the mirror more
2021-03-05 02:24
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#17
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Russia VelsVivard
A bunch of these sound like consolation but you will struggle disagreeing with them, maybe you're right.
2021-03-05 02:25
#18
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Japan no_u
glad it's not only me lol
2021-03-05 02:26
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#25
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Russia VelsVivard
I always thought it was a popular belief, or an issue, if you prefer.
2021-03-05 03:30
mirror image is a far better representation of what you look like from a third person perspective (just inverted). photos shouldn't matter, their lens' causes some distortion, also mirrors are typically placed in areas with good light (otherwise they would be kinda useless) , so, I guess that helps a bit.
2021-03-05 02:27
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#24
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Russia VelsVivard
It cleared out a little, thanks.
2021-03-05 03:29
If it's something I'm sending to a chick, like a snap, I prefer to take a video of myself.
2021-03-05 02:36
learn how to use adobe photoshop
2021-03-05 02:44
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lamo +100 to boost the ego
2021-03-05 15:14
Lean to love yourself, for that a man who cannot love himself, cannot show love to others.
2021-03-05 03:37
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#29
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Russia VelsVivard
Thanks for your wisdom, I agree with it.
2021-03-05 04:14
+1
2021-03-05 17:15
you most often see yourself in the mirror, so you are used to it. its the reason why you think other people look good in pictures but not you, because you are also more used to seeing them that way
2021-03-05 04:18
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#32
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Russia VelsVivard
Makes sense, if I can convey an emotion while being filmed, I've no issues with that, if it's genuine it does look good. But I'm so new to taking pictures of myself that every time I do the face just looks dumb, I get lost in thoughts and ways to present myself so it ends up being silly but when it's unexpected, it's almost always alright. What you say.
2021-03-05 04:20
like 80% of people look worse in the picture than in real life. the rest 20% vice versa
2021-03-05 04:28
Eventually you reach a point in your life where you go "fuck it, I'm just going to love this person I see in the mirror, who gives a shit about comparing to everyone else". It's liberating, would recommend.
2021-03-05 04:28
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#37
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Russia VelsVivard
Of course, I don't mind myself, I got my share of unfortunate features but it's much more than just doable. I just wonder if it's the same with everyone else, I'm pretty in the mirror, kind of blunt and dumb on photos. Silly girl!
2021-03-05 04:30
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I don't even take selfies anymore. Unless you have great genetics you need to do a bunch of bullshit to make them look good - angles, clothes, makeup if you're a woman, be doing something exciting, using professional photographers. Only practical use I had for them was online dating, but I'm not single so no need. Better off just meeting people in person and letting them see your ugly ass self out of the gate anyway, and then win them with charm (that's my strategy anyway hahaha). Mind you - this is more true for a guy than a girl. It's a lot easier for us to make up for looks in other ways than it is for women.
2021-03-05 06:48
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#84
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Russia VelsVivard
Absolutely agree, that's the only use I saw for them as well. It hasn't been very fruitful for me yet, I guess they do see me differently. Did you get one outside or someone actually fell for you beyond the screen?
2021-03-05 11:19
Workout for some time. Thank me later.
2021-03-05 04:30
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#38
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Russia VelsVivard
It has no use for the facial appeal, that's what matters.
2021-03-05 04:31
10 replies
Look at Christian Bale in this movies, look how dif he looks when he is very skinny vs very fat vs muscular, come back here and type this again.
2021-03-05 04:53
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#48
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Lebanon Dogman69
you cant fix your bones by lifting metal against gravity
2021-03-05 04:55
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The point is not fix anything, is to accept what you got and make the best out of it. If you´re not working out, you´re looking the best you could. Simple as that.
2021-03-05 04:57
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#57
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Lebanon Dogman69
working out only improves your face if you are fat so your features become more prominent if you are not fat, its pointless for facial beauty Bones matter
2021-03-05 04:59
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Even if you´re right, my man, better an ugly hot motherfucker than an ugly skinny/fat one. In the end, again, if you´re not working out, you´re wasting your time and not looking as good as you could.
