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Single people aged 25 and more
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Russia VelsVivard 
Do you even exist? Tell me how do you get by and tell me if you got used to loneliness and it doesn't bother you anymore? Is there anybody single at that age and fine with it? How do you reset and still enjoy being around?
2021-03-20 10:21
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#1
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Norway TheDEA
I try not to think about it.
2021-03-20 10:21
19 replies
#53
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Russia VelsVivard
Does it help?
2021-03-20 16:54
10 replies
#304
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Norway TheDEA
No mens))
2021-03-22 19:21
9 replies
How do you deal with it then? What makes you smile everyday?
2021-03-23 10:45
8 replies
#476
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Norway TheDEA
Exist: Yes, I exist. Get by: Day by day right now. Loneliness: Felt more lonely when I was in a relationship. I got lots of friends, but I have always enjoyed time alone. Don't know how to get used to it, It came naturally. Makes me smile: Almost everything makes me smile. LSD > Weed. But it can get really dark, really fast if someone says "You're almost 30". But every life is different, every brain is different, it's your own job to find out what makes you happy.
2021-03-23 12:31
7 replies
"got lots of friends", need nothing more to hear. Friends can drag your butt out of many a trouble and I understand that having no love of your life beside you is tough and depressing, but I don't even have friends. And I wonder how.
2021-03-23 12:38
6 replies
#488
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Norway TheDEA
How old are you mens))?
2021-03-23 12:44
5 replies
24 fel.
2021-03-23 12:45
4 replies
#491
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Norway TheDEA
You're young and shouldn't worry too much about these things. Baz Luhrmann said "worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum". Friends come and go, work towards keeping the friends you cherish. I've lost lots of friends, all because I didn't take the initiative to hang out. That's maybe not your problem, but it's certainly the most common problem.
2021-03-23 13:00
3 replies
I've been unwise before but now I want to be careful and tender but I don't have them anymore. They are gone.
2021-03-23 13:19
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#496
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Norway TheDEA
Again, Friends come and go. My ex didn't have any childhood friends, she kind of used and abused the ones she got in university. But now she has a few close ones. I guess there is always hope, and it seems you have learned from past mistakes.
2021-03-23 13:26
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Yeah, we'll be alright I believe. Sounds like you just recently had a girl by your side? Or is she still there? To me it's still pretty much a mystery, when will my dreams come true!
2021-03-23 13:43
+1 It sucks. I´m adult but live like a teenager. Hard for women to get over that. I don´t think people at my job or where I live are interesting (and they don´t think I´m interesting). See my football team mates and my nerd friends, that´s it. It´s ok most of the time, but I miss having female friends and going to theatre and other culturel stuff. My male friends don´t care for those things, except for one old school buddy. We travel every 1-2 years.
2021-03-26 15:48
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#580
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Norway TheDEA
Define "live like a teenager". I live in a one room rn, so I'm not going to bring anyone home.
2021-03-26 18:23
6 replies
When main interests are sports, gaming, fantasy and even Lego But I have a good 3 room apartment
2021-03-26 23:13
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#600
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Norway TheDEA
Lego is alittle weird, not going to lie. But I know the appeal
2021-03-27 13:34
i dont get that kind of logic tbh. can you explain?
2021-03-27 13:22
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#603
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Norway TheDEA
Little exaggeration I guess. I don't have to live in a 1 room, it was just the simplest at the time.
2021-03-27 13:41
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nah, i meant: why arent you rbinging someone home to a one-room-appartment or even sharede appartement i moved out with my aprents when i was 16 and living in shared appartements until 30 or so and i think its quite normal to do so. no woman i took home ever said: uh, you dont have your own palace... maybe your looking for the wrong kinda woman?
2021-03-27 13:46
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#608
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Norway TheDEA
You're right. But I did exaggerate, will try my luck this summer.
2021-03-27 14:16
I have many friends like this. Some are lonely and just can't find the right girl, but most are happy to be free and have sex without commitment with different sexual partners.
2021-03-20 10:26
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Second part, very true.
2021-03-23 13:04
Alcohol, drugs and lot of activities. Just keeping yourself too fucked up and too busy to care
2021-03-20 10:26
3 replies
+1111
2021-03-23 11:46
Bye in 2030, too much alco and drugs ruin you
2021-03-27 20:08
1 reply
Posting while breathing air from ur polluted city and sipping soda? Everything in moderation
2021-03-27 20:20
I see u want to be prepared for ur future mr jovik/c Dw u still have like 10 years to avoid it Also hope u ve been missing me
2021-03-20 10:28
6 replies
#18
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Russia iiinej
underrated reply
2021-03-20 10:52
arboga?
2021-03-20 11:01
1 reply
nope i just havent had enough opportunities to use hltv
2021-03-20 11:04
#26
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Russia VelsVivard
What do you mean I don't get it?
2021-03-20 11:04
2 replies
#91
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El Salvador w7tv
he is calling OP to do SO things like gutural analysis and shout out mald
2021-03-20 17:44
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#96
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Russia VelsVivard
Don't get it anyway.
2021-03-20 17:47
i wasn't in a rly serious relationship until i was 25 either, so what. never force a relationship just for the sake of having a relationship, that's something many women do unconsciously for various reasons and it's wrong on many levels. just enjoy yourself, being alone is the best time to figure out yourself and build your character. if the right person comes around who is worthy of your time and effort you will know it, until then fuck them.
2021-03-20 10:39
21 replies
Sexist
2021-03-20 10:40
2 replies
for sure
2021-03-20 11:05
stfu Dimka
2021-03-21 01:32
+1.
2021-03-20 16:51
+1 fax
2021-03-21 00:01
i rarely do this with jermans but +1
2021-03-21 00:40
biggest +1
2021-03-22 07:42
big brain
2021-03-22 10:18
Sounds about right, but how to enjoy life alone? Can anyone teach me?
2021-03-22 10:20
10 replies
Don't you have any friends and/or family ?
2021-03-23 11:18
9 replies
No friends and I do have family, but what good of having a family at this age? They won't replace you friends.
2021-03-23 11:24
8 replies
Then the reason why you feel like you need this relation is obvious. However, you should be careful not to confuse friend and partner, as it could very well ruin your upcoming relation if you try to be too friendly. Having your woman as a friend is good when you are 50 yo and that real love is long gone. When you are younger and/or in a new relationship, this is usually a no go.
2021-03-23 11:31
7 replies
I don't really care I just feel like I'm not living my life when I'm not talking to people. Even right now, I feel better than a moment ago because I'm typing all this to you. I never cared about it but recently I have changed and I need people to get by.
2021-03-23 11:33
6 replies
I somewhat understand this feeling, I wasn't lonely before but I used to not care about loneliness, about not going out and meeting people, etc All I am saying is that it is easier and faster to get acquainted with some friends than finding the love of your life.
2021-03-23 11:35
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Yeah, finding the love of my life, although is a top priority but not the only thing I'm looking for. I just need friends and maybe then I'll be able to find her. People I could call friends are all enjoying their lives in either games or someone else doing some non productive crap I can't do anymore. I need some real life activities and lots and lots of talking and knowing each other. Nobody can give it to me now, even online interactions would do at this point.
2021-03-23 11:38
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#502
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France Poloqua
how are ur poems going ?
2021-03-23 14:30
3 replies
Are you one of those friendly gracious French guys that helped me with the lyrics? I'm recording around, I believe I'll be dropping my first release this month and then little by little I'll get to that tune you helped me with!
2021-03-23 14:31
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#504
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France Poloqua
great to hear, and yes i am ;) Hope u get better friend, just wait for corona to be over :)
2021-03-23 14:33
1 reply
Thank you for the kind words, bad times caught me off guard, I struggle now but not giving up! Music gets us through sometimes!
2021-03-23 14:37
Pretty much this
2021-03-23 11:18
+1 chad mentality
2021-03-23 23:57
Why would you want to get married before 25? I am 24 and can't imagine marrying a girl in the next 2-3 years.
2021-03-20 10:41
5 replies
+999
2021-03-20 17:42
#88
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Russia VelsVivard
If it's love, it's never too soon.
2021-03-20 17:42
2 replies
are u sure? divorce rate in our country is awful russia.duck.consulting/maps/98
2021-03-21 20:50
1 reply
Many factors to consider, depends on the individuals and their parenting but if you take an average man from a proper family and an average woman when they're both in love, there's no reason for it to break.
2021-03-22 03:35
why would you want to get married. Here it's pretty normal to just stay gf/bf forever
2021-03-27 13:43
I learned early in life that relationship are not needed, so I became a loner focusing only on boxing and gym and don't care about shit anymore. I'm feeling the best I ever did. but I'm also not really saying no, if some girl comes around and everything clicks I'm sure gonna try it. But I don't have expectation anymore in others, I just do my own thing. if u can't be alone, it's a bad sign my men and u need to fix it.
2021-03-20 10:41
1 reply
+1 for last sentence +100000000000
2021-03-20 18:11
Why people have that need of being in a relationship? It should come naturally. If it doesn't happen at 25 don't rush it because you will regret it in the long run 9/10 times.
2021-03-20 10:42
17 replies
its a mental disorder or more a big insecurity i heard, relying on others emotions to feel good in life.
2021-03-20 10:44
15 replies
If you don't feel good and complete by yourself, you'll hurt your partner and yourself in every relationship you have. Being dependent is a mental disease.
2021-03-20 10:51
14 replies
There are many relationships where one is dependant on the other and it works just fine I guess or like what do you mean by dependant, do you mean like emotionally unstable like my life is shit alone so im gonna suicide without a relationship or smth? Or how do you mean it?
2021-03-20 18:37
13 replies
I'm refering to people who doesn't feel good enough by themselves emotionally. People whose realization in life is dependant on their partner. People that cannot be emotionally stable without their partner. What's the kind of dependency that you don't judge as "wrong" if I may ask? To me if you cannot be happy independently then you are just gonna bring misery onto another person's life.
2021-03-20 22:31
12 replies
Okey but like, this is very common I believe? You have relationships where either the man or woman is more dominant meaning that the submissive partner is dependant on the leading choices done by the dominant partner so you are like dependant on them as the sub, and like those submissive people are usually submisive because of a reason such as cant handle stress, cant lead etc etc so like emotionally connected things I believe.
2021-03-20 22:56
11 replies
The fact that it is common doesn't make it right you see.
2021-03-20 23:34
2 replies
Well as long as those relationships can function normally(which they can, if you google some dating experts they will most likely confirm this that if the 2 are open minded and comitted enough they can easily make it work) why would it be a problem if the relationship can function normally? If 2 people are happy with each other, why would it be a problem that someone is dependant on someone if the result is that they are happy together and they are together even partly because of the compatibility reason(dominant ppl fit to subs) then why is that an issue?
2021-03-20 23:40
Like there will always be people who are more dependant on support it used to be like this it is like this and it will continue to be like this, and if they can get a good matching partner to them, then they should just enjoy the relationship shouldnt they? People with ADHD specifically for example have those problems, you can google partners complaining that they feel like parents to such a partner with ADHD but does that mean they should never date and be left alone in the dust(the ADHD people)? There is an open market for people that like those adorable dependant partners so like why not u know
2021-03-20 23:56
Most of people are actually like these. It is also proven that such couples (dom/sub personalities) tend to last more and be happier than the average "egalitarian" couple, where arguments happen more often and egos might clash.
2021-03-23 11:23
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Yeah I mean, the reason I wanted to "debate" him is bcs he was generally speaking that being sub is basically a mental illness and such, meanwhile its completely normal, ppl come in all kinds of shapes and qualities that differentiate each other from another saying one is right other is wrong is just bad imo, people dont work like physical laws or something were all unique, and for you well do you have any evidence for your statements?(im not opposing it I would just like to see what are you pulling your statement from)
2021-03-23 12:15
6 replies
Bruh. In what world do we live in so I have to explain to another guy why dom/sub is important ? It is the case in all of the thousands mammal species. We were biologically engineered for that. It is called evolutionary psychology: this idea that humans are totally different from other animals is laughable, we too are dominated by instincts and innate behavioral patterns. The difference is that we put a "civilized" glaze above it. "Equality" is some bullshit that was invented few years ago because it suits (and perhaps it is needed) modern society - inequality between partners is the product of millions years of evolution. Sexual dimorphism isn't here for nothing. Men are made to be dominant. They don't have to be, but they are made for it and therefore most of them will naturally be, unless they are castrated by society, by their parents or... their partner. Ofc human brain is quite complex and many exceptions exist, but the rule of thumb leans toward non-egalitarian relationship.
2021-03-23 12:29
3 replies
What do you mean by being castrated by society? Like convinced by partner, society or anyone of egalitarian values?
2021-03-23 12:44
2 replies
I mean that some traits associated to men, such as competition, risk-taking, violence, are heavily restricted by society. I would even go as far as saying that most of society was built around males to prevent them from having destructive behavior. Parents are the main proponents of it since they are the ones transmitting social values first - for example, you teach boys not to fight because if you don't, they most likely will. On the opposite, we don't teach girls not to fight. You probably heard a lot in your life that you "shouldn't hit girls", but why do we never hear the other way around ? Scientific explaination is simple. Testosterone is highly associated with agressive and anti-social behaviors, therefore most of social repression (be it parents, school, police, law) is directed toward men. Let's be clear: I'm not saying it should be another way, I don't advocate to go back to primal state. But the line between "controling male bad instincts" and "castrating males" is thin. Most men are miserable if you hold them away from competition and risks all the time.
2021-03-23 13:41
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Okay like, yeah sure testosterone is associated with agression and such you can even see it in the crime rates where women do less crime than men, yeah genders behave differently but I think even feminists dont say that men and women are the same in terms of behaviour but more like we fight for men and women to have the same opportunities because if I ask myself and my other feminist friends nobody of them would say men and women are equal in terms of behaviour (not saying one is lower than the other, just different on average, not entirely universally but on average). Do you have a discord and would you be willing to talk about this with me? Because imo its interesting topic. EDIT: if you were wondering why I included feminism is because I think you would put it under the men repression category? So I just wanted to provide an example if I understand it correctly
2021-03-23 14:22
As for a proof that sub/dom couples last longer, just think about this: between conservative patriarcal societies and egalitarian feminist societies, in which marriages last longer on average ?
2021-03-23 12:30
1 reply
I dont know I havent seen any study on that so I cant form any conclusion
2021-03-23 12:43
#656
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Austria SplasJ
Yeah I also dont really care if I am in a relationship or not as it doesn't change what I enjoy
2021-04-03 17:04
#19
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Asia flipflop
Loneliness is better than troubled relationships
2021-03-20 10:55
7 replies
that always depends. if u base ur loneliness only on consumption or entertainment and once u turn off ur computer and ur tv u feel like shit, its bad.
2021-03-20 10:56
4 replies
I just rip a huge one if i feel sad
2021-03-22 10:22
3 replies
lol
2021-03-23 09:04
2 replies
what, it calms me down
2021-03-23 12:38
1 reply
It just caught me off guard :D
2021-03-23 21:28
seek discomfort
2021-03-23 12:00
1 reply
It's actually a good advice although it sounds bad.
2021-04-02 13:01
im 26 never had a girlfriend. i used to do alot of drugs and smoke tons of weed instead. now im looking for a gf
2021-03-20 11:02
26 replies
#50
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Russia VelsVivard
For how long have you been looking?
2021-03-20 16:49
25 replies
like a couple months
2021-03-20 17:33
24 replies
But why just now? Why not sooner? You would've found her already.
2021-03-21 07:26
23 replies
was busy.
2021-03-21 09:23
22 replies
Studies or something else?
2021-03-22 10:21
21 replies
"i used to do alot of drugs and smoke tons of weed"
2021-03-22 10:23
20 replies
And you call it being busy? More like willingly wasting your time.
2021-03-22 10:23
19 replies
I didn't call shit bro
2021-03-22 11:04
i enjoyed it alot tho
2021-03-22 11:53
17 replies
But all that time you've been alone or with friends and occassional girlfriends? It's not half as bad as it may have sounded then.
2021-03-22 12:11
16 replies
i had a gf for like 2 days when i was 15. not since then. but im sure i can get a better looking gf now than when i was 5 years older
2021-03-22 12:14
also i dont talk to my old friends no more
2021-03-22 12:15
14 replies
I get the same feeling. But tell me how do you enjoy your current life these days? How do you feel happiness while being alone? Is it still drugs that keep you up or where do you find peace?
2021-03-22 12:22
13 replies
i smoke some joints in nature. i calms me down and i realize its all just a rush. so i chill. wait till i find someone i care about
2021-03-22 12:23
12 replies
Does it actually help you? Do you have some friends right now, anyone to talk to closely, on any heart need topic?
2021-03-22 12:33
11 replies
not besides my family
2021-03-22 12:41
10 replies
Does it bother you my friend?
2021-03-22 12:50
9 replies
as i said im looking for a gf but im not stressing :-)
2021-03-22 12:52
8 replies
I just want to know, how are you Not stressing? What makes you feel alright and stable at this age? Do you have confidence that you definitely will find her or what is this?
2021-03-22 12:54
7 replies
im busy trading currencies alot atm and im pretty handsome and i get alot of looks from girls. so ill find a girlfriend when the time is right
2021-03-22 13:00
6 replies
What does it mean trading currencies? Is it like a proper job or some side hobby?
2021-03-22 14:50
5 replies
i make alot of money
2021-03-22 15:14
4 replies
In a legal way?
2021-03-22 16:02
1 reply
yeah.
2021-03-22 19:30
trading currencies making a lot of money pick one
2021-03-23 12:02
1 reply
are u dumb dumb?
2021-03-28 19:49
I'm 24 soon i'll be 25 and i can see myself being alone my whole life .. man!!
2021-03-20 11:04
3 replies
mens
2021-03-20 11:04
#34
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Russia VelsVivard
How much of that is true?
2021-03-20 11:10
damn :/
2021-03-21 09:50
ur age? imagine being single lmfao
2021-03-20 11:07
loneliness is fucked up man,
2021-03-20 11:07
#35
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Russia VelsVivard
Alright, when I say single, I mean having no friends either. Do you still exist? Or those who were never engaged before a single time?
2021-03-20 11:29
1 reply
Oh in that case, yes they exist, very much
2021-03-22 07:44
bump4jovik
2021-03-20 11:36
2 replies
#48
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Russia VelsVivard
Fenks.
2021-03-20 16:48
1 reply
np mens))
2021-03-20 18:02
I'm 25 been single for a long time and I'm doing good, I'm used to loneliness and I like it. I found out there's alot of benefits living lonely such as having more time for you to learn things about yourself and the world and do things that you like or makes you a healthier human. I have not became anti social, I still like being around good peoples but If I have to be around bad peoples I prefer to stay alone. I learned that being around bad peoples can fuck your life and drain your energy so be careful. I also know that you can't love others unless you love yourself already, being alone help with that aswell because you connect with yourself way more and deeper than being with someone or peoples all the time.
2021-03-20 11:48
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#59
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Azerbaijan Talley
totally agreed
2021-03-20 17:15
Damn it's actually a thing I guess that you need to come to terms with yourself first and only then move on with someone else, but are you actually happy of being alone at such age?
2021-03-21 07:25
2 replies
To answer the question, yes I am happy being alone I believe that happiness is just a sign of good health. I am eating well, sleeping well, working out, started do breath work so I am healthy atm and so happiness comes with it. I think it's better to be healthy first before going into a relationship hoping it will makes you more happy, you have to work on yourself to be more happy. Relationship is just a part of the life, working on your quality of life and goals you want to achieve is the most important.
2021-03-21 20:40
If one of you're goal is to find a gf and have a good and long relationship then work for it man, start doing physical activities if you don't already or increase it, eat better, don't cut on sleeping then if you're country allows it go out in bars and events to meet new peoples or sign up on some meeting apps. If you're shy you will have to work on it too but having physical activities will help alot with that already.
2021-03-21 20:46
Lmao, why is it even a problem?
2021-03-20 11:50
6 replies
#47
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Russia VelsVivard
Well, time is ticking, we ain't got much.
2021-03-20 16:48
5 replies
can divorce and child support payout be considered as much? because that's something you'll face with the 80% probability
2021-03-20 16:55
4 replies
You have to have some filter when facing up girls. I mean, the best time of our lives go by, if you don't try at least, the rest of the life will be full of regrets and the time is lost.
2021-03-21 07:24
1 reply
Not at all
2021-03-24 05:42
well if youre worried about that you might as well just go lie in your grave because theres nothing you can do about it, and if you dont even try to find a nice girl and have kids, you lose for sure
2021-03-23 09:05
1 reply
If your life goals are finding a girl and having children that's freaking sad
2021-03-24 05:42
been single for around 6 years now, i just dont really care anymore, it's even hard to imagine being WITH someone at this point , i just really got used to be alone and i actually have a good time
2021-03-20 11:54
3 replies
#46
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Russia VelsVivard
And how old you are, fel?