2021-03-05 05:01
#50
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Russia VelsVivard
If I don't like his face, I won't care if he's fat, skinny or buffed. And face is what I'm after, if I can find a way to make it look genuine and convincing in photos, I'll get to the body.
2021-03-05 04:55
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Your approach seems to be working very well, since you´re here bitching about it. Keep doing it.
2021-03-05 04:56
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#56
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Russia VelsVivard
I'm just wondering, it's not even that big of an issue to me. If I want it much enough I'll have a nice photo but your logic that 'working out' is the solution to everything, no matter what you'll be looking twice as good is kind of strange to me, clear the mess inside you and then work on the outside.
2021-03-05 04:58
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Again, I´m not saying working out is the solution for nothing, mate. All I´m saying is if you´re not working out, you´re not looking the best you can. Simple as that. And yes, having a decent muscle/fat ratio changes your face, like I prove it to you mentioning Chris Bale (only because he is a good example of a guy who went the path of very skinny, very fat and very muscular, few men did that).
2021-03-05 05:00
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#64
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Russia VelsVivard
Well yes, a good body is great to have but if you're not confident about your face it won't solve the issue, things will get better but the face will remain the same. Only if you learn to accept and start loving yourself the way you are, it will have an effect.
2021-03-05 05:03
#99
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Germany ChRiZOwow
It sounds so easy, yet it's very difficult to perform when it a complete beginner and don't know of you do the exercises right.
2021-03-05 15:22
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#154
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Slovakia ypsylonnn
trainer
2021-03-05 18:11
I went from 54kg to 70kg only with calisthenics, then I started adding plates and here I am with 75kg now. Youtube is your friend. Go slowly, form above it all, you want to stimulate the muscle, not move the load. Don´t be lazy, take the time you need to study, you will be fine. Above it all, just start.
2021-03-05 23:01
I hate myself in both
2021-03-05 04:34
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#40
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Russia VelsVivard
Don't say so, nobody's perfect but no one's got it all worst. Pour some sugar on yourself and focus on the positives.
2021-03-05 04:37
14 replies
On top of hating how I look I also think I am just a terrible person in general. I ruin almost every situation I get into
2021-03-05 04:39
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#43
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Russia VelsVivard
I don't believe you, unless you want it that way, you can't blame yourself for every misfortune you happen to have. We can be friends and I'll try to straighten you up and so we will advance together from there.
2021-03-05 04:40
12 replies
I do not know how to be a good friend. Every friendship I have ever been in has ended terribly
2021-03-05 04:55
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#53
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Russia VelsVivard
But it's me this time around, I know, I'll help you and guide you through it, I lost many a friend too, well, not many, but a good one and it hurt so bad. Together we must stand tall and survive.
2021-03-05 04:57
10 replies
how do I be good friend?
2021-03-05 04:58
9 replies
#58
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Russia VelsVivard
Be respectful, attentive to what's being and selfless, whether it's a discussion or an act together. Just be there and make sure your presence isn't being acted but genuine.
2021-03-05 04:59
8 replies
I honestly feel like I do most of these things, or at least try my best to. But i still can’t keep any friends. I think something is just wrong with me
2021-03-05 05:02
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#65
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Russia VelsVivard
Maybe it's the friends, who never really were friends to begin with. If you honestly attempt to be all of that and they still leave you, you just gotta wave them goodbye and never think about again. There will be those who will like you the way you are, like me for example.
2021-03-05 05:05
6 replies
why you like me?
2021-03-05 05:10
5 replies
#70
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Russia VelsVivard
I think I can help you, it's easy to befriend people in need.
2021-03-05 05:16
4 replies
u very nice person :D
2021-03-05 05:18
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#74
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Russia VelsVivard
We could talk about anything and as often as we'd both like, I'm lonely too and there's nothing really good in that. Consider adding me on Steam, id/jovik
2021-03-05 05:20
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i need to go sleep I am very tired Goodbye mr jovik!