2021-03-20 16:48
2 replies
28
2021-03-20 17:01
1 reply
You're happy being alone? Doesn't it get lonely and boring at times? How did you make yourself happy while being alone?
2021-03-21 07:23
so many coping incels pretending to be single by choice
2021-03-20 11:57
2 replies
They don’t hate women wtf. They just say they aren’t ready for a relationship
2021-03-23 09:04
+1 I pReFer tO bE aLoNe
2021-03-26 14:18
way more freedom if u depend on yourself.
2021-03-20 12:00
#44
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Reunion Esquinox
nobody can be like me more than me so I prefer being alone
2021-03-20 12:04
3 replies
#45
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Russia VelsVivard
Well said, but is it actually true?
2021-03-20 16:47
2 replies
#56
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Reunion Esquinox
yes
2021-03-20 16:58
1 reply
But how hold are you?
2021-03-21 07:23
#51
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Lebanon Dogman69
what happened
2021-03-20 16:49
1 reply
#54
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Russia VelsVivard
Nothing yet, and that is the issue.
2021-03-20 16:55
#58
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Azerbaijan Talley
you make it sound like it's mandatory to have a partner when you're 25+. being alone is better than being with wrong person. i've been there for a year and i prefer not to look back. even if i do i think of it as a lesson. i think the best thing is to keep the balance. because when you get into serious relationship you commit yourself into that and it takes a lot of energy, time etc. so you can't really spend a lot of time with yourself, which leads to very slow self progression/improvement. when it's the opposite, you're alone and you can do whatever you want (you can fully commit yourself into something and improve a lot). but eventually being alone for a long period makes life seem stale and you start feeling less and less productive. because love makes us stronger (not smarter tho)
2021-03-20 17:10
4 replies
#60
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Italy NotNew
It's jovik men his "dream partner" is illegal
2021-03-20 17:17
Like readin my inner voice screaming ,WHY CANT I GET THERE
2021-03-20 17:20
1 reply
#107
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Azerbaijan Talley
i'm sorry but where? i don`t get it.
2021-03-20 17:59
+1 on it's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. I was there for 2 years. I think the best thing is when both in the relationship are interested in self improvement and have come far enough to not be dependent on anyone else for their happiness. Both need to be happy with themselves and their life before looking for a relationship, otherwise one will easily become dependent on the other and that almost never ends well.
2021-03-20 17:33
i am 25 and never got girlfriend because im ugly :(
2021-03-20 17:20
60 replies
#68
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Russia VelsVivard
Why do you think you're ugly? And you actually never have been in a relationship?
2021-03-20 17:31
59 replies
Because i am ugly and yeah never been in relationship
2021-03-20 17:33
58 replies
#76
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Russia VelsVivard
You're not ugly on the inside though, I want to believe and even the outside can be improved overtime. Did you learn to be alone and well or do you worry about being alone?
2021-03-20 17:35
4 replies
Girls don't see the inside that's the problem. No to be honest i love my life being alone, but ofc before the age of 30 i would like to find a girl but it hard.
2021-03-20 17:37
3 replies
#84
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Russia VelsVivard
You're beautiful, man, I didn't see you but I'm certain it's not that bad! If you won't dwell within four walls like I did, you will find her, I believe!
2021-03-20 17:40
2 replies
ty man you a good person, i hope the best for you in your life too
2021-03-20 17:45
1 reply
#99
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Russia VelsVivard
Thank you, we can talk more often because we're in a similar situation, maybe it can help.
2021-03-20 17:49
If you're not trolling, you have to realize that it's not because of your looks that you haven't had a girlfriend yet. I've seen "ugly" fat guys with hot women, now someone might say "that's because they got money", I'd say not necessarily. 1. They got a job they enjoy 2. They are independent and have their own apartment/house or whatever. 3. They have a social life, friends etc. 4. The most important, they have accepted themselves as they are and as they look and don't feel insecure about it, they have something women love which is confidence. You can't change your looks except for loosing weight, gaining muscle etc. But you can change the way you view yourself.
2021-03-20 17:52
52 replies
+1
2021-03-20 18:25
you forgot about 1. money everything else is secondary
2021-03-23 09:04
50 replies
No. Read again "1. They got a job they enjoy" = money, more or less.
2021-03-23 09:37
49 replies
you can have a minimum wage job and enjoy it, or work parttime. in fact the jobs that pay better are usually the less enjoyable ones
2021-03-23 09:38
if i could make as much money collecting garbage or teaching math to little kids, as i do working in IT, i wouldnt be sitting behind a computer all day
2021-03-23 09:39
47 replies
Not saying you are wrong, but what is your point?
2021-03-23 09:49
46 replies
having a job you enjoy means jack shit, its about the dollar bills
2021-03-23 09:51
45 replies
Oh ok. Then you're wrong :)
2021-03-23 09:53
44 replies
no im not. enjoying your work is meaningless. you are literally working for someone else. if you enjoy your hamster wheel, you are in serious trouble.
2021-03-23 09:54
the only goal of wage labour should be to transition out of wage labour asap
2021-03-23 09:55
42 replies
You've been very active in this thread, can I get to know you better yourself? Tell me about yourself. How old are you and what position in life are you in right now.
2021-03-23 10:29
41 replies
same story as everyone else in this safe haven of autism. single white man. high iq. over 25. high income bracket. high work pressure. didnt have time for anything besides career and using free time to unwind, self medicate, etc. then, partly because of covid, lost my job 6 months ago. been chillin' ever since. plenty of savings. i'll go look for another job later, after restrictions are lifted i will first take a vacation for a few months. the past couple months i have been reading a lot, watching bad tv shows, sleeping 10 hours a day sometimes. slowly working my way back from almost burn-out to relaxation. i have now finally relaxed enough to the point that i am comfortable to start dating again. signed up for a paid dating site for non-retarded people. a couple euro per month to harass goodlooking well educated women on the internet, is a pretty good deal imo. and there's less catfishing because it costs money. its harder than usual to find something fun to do on a date because everything is closed, but i like nature and i am in decent physical shape so i can play the sports/nature angle. and theres plenty of girls in the same situation as me, sitting at home being bored
2021-03-23 10:38
40 replies
Sounds nice, where does this confidence come from if you're alone for quite some time or have you had some lasting relationships before? And how old are you? If you're 25 or around it, then it's a very decent statistics. Almost like you don't belong here as how good it seems from you!
2021-03-23 10:41
39 replies
so, thats kinda simple. i thought it would be hard but it wasnt. i just stopped giving a fuck a while ago. someone close to me committed suicide. traumatic events tend to put things in different perspective. and that wasnt the first trauma i have had. i have been through a lot of stuff, physical and mental abuse, as a kid. it helped me to accept, that 90% or more of the people in western society under the age of 40 or so havent had any traumatic events in their life. theyre like little children to me. from where i am now i cant take them seriously anymore. i was more adult than most actual adults are now, when i was still a little kid. the last generation that actually grew up to be adults are the people who were children in WW2. my grandparents generation. the babyboomers who came after that are super egotistical and only think of themselves and their bank accounts. i havent really had lasting relationships, in fact looking back im pretty sure i pushed away every girl that could have potentially wanted that with me, because i didnt want to hurt them. they didnt seem mature enough to handle my severely fucked up worldview and i wasnt capable of filtering it. it kinda took until now for me to accept that it is what it is and be content with my place in this world. having 6 months to think really helped. sometimes i feel a bit bored and depressed but i now have a much clearer idea of what i actually want in life. so from here its just a matter of throwing myself at enough women until i find one that wants to put up with me. who understands that things that cut deep enough never go away, and that its okay, and who wants to make the most of the time we have together.
2021-03-23 11:00
2 replies
Woah, I like the way you put words on paper, it's well said and I think, literally almost every one of us could find something to relate with in your story. But one question remained unanswered, I understand that it may be an itchy topic to you or you just simply don't want us to know but how old you actually are? You know I wish you nothing but success because as you may have found it, many of us in thread wanting the same thing. And some of us barely ever had it, if at all.
2021-03-23 11:02
1 reply
between 25 and 30
2021-03-23 11:04
basically tldr you dont need confidence if you know that there is nothing to lose and life is meaningless and we can all die at any time. there is no such thing as confidence or insecurity, everything just is. youre not in control anyway. control is an illusion, a rationalization.
2021-03-23 11:01
the exercise of giving up the illusion of control and just putting yourself out there without knowing beforehand whether you will succeed or fail, and realizing that it doesnt even matter, is liberating. i guess this is what normies mean when they say "get out of your comfort zone"
2021-03-23 11:03
34 replies
There's a lot of things to pick up from you. But why do you have some sort of hatred towards other groups of people, like 'normies' for example, why? I thought it's within the process of growing up to learn to either ignore or accept the different world views, not that I side with them but it's no good look no matter how you look at it. It might actually slow you down in reaching your goals as well. But who's perfect here, surely not me. You got something that will definitely help you and that is money, I don't have it, many of whom I know don't either. And if you got looks accompanied by confidence, it's just a matter of time.
2021-03-23 11:06
33 replies
part of growing up is accepting logic. logic says that if you have above average intelligence, the majority of people will be dumb compared to you. i got called arrogant for that for a long time, and tried to adapt my behaviour, until i realized they were just jealous
2021-03-23 11:34
17 replies
Although I try hard to agree with you but it just doesn't sound right, not at all. My common sense won't let me sign to this. Although I don't deny that you may actually be smart and gifted elsewhere but it's not the correct approach I'm pretty sure.
2021-03-23 11:36
16 replies
average IQ is about 100. i scored about 120 on the adult test, when i was 11 years old. i guess if i got sober, practiced my math and the standard iq test exercises, and took one, i could join mensa, but doing that would require me to give a shit what other people think
2021-03-23 11:38
15 replies
I mean I can believe that you're really smart and gifted from the start but you don't need to belittle other people and openly announce about your skills! That way you will only distance yourself from other people, your potential friends and girlfriends. As we both may have figured, human relations is the most expensive thing in this world and something we can't buy. Let's value it as everything else, including money, comes second.
2021-03-23 11:41
14 replies
i dont want to be friends with dumb people. i also dont want to have sex with them. thats why i signed up for a dating website for smart people. see, thats logic.
2021-03-23 11:41
2 replies
What is that website? I can pay subscriptions if the quality is guaranteed.
2021-03-23 11:42
1 reply
the one im on is only for dutch people, it doesnt seem to have an english version. but you can sort by education level in a lot of dating apps. avoid tinder, thats where all the retards go
2021-03-23 11:45
its not my fault i have nature and nurture that made me a lot more intelligent than average, and im not going to pretent like i value dumb people equally to myself or other intelligent people. there are 2 types of people. smart people who work hard and pay taxes, and people that cost money
2021-03-23 11:43
10 replies
I strongly disagree with this. You can label me as the stupid one, it will be fair but every human being has his value, regardless of his IQ points. I guess it's fine if you speak for yourself but it still sounds so damaging.
2021-03-23 11:47
9 replies
okay well enjoy the gulag when the smart people had enough of paying for you
2021-03-23 11:49
8 replies
You know I can take that but here's one note for you, the actually smart people would never claim that they're smart, openly and in a literal way. This what I've been told, heard myself and experienced.
2021-03-23 11:51
7 replies
sure because theyre afraid of the rabble rising up against them. i however really dont give a fuck. they could burn me at the stake tomorrow.
2021-03-23 11:52
6 replies
It seems to me that you had known a lot of crap in your life? You just need a wife who will ease your mind and hatred for people might go. I want to believe that the answer to everything is love.
2021-03-23 11:56
5 replies
okay enjoy your stupid ass disney fantasy, i prefer to live in the real world
2021-03-23 11:57
4 replies
The world will reflect and act in the same way that you make it out to be. If it's cruel and cold in your perception, well that's just how it's gonna be in fact. Positive thinking is the first step to happiness.
2021-03-23 11:58
3 replies
no. thats again disney bullshit. there is no mystical force that will change the world if you look at it differently. you can only change yourself. and i dont need to change. positive thinking is for weak pussies who cant win in life so they need to think positive instead
2021-03-23 11:59
2 replies
Alright, your mind is made up. You're in a better situation than I am, me being honest but I can tell, despite all my misfortunes, I'm a happier person than you. Because I don't focus on all the filth this world has to offer and I know things can be both bad and good and we're in charge of it most of the time.
2021-03-23 12:01
1 reply
chasing happiness is like chasing a high on drugs. you will never catch it if you keep trying.
2021-03-23 12:02
also im autistic as fuck so you know i cant really relate to people who only act on emotions and dont think
2021-03-23 11:36
14 replies
Alright, that's where your problem lies. Sounds like you lost faith in humanity or some of that sort. You keep your prejudice for people based on the first impression or their occassional lowlights. I don't need to tell you that it's going nowhere, try a different perspective for once and be wondered what a difference a day can make.
2021-03-23 12:04
13 replies
there was never a humanity to have faith in. its just 7 billion people trying to get ahead. there is only win or lose.
2021-03-23 12:12
11 replies
Well, from my experience alone it is not true straight away. But with your current mindset it will only be getting harder and harder to see.
2021-03-23 12:14
10 replies
okay great call me when youre 10 years more cynical
2021-03-23 12:15
9 replies
I don't say it's all lies but it's not so black and white. There are good people, there are bad people. Don't focus only on the negatives, it will become a lot more easier to get by and find a partner in crime.
2021-03-23 12:18
8 replies
the so called "good" people are only acting "good" because it gets them ahead. if they get a chance to get further ahead by doing a "bad" thing and get away with it, 99% will do it.
2021-03-23 12:18
7 replies
I see what you mean but 99% is too high a number. Believe me there are more people who will prefer the clarity of soul over the material wealth. I know because I have met them myself and you will too.
2021-03-23 12:30
6 replies
you met a bunch of liars. have you ever been in a life threatening situation with these people? betcha theyd leave you behind
2021-03-23 12:28
5 replies
Well, when it's a question of you or them, I wouldn't put too much faith in them but in everyday life, you're too sharpy on them.
2021-03-23 12:31
4 replies
ok so we fundamentally agree, you just want to believe something different. if it makes you feel better then go for it
2021-03-23 12:31
3 replies
You're not getting the point, you expect people to sacrifice their lives for you but when we're talking about the social life, there will always be people who stand for you and help you out if you need them. Why be so strict?
2021-03-23 12:36
2 replies
what no im saying i wouldnt risk my life for other people unless there was something in it for me and its delusional to expect other people to be any better. >Why be so strict? because most people are useless and only drag you down and waste your time. i got shit to do.
2021-03-23 12:39
1 reply
Why you go to extremities every time? Why should it get to the point that someone has to risk their lives? Why not just stay within the realms of possibility? In an everyday life, you can depend on the people.
2021-03-23 12:39
this group mentality is exactly how the sociopathic predators that run the world stay in charge lol. they dont believe in group mentality. they just win.
2021-03-23 12:13
#63
k1to | 
Finland R3ALMM
Move to japan where 50% are virgins
2021-03-20 17:20
5 replies
Isn't Japan xenophobic and racist towards Gaijins?
2021-03-20 17:29
4 replies
#66
k1to | 
Finland R3ALMM
Depends on people. Many Japanese girls like to "experimen" and date foreigners. But Japan is pretty Xenophobic
2021-03-20 17:30
#67
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Italy NotNew
pretty much but you can take your waifu to your country, that's what my best friend did, they're married now
2021-03-20 17:30
2 replies
Did he take body pillow waifu or 3d?
2021-03-20 17:32
1 reply
#112
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Italy NotNew
3d She was so happy to come here in Italy, she was idealizing italy just like he was idealizing Japan, obviously if you live in a country all your life you don't see the appeal that some other people can see, to you it's "the normality", except americans
2021-03-20 18:09
Andrei Tarkovsky once said: "Learn to be alone, enjoy solitude" And I always think about the words he said when it comes to loneliness and at the time he was so right. “I don’t know… I think I’d like to say only that they should learn to be alone and try to spend as much time as possible by themselves,” the director replied. “I think one of the faults of young people today is that they try to come together around events that are noisy, almost aggressive at times. This desire to be together in order to not feel alone is an unfortunate symptom, in my opinion. “Every person needs to learn from childhood how to spend time with oneself. That doesn’t mean he should be lonely, but that he shouldn’t grow bored with himself because people who grow bored in their own company seem to me in danger, from a self-esteem point of view.”
2021-03-20 17:25
4 replies
#70
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Italy NotNew
Is this from sculpting in time? I have that book but I haven't read it
2021-03-20 17:32
2 replies
no men its from NAVI Zeus book great read, give it a try
2021-03-20 17:54
No, it is from some interview with Tarkovsky.
2021-03-20 19:37
"I think one of the faults of young people today is that they try to come together around events that are noisy, almost aggressive at times. This desire to be together in order to not feel alone is an unfortunate symptom, in my opinion." i would go even one step further and say that the whole "youth culture" thing we have today is not good for young people. they only interact with other young people and act childlike. its also party the fault of old people who think young people are annoying and dont respect them as adults
2021-03-23 09:03
#69
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Kazakhstan trickzce
i am 25 and i am currently single. I had some dates previously in my life, and only 1 was really satisfying. Right now i have different things that concern me more - study/work/cs. so i dont have time and energy to invest in relations i picture. after i have everything settled in my life i go for relations.
2021-03-20 17:32
8 replies
#73
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Russia VelsVivard
And when do you think it's gonna happen? You ain't gonna be young forever, the best years are going by.
2021-03-20 17:33
7 replies
#77
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Kazakhstan trickzce
in 2-3 years maybe. what matters in relations, at least in my experience is chemistry with person. i havent met anyone lately who would spark something inside me, if i do meet one and realize its something i have to go for i will.
2021-03-20 17:35
6 replies
#80
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Russia VelsVivard
Very optimistic I like it. But are you not worried that the youthful years have gone and all that's left is loneliness?
2021-03-20 17:42
5 replies
#90
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Kazakhstan trickzce
I was very easygoing and social person in my 18-21, but my studies went into toilet and also i had a depression after a break up, so i went all in study/work and it payed off. My mistake is that i am person extremes, and perhaps i need to find balance between social life and work
2021-03-20 17:44
4 replies
#94
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Russia VelsVivard
Nice that it didn't break you and you recovered from it. You got a good job?
2021-03-20 17:46
3 replies
#111
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Kazakhstan trickzce
recently i quit it , i was a portfolio analyst for 3 years
2021-03-20 18:08
2 replies
And what are you gonna do now?
2021-03-21 07:22
1 reply
#203
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Kazakhstan trickzce
finish my studies and continue the work
2021-03-21 11:15
#78
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Europe PyDaRaS
Yep still single, not even bad looking or overweight or anything, just don't fancy anyone and there isn't a girl that is interested in me either. +Covid +I am in University +I work don't have really that much time either. It's sad sometimes, because I eventually want kids, but yeah.. Like one wise man said once> IT IIIIS WHAT IT IIIS
2021-03-20 17:36
10 replies
#85
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Russia VelsVivard
And how old you are, friend? Similar scenario here.
2021-03-20 17:41
8 replies
#87
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Europe PyDaRaS
25 gonna be 26 in April
2021-03-20 17:42
7 replies
#89
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Russia VelsVivard
But have you been in relationships before?
2021-03-20 17:43
6 replies
#92
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Europe PyDaRaS
Yes, for 2 years, after that had some fucked up time and took me 3 years to get to know myself and grow as a person. Created beautiful relationship with friends and family and worked a lot on my mental health and well being
2021-03-20 17:48
5 replies
#97
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Russia VelsVivard
So if you had it, you know how it goes, it's a matter of time until it comes back. I don't even have friends! You'll get there.
2021-03-20 17:48
4 replies
#101
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Europe PyDaRaS
Don't worry about it, my brother is in the same position. He is 20 never had a girlfriend and barely any social life. After the Covid when everything opens, just take the chances to go out and just meet people, it looks worse than it actually is. What really helped me to realize something is ... All humans are just kids in a round planet that spins around.. Nobody really knows what the fuck to do, we just do it.. People who act as if they know, trust me they dont.
2021-03-20 17:53
3 replies
You're right, I only read it for the first time but it already helps.
2021-03-20 17:53
1 reply
#104
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Europe PyDaRaS
If you do not have any mental problems and you are 25+ Inform yourself about LSD and if you get the chance to try it , do it, trust me it will change your perception on life. It will be a difficult trip, but it might help you to find the beauty in life, no its not addictive or harmful
2021-03-20 17:54
i know what im doing, but nobody else seems to. thats what makes life so fucking annoying. its really easy. need money? go work. need attention? give some to another person. hope you get something back. otherwise tough shit, move on. easy. just accept you wont always get what you want. failure is always an option. people worry too goddamn much about everything to the point where they dont even fucking try.