2021-03-05 05:22
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#78
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Russia VelsVivard
Goodbye pretty girl, hope to you see again.
2021-03-05 05:23
#42
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Lebanon Dogman69
your not photogenic that's why they take photo shoots of models because some look hot and beautiful if you see on the street but not that good on photgraphs
2021-03-05 04:39
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#44
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Russia VelsVivard
I see what you mean but I don't agree, not saying that I couldn't be just simply ugly in both dimensions, but I never took pictures of myself and for one to be photogenic you'd need to be comfortable at what you're doing. I can take a nice picture of you, but not myself. Mirror says I can be photogenic in the masterful hands!
2021-03-05 04:42
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#45
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Lebanon Dogman69
so you think a pro photographer can make the best out of you? maybe or you can spend some time learning how to pose for pictures or take correct angles for your face to look better
2021-03-05 04:48
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#47
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Russia VelsVivard
Not even the 'pro', just a person who knows what he's doing. I mean, you can tell when the photo is gonna turn out good or not, you just have that sense for the framing and overall look of the picture. Or maybe the second yes, but I don't think a really good picture is possible without the second man. Surely not if you're of an average look, if you're a model, maybe.
2021-03-05 04:55
No as i see a stranger in the mirror or in images, not myself. That is due to being born in a males body when I'm female
2021-03-05 04:57
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#60
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Russia VelsVivard
How could you be born female in a male's body? Your mind can be easily twisted and influenced from aside, your body is the only solid matter and thus must define who you are.
2021-03-05 05:01
13 replies
Perhaps you should try being less close minded friend? Yes I understand the basic scientific argument of what's in your pants is your gender but considering there are millions of people all around the world who undergo gender transition i think there is a little more to it than a basic scientific observation. The depression i feel every day from waking up and not seeing my 'true self' in the mirror is real (and observable). I just take solice in the fact I was born into a time where its becoming VERY socially acceptable and the work to transition (im doing the full package) is relatively easy (well speech therapy isn't going to be fun but)
2021-03-05 05:10
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#68
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Russia VelsVivard
I'll take the hit of being close minded, be it. But I'm certain, absolutely sure, it's an issue that can be solved without the bloodletting and deep cuts. You gotta learn to accept yourself and execute that little demon within you that tells you that you shouldn't like what you got and there's grass greener on the other side, just disfigure yourself once and for all and you'll be happy forever. Life can be equally great and miserable for both man and woman, striking against the nature's will is never a winning strategy. Even when you'll get there, being so impatient with any sort of imperfection in life you will find a thousands of other issues that will trouble your day everyday. But me, I'm not wishing you that. Whatever you decide, I hope you'll be happy and satisfied of the things done.
2021-03-05 05:15
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I mean tbf there is medical precedent for gender transition, many people are born with dysphoria or have different chromosomes
2021-03-05 05:17
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#73
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Russia VelsVivard
I didn't invest into it a bit, just speaking from the common sense. Maybe you're right, but to me it rings a weak mentality and victimizing of yourself. Can you just tell to your face that I'll make the best of what I got and others will envy me? Why should I pine and seek ways to exit it when I can stand tall and get what belongs to me? I don't know.
2021-03-05 05:20
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From your or my perspective yes, but for others no, and we cannot presume to put ourselves in theyre perspective if we dont knownwhat they are going through
2021-03-05 05:21
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#77
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Russia VelsVivard
If we allow ourselves to treat it as a mental disorder, no matter how harsh and offensive it may sound, I actually believe we could solve this issue in its root. Just basically having someone to talk to can do wonders, people need friends and understanding. You'll go lengths in desperation and attempts to be accepted/liked.
2021-03-05 05:23
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One issue with your logic. I'm doing this for me and I don't really care what it costs me (social life, marriage, work, etc). It isn't about being accepted or liked. The only thing it is about is allowing myself to finally feel a semblance of normality towards myself (the exact same way you feel about yourself).