2021-03-23 09:00
as soon as you get out of uni and get a job it will be a lot easier because you'll have money
2021-03-23 09:01
20 here 21 soon XD
2021-03-20 17:36
#82
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Russia reguix
I will be the one
2021-03-20 17:38
0 stress
2021-03-20 17:49
4 replies
0 drive, 0 emotion swings too, just a monotone flow, no peak of happiness.
2021-03-20 17:51
3 replies
you will never be trully happy when you find out there is no purpose in life yet we need to go to work everyday and have free time only when your old
2021-03-23 12:18
2 replies
Well I can't quite agree with this, man is a very, very, very social creature and as long as he's not alone, I don't think he will feel half as bad as I do now. No matter if the life is short or that it has no purpose.
2021-03-23 12:22
1 reply
we were social before internet
2021-03-23 12:23
Lol nice try reinforcing your views.. Stay negative..
2021-03-20 17:57
1 reply
No, I didn't mean to counter you or win in an 'argument' , I'm just saying being with someone is still better than on your own because it can make you a lot more happier, man is a social creature. So any positive nitpicking is most likely just consolation.
2021-03-20 18:00
At this point, I've already had a long term loving relationship that slowly faded, broke away from poverty without even wasting 4 years to study, had and still have a good job that allows me to live by myself and pretty much do whatever I want, traveled everywhere I wanted to. Now by all means I've reached the peak and have no motivation to do anything else, if I die tomorrow I will be satisfied. The only question is how to get through all those years from now until my death, and I have no idea.
2021-03-20 18:04
4 replies
I wonder what kind of job is that? And don't you want to have someone near you?
2021-03-21 07:21
3 replies
I work in IT. It would be nice to share my free time with someone, but you have to spend so much time and effort to find the right person that I just dont want to bother. I wish I had more friends though, I literally have 1 friend left and he lives in another city, all of the rest moved somewhere else, finding new ones in the shithole I live is pretty much impossible
2021-03-21 09:32
2 replies
signing up for online dating website isnt really a lot of effort man.
2021-03-23 08:57
1 reply
Hook ups are easy, but finding the one to keep is a lottery
2021-03-23 13:02
Shed the the oneitus mind set and you will be happy
2021-03-20 18:22
The best time i had in my relationship was before i had the relationship
2021-03-20 18:27
1 reply
deep
2021-03-22 21:27
if u base ur well being on another person, u have a big big problem in life.
2021-03-20 22:32
3 replies
Man is social, nothing will replace another human being.
2021-03-20 23:21
2 replies
ofc, he is social but if u cant be alone ur just big big trouble.
2021-03-21 09:53
1 reply
How to be alone and well?
2021-03-22 14:51
What a sad thought.
2021-03-20 22:49
30 here, i studied until i was 26, then i made my way working in the field i love. Now i have a really great job, loads of cash and a successful heart operation. Im 30 but i can finally do what i want whenever i want. I'll take my time to enjoy being free of responsability before i start depending on someone else. One nighter only and i dont want kids. More money and freedom, thats all i want.
2021-03-20 23:03
3 replies
What job do you have? Inspirational reading people achieving what they were striving for.
2021-03-21 07:19
2 replies
I'm a software engineer, i'm currently trying to become a project manager in the next years and then, once i have enough experience and money, i plan on starting my own startup.
2021-03-22 07:14
1 reply
Sounds very ambitious, good luck getting that done.
2021-03-22 07:31
i saw on hltv a quote from jim carrey “Solitude is dangerous. It’s very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realise how peaceful and calm it is. It’s like you don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.” damn this represents me people just talk too loud and too much, but being with the bois every now and then is always healthy ah and people who gossip and are too envious just disgust me
2021-03-20 23:15
#132
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Sweden Nappev
student, 25
2021-03-20 23:59
1 reply
And you're lonely?
2021-03-21 07:18
#135
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France Insidium
I'm just too busy and tired to care about relationships, there are so many more things to enjoy in the moment
2021-03-21 00:03
1 reply
But what can be better than a loving relationship which is at its peak and both enjoying it? How old are you fel and how do you deal with it?
2021-03-21 07:17
im 25 and havent had a gf or been close with a girl since I was 16. Sometimes the loneliness is very painful to be honest, but if I dont think about it I'm ok. For some reason girls just arent interested in me, I dont think its an attractive thing either since plenty of unattractive guys have girlfriends.
2021-03-21 00:03
28 replies
How do you deal with it and not getting obsessed over it? The more time passes, the more we need it, no?
2021-03-21 00:17
27 replies
sometimes i cant deal with it, it makes me very sad. 25 isnt young anymore, and to be honest that is also very depressing because Ive achieved nothing. I feel like by 25 you should have your life in order and a lot of the hard work you did from 18-24 should start being rewarded, but I'm still not making much money. I guess it's a trend though, I just remind myself I'm not the only one.
2021-03-21 00:43
26 replies
I'm in a similar position and it does indeed bother me. To make matters worse, I don't even have friends and it doubles the already strong effect of being a lonely male. When you're on your own, without friends, although I suppose you still feed off knowing them and spending time together, but when you're the only man in sight and it gets quite boring over there, what do you think of? How to capture that positivity and not let it go in the morning?
2021-03-21 01:23
25 replies
I dont have friends either, ive got people at work that im friendly with but i dont see or visit anyone outside of work. Sometimes I think of really fun things to do, or I want to explore and go hiking but then I tell myself that's something people only do if they have friends or a girlfriend
2021-03-21 04:31
24 replies
Damn, I say the same thing about outside activities, people will just notice that you're lonely and chances are they will understand and comfort you are very slim, it's only the grinding from this point on. No one will come and stay there. Do you have any subscriptions that you have to go to in town or any place you visit regularly? How do you put up with it? Are you playing a lot or you quit it altogether? What are you going to do?
2021-03-21 05:48
10 replies
I just work, I drive trucks. Outside of work I dont do anything else except go home and eat, watch Youtube or something that's not productive. I live with my dad still at 25, slowly but surely I'm becoming like him and that's so depressing. He's very toxic and always angry, I'm becoming like that too. I don't ever approach girls now because I realized I'm not what they want, I've got a lot of stuff to fix before I can see myself being worthwhile for a girl. What about you?
2021-03-21 09:45
9 replies
Sorry for a late response, I got my attention taken away by grief. Your story reflects on my life as well, in different proportions but the main plot is the same. Life is going but I'm not living it, I'm still anticipating something better to begin soon and I can get away with the least effort for it. I live alone but it's just as depressing, four walls to accompany me is never enough and they seem to get closer and closer wrapping me up and caging me inside. I don't know what to do, or maybe I do but I don't know how to make myself do it. I also have work, a routiney thing. I try to talk to girls online but it never gets serious and the girls are far away. What do you think is the solution for us? What to do and how to be happy in the meantime? Before something better actually begun?
2021-03-22 08:28
8 replies
I just try to think positively as positive thoughts can lead to positive outcomes. I noticed if I think negative and let my shit life get to me mentally, bad things always happen and Im always angry. I have techniques that help keep my thinking positive, but I can't really explain them. I'm sure one day we'll find the right girl, but problem is the older we get the more likely it is we'll find someone that has kids or something already
2021-03-22 09:11
7 replies
What is that technique though? No matter how silly or crazy it may sound, at this stage we both may not be completely normal anymore. And is it all that you need to get by? Is this all that keeps you alright? No more joy or things to do?
2021-03-22 09:13
6 replies
I just try to imagine myself doing something I enjoy, like playing guitar. Like think really hard about something that makes you happy essentially. Usually I do this if I'm getting anxious or stressed. Sometimes I imagine that I have a girlfriend lol, or at least I try to imagine what it would be like to have someone there with me.
2021-03-22 09:41
5 replies
Damn I want to get to know you more, because I'm certain that getting together, even digitally, will help us both as a living company is a serious boost. I guess you're often at work and you don't have much time to be depressed or blue, but if it's not so strict, I'd offer you adding me on Steam so we could talk more in a less formal setting.
2021-03-22 09:44
4 replies
Sure we can add eachother I'm not on steam much as I don't game anymore, but this is my main profile steamcommunity.com/id/blindsidesj/
2021-03-23 08:23
3 replies
Well now you'll have another reason to come over there, how do you kill your free time or if you have it in excess? Or are you at work all of the day?
2021-03-23 08:28
Added you as Jovik, 222 LV, hard to miss out on.
2021-03-23 08:33
1 reply
Got it
2021-03-23 08:34
you know like half the girls on dating sites usually put 'hiking' in their profile so you could just get out of your comfort zone and sign up somewhere? sure theres a bunch of catfish etc but if you try enough times you can find someone. the real issue is your loser mentality. no offense.
2021-03-23 08:54
12 replies
Well i am a loser, no denying that lol. That's a good point though, but I feel like half that bio stuff is just rubbish. Take someone hiking and all they'll want to do is go home
2021-03-23 09:18
11 replies
well then you'll have found out that women are exactly as insecure and full of shit as you are, and you can have a good laugh about it together.
2021-03-23 09:19
70% is just putting yourself out there. the other 30% is failure and humiliation. until you find someone who likes you.
2021-03-23 09:19
9 replies
my problem is that I HATE failing, so much so that i never even try. If i try something and fail it bothers me for a long time and I never get over it lol. humiliation is 100x worse for me, thats such a bad feeling to have. I wish I could find a girl whos also got some problems and we can grow together.
2021-03-23 09:29
8 replies
everyone has problems, most people are just very desperately pretending not to and if you arent doing that, then youre weird.
2021-03-23 09:30
also, i know its impossible right now but there are simple things you can do to reduce the barrier to trying to chat a girl up. for example i always try to talk to cute girls if i see them on the train station platform or in the train. because i take public transport to work. just sit down opposite them and say hey i think you look cute and i want your phone number. it will be hard the first time and you will get embarrassed but after getting turned down 20 times it wont be that exciting anymore. now obviously with the whole lockdown thing this isnt an option atm so i signed up for an online dating site so i can harass women on the internet instead.
2021-03-23 09:33
5 replies
do you feel creepy doing that though? ive seen girls be hit on and they look so uncomfortable. one of my only friends hits on girls a lot, he's the opposite as me, hes extroverted. But I always think it's really cringe when he does it. I couldn't imagine doing that. Also if you're handsome and naturally charming that can work though, but for me I have a shaved head and a beard, I'll be honest about myself but I don't look 'friendly' so to say haha
2021-03-23 09:39
4 replies
well, if youre worried about that, you can start off easy by asking the girl if she wants to talk to you for a while? and if she says no then leave her alone.
2021-03-23 09:40
but tbh i cant see how "hey i think youre cute can i have your number" would make girls uncomfortable. when i do it i always get a nice response and a smile, and at worst get let down gently.
2021-03-23 09:41
and i dont exactly look like a role model of politically correct well dressed men
2021-03-23 09:42
1 reply
true, I pretty much never see girls around unless im shopping for food, but if the moment ever comes up and it seems right maybe ill try
2021-03-24 05:46
and online you have to remember the odds are simply low, there are hundreds of guys messaging every girl and swiping yes on all of them. you just have to get one to notice your picture or your message. if you message 100 random women and get 1 date, thats better than 0 messages and 0 dates. just turn off your insecurity. failure is the default mode. failure is always acceptable.
2021-03-23 09:38
#139
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Finland ThaMuse
As in never in a relationship before that or become single after 25?
2021-03-21 00:23
7 replies
The worst I can find.
2021-03-21 01:21
6 replies
#149
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Finland ThaMuse
Haha okay, can't help you with that then
2021-03-21 03:10
5 replies
Doesn't matter much, just if you're 25 or older and find yourself alone but could've been in a relationship before. No matter how serious.
2021-03-21 03:12
4 replies
#151
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Finland ThaMuse
Find things you like, focus on that. Try to be active and to improve yourself. There's always Tinder but through things like that you gain confidence and then meeting new people and giving good impressions comes easier.
2021-03-21 03:18
3 replies
Yeah me, I'll figure it but I'm asking of you, if you meet the criteria, tell me about your story.
2021-03-21 03:21
2 replies
#156
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Finland ThaMuse
That kinda was my story. Broke up in 2017 because the relationship wasn't working. Worked on myself, on school, used Tinder, then met a girl in late 2019. Been dating for about a year. If you're unhappy as a person, a relationship won't change that. So work on yourself first.
2021-03-21 04:45
1 reply
Many people have been saying that, maybe it was just the wrong person? I believe for a person to be actually happy requires having another person close beside him, because man is very social. Are you happy now as a person?
2021-03-21 05:51
i meet so many people through work every day and i never feel lonely. i actually enjoy living alone. i can do whatever i want when i want. i have my own routine and peace. also i look for a decent standard for girls. like im not a desperate guy who picks any 6/10 girl that smiles at me. beyond +25 you are at an age that you look for girls that are future-proof. personality, looks and behaviour, all must fit.
2021-03-21 00:37
2 replies
How do you maintain a happy state while alone? You actually can be happy without a close partner by your side? I think life is never complete when you're on your own, how do you put up with it?
2021-03-21 07:17
1 reply
get some fucking hobbies and develop a personality
2021-03-23 08:51
I don't really care ,although some days I have the thought of "hm wouldn't it be nice to hug someone right now?" .
2021-03-21 00:44
1 reply
Those thoughts are classic, they come to all of us but tell me how do you deal with it? What keeps you happy and makes you stride forward? I bet it must be friends, I don't have even that.
2021-03-21 05:54
I'm trying to not think about it. Have bigger problems than not being in a relationship
2021-03-21 01:34
5 replies
How old are you and what are those bigger problems? Let's talk.
2021-03-21 05:53
4 replies
26. Existential crisis but like real one, not from memes where every 18 year old has it, meaning - what's the point of this. Of life, of being alive. If things go good I'll be living for another 40 years for what? Only thing that comes to my mind is reproduction but I don't want to have kids. Another thing is getting old.. for now the first signs of getting old is couple of white hairs on my head. I'm afraid of it. Not to mention cancer, Alzheimer's or any other thing that I might have when I'm old. As for girls? I already was in a relationship, she broke my heart and left. Finding the one isn't easy. What scares me is that even if I will be with a girl now, all it takes for her to leave me is some chemicals in brain telling her she loves another man. Nothing last forever - people say that is the reason why things are beautiful. I think it's bullshit. I don't want to see my sister's dying of old age, I don't wanna lose my youth. I hate that so many people don't give a shit about Earth. Pollution, etc. Even everyday things like throwing bottles on the ground in forests or parks. People don't care because it won't affect them. Short sighting is unfortunately a thing for many people - that's why even after so many campaigns about smoking literally slowly Killing them or alcohol shortening life by A LOT and other health complications they WILL have at 40-50 years of age, they still drink and smoke. My colleague from work says "I gotta die from something". Dumb fuck, you gonna die alright. If not from diabetes then surely at 40+ you gonna be a walking time bomb.
2021-03-21 12:36
3 replies
just try not to kill yourself at 27 and make it over the hump. the issue youre touching on is made a lot worse by the modern capitalist society that dictates everyone has to work to prove their right to exist and our only purpose is to generate profits for companies and buy plastic crap. people are told they need to move up in the world so if a girl meets a guy with a bit more money than you she may very well leave you for him. love isnt as important as having a comfortable life with a big bank account. they just want the best chances for their kids. so you have some options. you can just get a girl (or a couple of them) pregnant and not care if she leaves you for another guy after she had your kid. obviously thats a shitty thing to do but its a good way to pass on your genes in this society. otherwise you will need to look for a girl who doesnt care much about money. good luck with that.
2021-03-23 08:50
1 reply
It's fucking bullshit
2021-03-23 15:36
oh and btw due to all the air and water pollution and all the chemicals in our non stick frying pans etc we are going to die early anyway so you might as well smoke and drink and enjoy slowly getting poisoned
2021-03-23 08:51
I’m not 25 but if I were to guess, probably due to porn, trauma or don’t see a purpose unfortunately.
2021-03-21 03:32
I mean I was lonely for a while because I was over weight. After a while I couldn't take the shit anymore so I got myself back in shape. Since then I been able to get laid many times but the thing is after a while of these girls I become more unhappy and bored of them. They require so much attention and really are impossible to keep happy, majority of females as well when they go on their periods turn into witch doctors and do all types of psychological damage to you. Being lonely is so hard to cope with, I have friends and shit but I just haven't found a woman I would ever be interested in with being with long term, after few months you start to see their hoe tendencies as well which is really what makes me walk away from them.
2021-03-21 04:52
3 replies
Very inspirational, I don't really wanna get laid, I just need a girl who'll be my woman, you know. It gets twice as hard from here, because we're all different and the variety is too big.
2021-03-21 05:53
2 replies
It's actually almost impossible to find a loyal and committed women, the way their brains work is when they have some emotions they impulsively go towards that. I used to think women were very calculated until I started having hoes throw their pussy at me, at a certain point you won't even stick your buddy in any girl that is feeling you because it's never worth it. These girls will tell you, you're their entire world and then they go on their periods and you're just another piece of shit, don't let girls play games with you. When you have sex it will be natural and that feeling of love will be there and you know you are with the right person, when you don't feel that 99% of the time and fuck them like they are hoes you know that's a hit and run, don't stick around with these types of hoes they will fuck your brain.
2021-03-27 02:02
1 reply
It sounds like you intentionally were looking for the wrong type of girls, you can clearly tell if the girl is wanting it or she's just about a mover. I know a few such girls and I'm having a date this Tuesday, only time will tell.
2021-03-27 02:56
Intelligent loneliness is better than stupid society.
2021-03-21 07:26
9 replies
I believe man can never be truly happy while he's alone, we're social creatures and we need to deal with ourselves for us to be comfy with other people, otherwise we might live half-lives.
2021-03-21 07:27
8 replies
it depends... everyone likes me something different. I'd rather be at friday night alone at home, than with ppl at club,pub...etc (btw when i was young every friday was partyhard day :)
2021-03-21 07:35
6 replies
Do you wanna say you had enough fun so you're happy being alone now and you don't even need it?
2021-03-21 07:36
5 replies
exactly ! edit (my englando is bad, im oldfag )
2021-03-21 07:38
4 replies
But when you see other people together, don't you want it as well? You must've fallen in love before, that feeling is one of the best for the man, don't you want it again but to last now?
2021-03-21 07:37
3 replies
I have few real best friends and its enough for me. Once a month we meet for a beer or a joint.
2021-03-21 07:41
2 replies
Got you, either way. Have a fine weekend.
2021-03-21 08:15
1 reply
thx u2
2021-03-21 09:01
mainstream society is not a good place for intellectual people to be. you wont be able to express yourself in the ocean of people who all want to look and think exactly the same.
2021-03-23 08:46
well i am 19 and have changed 4 gf in last 2 years. I have good seniors in school and in neighborhood who are at the age, mentioned here. once u get involved in daily grinding for bread and butter, all these thoughts disappear. Being single is not depressing or worry about, it is all about happiness and time.
2021-03-21 07:28
1 reply
That's the right approach, occupying yourself helps on all fronts.
2021-03-21 07:30
I'm just dead inside.
2021-03-21 07:36
1 reply
But how do you live being dead inside?
2021-03-21 07:36
well my dad said that it is normal after leaving the forge. i think that if you enjoy the lifes alone it should not be a problem at all.
2021-03-21 09:02
I can't stand being around dumb people irl. :)
2021-03-21 09:35
#192
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United States EDBX
I'm single and 25 and so far the older I get the better being single is. Sex is easy enough, and I get companionship from my family and friends. I have more money and freedom than when I was younger which is probably why. I guess if you work 10 hours a day in an office then go home to no one it would be depressing.
2021-03-21 09:39
1 reply
you dont work 10 hours a day? flag doesnt check out.
2021-03-23 08:44
Well i feel the same way and im freshly 21.. fuck
2021-03-21 09:43
Work on bettering yourself, nothing else matters.
2021-03-21 09:50
I had many relationships, but I had unlucky run overall. So I'm alone for life now since I don't trust girls at my age, and its the smartest thing you can do.
2021-03-21 10:13
2 replies
How old are u
2021-03-21 10:24
1 reply
26
2021-03-21 10:26
#202
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Russia Awedera
I'm 27. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm fine
2021-03-21 10:26
2 replies
It's actually true? Tell me more about yourself.
2021-03-21 15:31
#228
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United States EDBX
Flair checks out
2021-03-22 07:51
Yes, I am in the age range you mentioned. I don't really enjoy being alone, but I can't approach a woman when I know I don't have financial stability. CSGO has helped me manage loneliness until recently.
2021-03-22 03:42
2 replies
And what to do next? How to stop being lonely?
2021-03-22 04:17
1 reply
Dunno, mens. Maybe trying to have financially-stable life first or get lucky from the lottery. After that, try to find women from work relations or rekindle old love in uni.