2021-03-05 15:00
Side note. Talking about this actually got me to 'come out' to my wife. So talking about this helped me decide to undergo feminisation surgery?
2021-03-05 15:01
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I don't understand, the issue may lie in something else and this decision is a sign of you wanting to solve it but you don't know how exactly. I honestly have no idea, if a man wants to become a woman, well it's just wrong, there's something off and that something won't be cut out with a surgeon knife. There has to be another type of therapy. I'll gladly accept the tag of the narrow minded.
2021-03-05 16:50
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Transition literally saves peoples's lives. Lives saved vs a 0.05% regret rate? I don't see this as being wrong or something off. I do understand that you couldn't possibly ever understand unless it's something you've felt yourself. I'm happy you were born happy in your own skin man.. I'm wasn't but there is a way to fix it
2021-03-05 17:04
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Are you sure your mind won't be changed some years down the line? The way you feel wrong inside your skin right now might return in the matter of you feeling wrong about cheating the script and changing sides midround. I'm curious, I don't know how it works and what is going on inside you. If only I could take a little look and ease all your worries and turn sadness to gladness.
2021-03-05 17:08
The mind owns the body more than other way around. If mind is strong you are strong. If your body is strong and your mind is 50 IQ you are useless.
2021-03-05 15:02
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Yeah that's correct but I mean for determination, mind is an abstract entity, your brain can be both big and small but the body is what does the final cut.
2021-03-05 17:10
Send a selfie
2021-03-05 05:35
Everybody thinks they look like shit because they compare themselves to some impossible standard like bruno mars and shit, just accept yourself and take care of your image (dressing well and washing your face and hair) and you will look good to the average person, and anyone who cares so much is shallow af anyway
2021-03-05 05:16
#83
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Korea XigNw0w
Same, in some angles I look hot, handsome and others I look like a goblin, especially if my friend takes a picture. I also noticed a lot of zoomer males and why not females as well tend to cover their hair with a hood or use a mask, so you can't properly see their face, then they use filters and look gorgeous. When you see them irl, they are the exact opposite.
2021-03-05 08:09
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#85
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Russia VelsVivard
My phones' cameras don't love me, I've no idea what did I do to them. They just strike against my natural beauty. Screw them.
2021-03-05 11:20
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#86
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Korea XigNw0w
Well, it's a better choice than use filthy filters and put a hood on your head and wear a mask to look hot.
2021-03-05 13:01
When you used to see yourself in photos you start to believe you look like the guy in the mirror.
2021-03-05 15:01
1 reply
Well said, I want that day to be tomorrow so I'll have a little more courage uploading photos with my face in it.
2021-03-05 16:47
I am so hot in mirror I wanna make me my boyfriend
2021-03-05 15:04
I believe there is this thing where your mirror shows you another way than your phone. One shows you direct, one shows you mirrored. You always like the mirrored version.
2021-03-05 15:05
It's the mirror beauty effect brother. Ur just ugly nothing more nothing less.
2021-03-05 15:05
5 replies
That's the harsh truth I've been looking for. Do you like yourself both in the mirror and on picture?
2021-03-05 16:46
4 replies
What actually happens is that your face is not perfectly symmetrical, which is fine , cuz not one person on earth has a symmetrical face, but when you look in the mirror you get used to them. Go to a mirror and close both of your eyes one at a time and you will see a difference.On picture they are reversed and you re not used to seeing them like that. Also it depends on the camera lens (the bigger the lens the better you look most of the times) thats why proffesional models get close up photos taken by proffesional photographers and not i phone cam...
2021-03-05 17:24
I find myself handsome in the mirror & pictures. ^the guy above is talking about selfies..
2021-03-05 17:45
2 replies
I'm talking about selfies too, the pictures you're taking yourself.
2021-03-05 17:52
1 reply
Aha with selfies angles/lightning matter a lot.
2021-03-05 18:26
#94
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Canada roylin
mirror HD
2021-03-05 15:07
you have distorted mental image of yourself, in the mirror you see more likely what you wish to see rather than what is really there
2021-03-05 15:10
2 replies
You may be right and it's bad news if it's actually so, you have it different?
2021-03-05 16:46
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it's complex issue: the image is 2D when reality is 3D so it's not always 100% accurate, second thing is that image is always fraction of a moment frozen in time - that's never happen in real life as well - the reality is always "moving" - that's why pro photographes or new cameras do mulitple shots and they choose few the best from thousand of photos that's is why would rather suggest to record videos and adjust yourself to what you see, cuz it's closer to how other are seeing you in real life (still there is lighthing and camera quality involved)
2021-03-05 23:52
Stop thinking about stuff like pictures and the mirror. Just focus on being healthy, listening to your body and what it wants, and accepting how you feel. learn to relax and enjoy life in the present. focus on nourishing yourself, not to achieve attractiveness, but because it feels good.
2021-03-05 15:15
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Makes sense, I don't think I can do that, I grew dependent on what people think about me. It's inevitable, we live in society. The extent varies but it'll always be there.
2021-03-05 16:45
#98
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Germany ChRiZOwow
I think I'm the ugliest person on the world when looking in the mirror...
2021-03-05 15:19
4 replies
+1 Me too, friend. Me too...
2021-03-05 15:31
But do you like yourself on pictures more? Or is it the same effect? I hate myself on most photos I have too and I actually delete them overtime, time doesn't help it.
2021-03-05 16:44
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#113
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Germany ChRiZOwow
On pictures it's the same '((((
2021-03-05 16:49
1 reply
Some of us tend to only focus on the negatives, I'm sure if you showed us a picture or two, we would never agree with you. There's always some goods and bads to every person's appearance but thrashing yourself like that is not the solution! It's recoverable and can be done quite easily, it's just one wish away! Let's unite and improve our lives together.
2021-03-05 16:52
I'm not ugly but I do not like how I look in the mirror or in selfies, always try to avoid being in photos when I'm out with friends or at a social event, I started working out I take care of my skin but no matter what I do I always dislike myself the same
2021-03-05 15:25
2 replies
Can it be some psychological issue? If you know deep inside, that you actually look very fine, why can't you love yourself on pictures too?
2021-03-05 16:43
1 reply
It may be that however I'd like to mention that I don't think I look bad but I also don't think I look good, I'm just average but all my friends are good looking and I can't help from comparing myself to them
2021-03-05 20:27
I'm the same, to be quite frank. I don't like having my picture taken and I don't really like looking in the mirror. I also refer to myself as the ugliest person to have ever existed even though I encourage others to have more confidence in themselves -- I'm just being honest. :D Others have said to me that I am very attractive but I only put that down to being half-Italian.
2021-03-05 15:31
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May I ask ya, did you ever post your photos in the thread dedicated to showing pictures of yourself? I'll tell you I never did, I didn't have good photos at the time. And I think you're being too harsh on yourself, especially, especially if others have said that you're pretty cute. I bet you can tell when people are lying and saying things to be nice, if they actually did mean it, maybe you're just beating yourself to death? I don't like myself on pictures because I can never capture the emotion I try to think of at the time but when it's done at the right moment and the camera actually catches it, it looks alright.
2021-03-05 16:42
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"May I ask ya, did you ever post your photos in the thread dedicated to showing pictures of yourself? I'll tell you I never did, I didn't have good photos at the time." I didn't, no. When those threads were made, I rarely participated in them and the only time anybody on HLTV saw a picture of me was when Don_Haci leaked it from Facebook after I exposed his arse to the HLTV admins/mods. Following that, several threads were made and I practically deleted every photo I had on Facebook bar a few. "And I think you're being too harsh on yourself, especially, especially if others have said that you're pretty cute. I bet you can tell when people are lying and saying things to be nice, if they actually did mean it, maybe you're just beating yourself to death?" I don't whether it is a social-anxiety thing or a lack of vanity thing, I just find myself unattractive... I lack that certain thing to look in the mirror to make yourself look decent - I never did that.