2021-03-22 11:52
Im 19 wich is not the same thing as 25 but for the past 5-6 years Ive had 0 friends, 0 girlfriends and I talked with my parents Once a week. And im kinda fine with I dont think that things will change in the future because Im doing the same stuff every day and I dont really wanna change them
2021-03-22 04:41
3 replies
How can you be content with such a way of life? You don't feel lonely or isolated at all? I've been living like that and that lifestyle made me very sad and upset.
2021-03-22 04:50
2 replies
I guess I dont feel lonely, but maybe its because Im a really positive person and I rarely feel sad or depressed, I also dont really think that im missing that much there are very few people who I actually want to interract with or be friends with
2021-03-22 05:06
1 reply
There's still a lot of time for you, well and for any other one who didn't hit 30s yet but don't get too comfy being alone, life is half as good when it's not shared with the one you're in love with!
2021-03-22 05:08
#217
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Germany Droidd
i'm 22 and not single
2021-03-22 05:30
What's wrong with being alone? The fact that you need someone to be with you only indicates your weakness. Also, what's the point of living with a girl who was sexed by tons of guys before you?
2021-03-22 07:17
7 replies
You'll always need someone to be with you, well if you're healthy. Man is a very social creature and is also very needy too. I've personally been alone for some time and it bothers me, how can you be alone for long and still be happy, is it truth or illusion?
2021-03-22 07:33
6 replies
I consider that to be a weakness. A true man must feel absolutely fine being alone. He may ofc sleep with girls but not more than that. As for not being alone, it's extremely hard or nearly impossible to find a decent girl. 99% have slept with other guys. I've had a girlfriend for 3 years, the one that I truly love and that loves me, she was a virgin ofc and is a really good person in general and I understand that I'll feel like shit if we break up. That's actually a weakness imo. i'd love to be able to live alone and be absolutely ok with it.
2021-03-22 09:15
2 replies
Alright, you think differently now that you're not alone, your mindset shifts a little bit when you're exposed to it on a daily basis.
2021-03-22 09:17
1 reply
we had some big issues some months ago and lived separately for 2 months, we were about to break up so i know what you mean.
2021-03-22 09:26
it's called Escapism that is why i love Video games it helps me forget how fucked up in the head i am and talking online is far easier like this conversation rn if this was IRL i would not be talking to anyone here my social skills never took off
2021-03-24 04:59
2 replies
Well, I can relate to it but there has to be some resistence and fight going on within you. Don't just give up and accept things as they are, you're in position to change it. Anything can be recovered at will.
2021-03-24 05:03
1 reply
well lets hope so cause truth is i know my life there is only 2 ways this will end one i some day recover live a normal enough live and the other ... a Date with a bridge or a Tree and i think you know what i mean by that who knows man maybe after Covid i will try and get a job and see where it goes
2021-03-24 05:06
#220
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Russia TRAV1SZ
we trust in money only
2021-03-22 07:31
Not there, but in 7 years I will be
2021-03-22 07:38
1 reply
well im 22 rn never had a Gf its a combination of i just never had the social skills to talk to women my on off depression means i am also just not stable enough to have a GF anyway while i accept Mentally i just will never be ok enough for that still does not make it less lonely but i remember why i am in this place and it makes it a little better
2021-03-24 04:58
#245
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Australia vamped
Been in relationship most of my adult life. Single 3 years, 33, definitely don’t want another one anytime soon.
2021-03-22 10:27
Stopped trying when my heart broke, thought it would just take time but now a year and a half later im still shitty mentally. I don't feel the excitment of trying anymore.
2021-03-22 11:02
4 replies
But how old are you?
2021-03-22 11:37
3 replies
14
2021-03-22 12:58
2 replies
Ooh, poor me.
2021-03-22 12:58
look i dont want to be a cunt about this but you are far too young to give up on dating for Christ sake you are not even the legal age of consent in Finland and still 4 years from being an adult its not like your fucking 35 and never been in a serious relationship that lasted longer then 6 months
2021-03-24 04:57
Relations only gives me headache.
2021-03-22 12:25
Its a fact that lonely people lives less and has worse health So be a man.. grills like real men. You can be a little rude to the them, they like it. Never be afraid of anything, grills prefer alphas. Talk to them like they are a little shit
2021-03-22 12:59
8 replies
I think of them as spit
2021-03-22 13:01
I know that but that would cross my personality over, I'm well spoken and suave, no matter the sex of my company. And it ain't no necessarily to behave like a tribesman to attract them, my lazy butt is too heavy for me to lift sometimes. But I suppose you ain't lonely like most of us here, I'm glad you got it going good.
2021-03-22 13:03
5 replies
Yoy can always change your persobality for something that makes you better. Its npt difficult. Just dont be a gentleman thats all. Gentleman for girls today is bad,but you can have a mix of being gentle and being rude. Yoy the king you are here to get that poosy and she cannot stand back
2021-03-22 13:25
4 replies
Neah fel, here I have to draw the line. Girls who don't like gentlemen are the girls that I won't like myself, most likely. I know there are many girls who like polite and erudite guys, because I talked to them myself but your tip is still welcome, there has to be some adjustment.
2021-03-22 13:27
3 replies
They like that you are getnle to them after you get them. But before that just be secure, fast, take decisions, take control, be very secure on yourself while talking to other people infront of her, do everything first like entering door. Behave yourself like relaxed but still confident. Make jokes.
2021-03-22 13:38
2 replies
I know that chel, but I struggle making new contacts as people don't ever seem interested in starting a new relation or do they ever seem friendly for a talk. But once I get it, I'm not losing it.
2021-03-22 13:45
>do everything first like entering door romance is truly dead lmao
2021-03-23 08:42
that actually comforts me last fucking thing i want is to live into my 80s or 90s frankly not including suicide the sooner the better
2021-03-24 04:55
Everyone, single or not, are lonely. Their thoughts are their own, their feelings are their own. They can try share them, but this is impossible beyond a tiny percentage of what is truly going on inside. We are all lonely, just accept it, it will make it a lot easier to cope with life.
2021-03-22 13:06
5 replies
What a wonderful perspective, only a really smart guy would go as far as to decode life to such an extent. I agree, to an extent, yet again and it indeed makes me feel better but that also might decrease your strive to change the situation and finally find one. I wouldn't want settlement for less but it sounds nice, no lies.
2021-03-22 13:07
4 replies
This is how almost all couples truly feel. They might give another expression in these times. Times where everyone has to present their best sides, and hide their worst.
2021-03-22 13:09
3 replies
But before the couple is formed, how to find peace of mind and attempt to be happy? On your own? Is it even possible, on not a temporary term?
2021-03-23 11:12
2 replies
I am speculating now. If what I write is useful to you, use it. If not, forget about It :D Accepting yourself as you are, single, alone, ugly nose, small dick, too big a belly, 12 toes, 7 fingers..... Accept it all. When you accept yourself as you are, you will quickly realize that the exterior world will do the same, and relating to others becomes much easier. Don't use a relationship as a mean to love yourself. Your self love should be absolute and internal, and not relative and external. This is the true secret of being truly attractive without using any dating guru tricks and alike. You don't need a single one of them if you truly love yourself. Many people chase external factors to boost their self love, but only because they have trouble accepting and loving themselves as they are, so they hope that external factors will help them love themselves. External factors can certainly help you on your way. But external factors can be taken away from you in a split-second. True internal accepting self love cannot. It's a theory of mine. Use it if you can, but If it doesn't ring true to you, don't think more about it, and move on.
2021-03-23 12:07
1 reply
I'm awfully sorry for a late response, got carried away as it often goes. I actually agree with your theory, I think it's much more than just a theory, lots of truth to it. But I'm absolutely fine with myself, that's not the source of my grief. Loneliness is and my hard-to-start nature, I just need people around me, people in my life. Not necessarily females, anyone. I lack human communication and common development. Give me people please, I do think they're the greatest fun.
2021-03-27 11:36
What's wrong with people being alone? People who need company at all are the ones who cannot live with themselves and use other people to distract themselves from themself.
2021-03-22 13:11
1 reply
Well, whether you want it or not, if a grownup is single, there just has to be something wrong with him. No matter the cause, if he's fine with being alone or he can't change that, either way there's some sort of disorder. I think so, I've been taught so and I tend to agree all the way. Man is a very, very social creature, distancing yourself from the fact that you need other people in your life is dangerous and can lead to a breakdown.
2021-03-23 11:11
#296
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Brazil hugoooo
hahahahaha you can't be serious
2021-03-22 13:49
1 reply
Why? I said no thing about myself.
2021-03-22 13:53
cant relate
2021-03-23 08:24
uhm dude its 2021, its perfectly normal to be single in your twenties. its not 1960 where you had to be married at 21 or be considered a lost cause. just sign up for some dating website or whatever. or wait for covid to be over and go pick up chicks in bars that have been sitting at home all year just like everyone else
2021-03-23 08:41
#322
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Malaysia bobileet
0/8 or weak people need someone to feel happy =)
2021-03-23 08:54
#334
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Greece Graecos
Hi, I returned to my parents house at 30 with the lockdown, I'm playing video games every evening. It feels like I'm 16 again so I don't really care about relationships atm. Even though, I'm pretty sure I'll feel terrible when everything will re-open
2021-03-23 09:08
7 replies
Is it actually true? Sounds like a sarcastic attempt at bringing me down, not that it's very hard but do be clean round these parts please.
2021-03-23 11:09
6 replies
#429
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Greece Graecos
That's sadly true. The real reason why I got back to my parents is not the lockdown though, it's because I need money to buy a farm. The best way to save money was to avoid paying rent so I made that move. Now, I have the money I need, the notary things are on the way so I should be out of this in about 6 months. And without evening moments with friends, we play together online during the evening.
2021-03-23 11:41
5 replies
Sorry for a late response, your decision makes sense now. But why don't you care about relationships at the moment? Did you have them so many so often that you feel complete on your own?
2021-03-27 11:37
4 replies
#589
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Greece Graecos
It's a mix of social pressures (all my friends will have a child due to the covid period) and loneliness. I tried to control it but even if you know it, you can't change 100% what you feel
2021-03-27 12:33
3 replies
What do you mean? You wanna say you're alright being alone on your own or you just can't find anyone, tell me more about yourself.
2021-03-27 12:53
2 replies
#593
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Greece Graecos
I'm all right being alone as far as I don't see others receiving affection I don't :D And I just can't find anyone cuz I'm in several small worlds where there is no new members and so it's hard to meet new people
2021-03-27 13:04
1 reply
I'm all with you on that, I feel twice as bad seeing or hearing how other people enjoy their mutual happiness, I don't wish nobody no harm but it hurts so bad. But what is stopping you from stretching your frames and relationships? For how long yet are you gonna wait? Time goes by so quickly and waits for no one, did you have at least some sort of relationships in the past, how do you maintain peace of mind at your age? Tell me please!