2021-03-05 16:53
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What a lousy guy he is, you could tell it by the way he communicates and talks to others. Somehow he still has some following. I can't believe. Do you believe in a theory the more unattractive you think you are, the more attractive you look to other people? How sweet and easy things would be if it was common and true. With a personality that you have and with its span, I don't think you can realistically be ugly to any mature person. The outside can be easily recovered and glowy if we start loving ourselves first. You took care of your guts so the hardest is behind.
2021-03-05 16:57
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"What a lousy guy he is, you could tell it by the way he communicates and talks to others. Somehow he still has some following. I can't believe." Well "following" is a bit of an exaggeration... but indeed, the guy still has some semblance of a gathering, though now he resides on Twitter to continue the whole "god-complex/baiter" thing. "Do you believe in a theory the more unattractive you think you are, the more attractive you look to other people? How sweet and easy things would be if it was common and true. With a personality that you have and with its span, I don't think you can realistically be ugly to any mature person. The outside can be easily recovered and glowy if we start loving ourselves first. You took care of your guts so the hardest is behind." Personally, no but only because I know attraction is always going to differ depending upon the person, it matters not what we think of ourselves, all we can do is simply be our best and look our best. If others don't necessarily see that or the time + effort put into it, then there is nothing we can do about that.
2021-03-05 17:00
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It's so cold here and your reply makes it colder, I'm certain your soul resides in Siberia. When will you meet on the summer beaches of self acceptance and falling in love with yourself? Whatever that is, thanks for the well written reply and have a good one.
2021-03-05 17:05
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Have a good day, friend. :D
2021-03-05 18:35
expected from virgin nerd cringe boomer
2021-03-05 17:48
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I am neither of those things, friend. I respect your opinion, as always.
2021-03-05 18:35
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if a girl called u attractive that doesnt know u u r attractive btw
2021-03-05 18:49
Exactly the same for me
2021-03-05 15:38
Only girls look good in pictures
2021-03-05 16:48
2 replies
they're so good at frauding, 99% of the girls i know look worse in real life than in photos
2021-03-05 16:55
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I know girls that look really good irl but in pictures they look like different people. Ugly chubby girls somehow get the face of Gisele. Absolute magic. These bitches witches
2021-03-05 16:57
You need Dianetics and Scientology
2021-03-05 16:50
no idea aswell actually I look good on the mirror but on when someone taking pic of me it's always seems off on some selfies i look good but on most i look terrible sometimes i get good compliments tho about my face from here and there so no idea brother WORST thing is for me is watching a video of myself in movement lmao i cringe so bad probably just cause brain isn't used to it
2021-03-05 16:55
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I think so too, we're not used to seeing ourselves from a third person view and it just looks stranger, something's off. Sometimes, a lucky snap will make a photo look good but most of the time it looks acted and plastic. At least for me.
2021-03-05 16:59
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no idea bro. better not to overlook it i guess
2021-03-05 17:16
don't look too much in the mirror or cameras tho, body dysmorphic disorder may arrive. my facial features for example are pretty average, but my face is harmonious and pretty well proportioned and some people like this averageness too, some won't see you attractive, some ppl will
2021-03-05 17:33
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Thanks for the heads up, I ain't gonna be obsessed over it for sure!
2021-03-05 17:44
#127
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Romania Anonym20
i'm very confident in everything i do but photos i hate taking photos of myself
2021-03-05 17:09
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This thread shows you're not alone, many a guy share this issue.
2021-03-05 17:10
I have the same thing
2021-03-05 17:38
It's due to the mere-exposure effect. An effect that describes that people tend to start liking things more when they are exposed to it more often. You see yourself a lot of times in mirror image, will your selfie isn't mirrored
2021-03-05 17:54
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It's a common belief, I tend to think so too but there's more to that. It's just not the same.
2021-03-05 17:55
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Idk man, this is the first thing that came to mind. Maybe it's because of the different perspectives?. Like handheld compared to a mirror, maybe you are just more self aware in pictures.
2021-03-05 17:59
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Agreed, it must be a little from everything and it ends up being very messy and not convincing at all.
2021-03-05 18:00
3 replies
Maybe you can ask someone else? Like take a photo of yourself and stand in front of a mirror and ask if it makes a difference to them.
2021-03-05 18:05
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I'm searching a photography service to take a several pictures of myself. I'm a lot more confident when I need to pose, rather than pull the trigger. I feel like I could be a good actor with time, let them do the trick, I'll just be there! It's just very hard to have a good pic with the limited tools.
2021-03-05 18:07
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Ah i see, let me know
2021-03-05 22:54
One major factor is that photos generally show us the reverse of what we see in the mirror. When you take a photo of yourself using some (but not all) apps or the front-facing camera on an iPhone, the resulting image captures your face as others see it. The same is true for non-phone cameras.
2021-03-05 18:00
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So should I just get used to what I'm seeing and start liking the guy on the other side? No use holding to that mirrored me?
2021-03-05 18:01
1 reply
Accept yourself how you are, if you are confident in your body then others will see that confidence and find you even more attractive
2021-03-05 18:12
i have near overwhelming existential dread when i see myself :DDDD
2021-03-05 18:07
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Turns out we're not alone at that, look how many gathered just to share their stage of dread over it!
2021-03-05 18:08
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Always interesting to see how other people think of themselves.
2021-03-05 19:28
who cares the times we're heading towards no one will give a shit about ur looks anymor ^^
2021-03-05 18:10
Scientifically, mirror is better : You always have the same light, and you've looked at yourself THOUSANDS of time in it. For a selfie, the light changes as the angle, and you feel like it's unnatural. Your brain thinks your nose is bigger usually, it also deforms some face traits. And of course, the more you look, the more ugly you're gonna look, since you're going to see more flaws that you can't see in a general face picture
2021-03-05 18:38
like many others have mentioned and pointed out, you've seen yourself in the mirror many times and it's inverted. you'll look different in a photograph and it can be weird and or not "good looking". personally i do find it odd sometimes when i look at myself in a picture, but never thought myself as "ugly", just dress well, have a shower, aftershave maybe, and thats as much self care i feel the need to ever do. confidence in yourself and your personality > those little bits in your face that normal people probably never notice.
2021-03-05 18:46
I went to make new ID card, and I got shock how I looked. The flash from above and my face was flipped.. the flash took visible all the small acne you dont normally see.. I Got rid of acne now, though. But I love seeing myself in the mirror, selfies are good too now.
2021-03-05 18:50
I always felt like you but for some reason i never do that anymore. I almost feel like the best looking person nowadays, even though i’m not that good looking. Simply because i don’t care, i am happy and satisfied with myself because to me i am enough.
2021-03-05 18:53
It will pass with age I guess. Everybody is beautiful!
2021-03-05 18:54
it takes me a min to snap back bc of this fr
2021-03-05 19:31
#168
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Kazakhstan RiNat1337
same sh1t, at mirror reflection - i like my face. but in photos...doesn't like...idk why, but i think this problem must be resolved in the near future
2021-03-05 19:39
Same but I think it's just the same as with your voice. You just aren't used to it and dislike it. I just took a normal and a mirrored selfie with my phone and although it's the same angle, lighting etc. it looks way different
2021-03-05 20:08
Your photo self is your real self as many have said. BUT the reason you (and many people) prefer their mirror selves is because that is what they are used to. Other people are used to your photo self and will probably like it better than your mirror self. If they were to stand next to you in front of a mirror, they would think your mirror self looks weird.
2021-03-05 22:56
If you start doing the things only for yourself instead of other people, you will be fine.
2021-03-05 23:47
Be confident
2021-03-05 23:54
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