2021-03-27 13:14
u can fak all the bishes u want u dont want to marry a bish just enjoy the freedom 😎😎
2021-03-23 09:31
You're just mentally weak, dude. Little fragile kid.
2021-03-23 11:08
4 replies
That's not how you make me understand why. Yes, yes I need someone to guide me and make me feel good, I don't know how to be happy on my own, right now it seems impossible. Tell me how?
2021-03-23 11:08
3 replies
Unlucky genetics. The problem is your mind. You're a sheep, a follower. You don't have what it takes. You're a beta male. Some people have it, some do not. You do not.
2021-03-23 15:51
2 replies
That is the worst reply I have gotten in this thread. I don't mind being called names and stuff but if you're actually standing by what you're saying, then I think I pity you more than me myself.
2021-03-23 16:01
1 reply
You're weak, dude. Why is it so hard for you to accept? A real man can handle things like these. You can't? You are not a real man. You're a sissy.
2021-03-23 16:39
#419
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World DolphinfK
It's your choice, some people can't live w/o relationships, some people can. For me, living by your own is better in more aspects than living with someone + kids. At least for now and the next 5-10 years (24 now)
2021-03-23 11:23
10 replies
It didn't matter to me before but recently I seem to have changed and I can't live without people anymore, I need either friends or girlfriends. Web buddies will do too.
2021-03-23 11:34
9 replies
Have a nice day!
2021-03-23 11:42
8 replies
Thank you sir! Have a good time as well! We can talk if you want.
2021-03-23 11:43
7 replies
I'm always up for it. And to answer your topic: yes they exist, proof = me.
2021-03-23 15:33
6 replies
Sounds incredibly friendly and warm, just like I like it. I need to go to sleep now as I'm working tomorrow. But tomorrow, I'm expecting a good discussion and opening up, just simply having someone to talk to can do wonders to a lonely soul! My life is at its lowest point now and any living presence will make me feel two times better.
2021-03-23 15:58
5 replies
Alright, get a good rest.
2021-03-23 18:11
4 replies
Hello fellow, I wonder if you were for real back then and are your intentions really good?
2021-03-27 11:41
3 replies
What you mean?
2021-03-27 12:42
2 replies
I mean, you were kind to me and open for discussions, you actually did mean it? I'd like to abuse your kindness and make you my friend.
2021-03-27 12:51
1 reply
Of course i mean it.
2021-03-27 20:06
Sometime
2021-03-23 11:52
I came through a despression being alone, but at the end you start learning your mind to be alone, you will learn how to have fun alone, you dont need to waste your energy on a angry wife with childerens screaming. Some people cant handle being alone, its very different from person to person. You can travel the world, discover beautiful things by yourself, meet people all around you. You dont need to have a girlfriend of a wife to be happy. Its up to you, be yourself. and you should get off hltv, so many negative people here. This day im around people with families, and to be honest, they dont seem happy, their energy is low, and they have strugge to get freedom, but also its very beautiful to start a family, so there is no right answer. Its about teaching your mind to deal with it, battle your thoughts and turn them around to the positve way.
2021-03-23 11:58
There is no loliness for who believes in god. Loving yourself and Godd is the best thing you can do. When you do this, everything around that comes is a plus. Iv never felt lonely before I was married. Wasnt looking for a girl either. I was around 25/26yo and she suddnely showed up to me, and I knew it was her. That day I knew we should be united. But man, being afraid of being alone is what makes you weak. Women hates that. And they are right. Not even these days I feel that being alone is a bad thing, even loving her so much.
2021-03-23 11:55
I'm fortunate to have a good job, so I can afford lady company when I feel need for something physical. Also I have good relationship with my parents so I visit them sometimes. Also my sister and her kids. Main point is to enjoy your own company, which I do.
2021-03-23 11:59
1 reply
20 inch bong xd
2021-03-23 12:58
#467
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Switzerland noxer*
Im consistently torn between "if its meant to be, it will be" and "if you want it, go and get it". Im 26. Ive done my fair part of exploring and casual sex doesnt really cut it for me anymore.
2021-03-23 12:19
3 replies
I barely had anything of that, well, nothing to make it even. And it got to me recently, I don't even have friends and thus makes my life too blue and boring. Sex to me is still something sacred and divine, I once made a mistake that, I suppose put me back a decade earlier when I knew nothing about it and still were happy. But things changed, living with hopes of a better future coming outta my ass doesn't do it anymore. So, your happiness is a matter of time, I've got a lot of learning to do, experience to live through and I should make it quick and let it last to compensate for the years I've been dreaming.
2021-03-23 12:35
2 replies
#499
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Switzerland noxer*
This is why I feel like a more proactive approach might do a better job at bringing us happiness. Yes, people have a way of finding us and getting into our lifes, but so do we. Your last paragraph hit me. I feel like Ive been dreaming and playing fake scenarios on my head for far too long. Im in love with this girl, Patrícia. Madly in love in fact, as it feels like im a teenager again who just recently found love. Everything feels so colorful when im with her, but once I leave, the world rapidly goes grey. And this is why I keep playing those fake scenarios on my head, to bring some color to my washed up world. These fake scenarios mostly consist of me and her together, something which I crave so deeply that at this point its rooted in me. But she doesnt make up her mind. She never does. Except on the fake scenarios I play on repeat. And this is why I feel like I gotta take more action and just dont let things be. Im tired. Her living on my head isnt enough anymore.
2021-03-23 13:46
1 reply
I guess you like no one else should know that if she's taking her sweet time for so damn long to decide if she wants you near or not, she most likely doesn't. Otherwise it would be known already. Not an expert here but I often talk to girls, I can't dwell without their attention at all. So if I were you, I know it's hard to walk on by but if she's just fooling you then what's good playing her games, I would just let her be and go my own way. I used to be radical about it and now I'm alone, so think twice before listening to me. Get straight about it and ask her out for good. She's never been yours to lose much in this situation but if she gives in, you take the prize. I don't know what to do myself, feels like starting all over again from the start and I don't have much time to lose, not getting anywhere with my main hobby, no education to fall back on and not a single relation to find shelter from grief. It's gonna take magic or some badass ascension from a loser to a chad literally overnight. I hope it ends up well.
2021-03-23 14:14
If you have money and loving family, you dont need GF. You can buy 1 night girls ez EDIT: Girlfriends drain your energy with useless things + most of the guys are in "jail" because of girlfriend rules. Enjoy fkn life.
2021-03-23 13:06
#505
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Uzbekistan gafurman
I am gonna be 26 this summer and I am single. It's better this way, trust me. if you need sex, just go out to a bar or smth, find a girl, get your sex. Living with someone is only troublesome
2021-03-23 14:37
5 replies
Why? You've been a loving relationship for years so that you don't want it anymore or what?
2021-03-23 14:38
4 replies
#508
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Uzbekistan gafurman
yes
2021-03-23 14:40
3 replies
How can I trust you if I never had it myself to be sure. I need it and want it, I also lack friends just the same. So no, keep living like I do is not an option man, not at all.
2021-03-23 14:41
2 replies
#520
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Uzbekistan gafurman
if you are a lonely person, don't seek help on fucking csgo forum, go outside or some shit
2021-03-23 15:34
1 reply
I don't seek help, I know what to do. I'm just asking questions and provoking hearty discussions.
2021-03-23 15:59
I found my GF at the age of 26 and we marry tomorrow. Can tell you relationships are tough and there are points you will give up. But you should always remind yourself what you get once will you never get again in life when it comes to relationships. If people can live alone they should do. But I wouldn't even get up every morning.
2021-03-23 14:44
7 replies
How did you live before you found her? How did you meet her and what kept you happy up until that point?
2021-03-23 14:58
6 replies
I lived alone and later in a flatshare. Found here at the college we both visit. What keeps me happy?? we are very different people but "hate" the same things and we don't want that the other to change (sth that happens in a lot of relationships that someone wants you to become another person) And the little things daily... that makes you think that you don't wanna miss in your life. I am a person that "hates" people I have only a few friends etc and I found a girl that I don't start to hate even after years. normally I start to hate people in a few hours.
2021-03-23 15:12
5 replies
How things can work out! Glad to hear you found your peace of mind, I bet you deserved it. I'm more interested how did you live before you found her and what kept you happy before that happened. But either way my best wishes to you.
2021-03-23 15:14
4 replies
Before that?? Really not happy. The only thing that I wanted to do at that time is to learn. it was the only thing that made me do sth. I worked before in a shit job hate almost everything in my life and for sure questioning if I found a GF at all. to survive is no life I guess so, from 15-25 I wasn't really happy.
2021-03-23 15:20
3 replies
And yet you found her and she has seen something in you that made her stay. It actually gives a lot of hope for someone like me and I believe many others. You haven't had it that bad then, if you managed to keep her close.
2021-03-23 15:22
2 replies
believe me, it was really hard work and will always work, because a woman can be very crazy and very irrational. And if you as guy try to get it... don't try it that is my advice it makes you only crazy (a guy gave me this advice and it was probably the best advice a person gave me in life). accept the situation and do the best you can to bring it down to earth. So when you have someone you have to bear a lot of pain your own and some of her.
2021-03-23 15:29
1 reply
Thanks for the heads up, I'll keep that in mind and best of luck to you moving forward.
2021-03-23 15:31
yes im 19 and having a friends with benefits relationship with 27 year old
2021-03-23 15:29
#521
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United States glup0
in a good relationship now at 30, most of 25-30 like 90% of time was single, it was great until covid hit and then I regretted not settling down with the right person (altho to be fair i short-term dated some crazies who I could have ended up with and thankfully didn't). Met a nice colombian girl in nyc, settled in together and everything is copacetic. Fucking around on Tinder, clubbing, etc was what made me not depressed but yea the bachelor life is fun at first, lonely after a while. overall better to have one person you can date for a longer term. My advice would be by 25 u need to start focusing on a career first, financial independence will make u more attractive to women too. If u don't already then learn how to flirt, date, etc. There are a lot of shy guys especially gamers who think they cannot do this, but it is more about coming from a place of confidence and being level-headed, women will be naturally attracted to that, along with a sense of humor. Then things tend to come naturally, as long as u put yourself out there, you may meet the girl you want or some random bitches but hey who doesn't wanna mess around a bit when they're young, just don't let it cloud your true goal which should be to eventually have a stable income, start a family, etc...at least those are my thoughts now
2021-03-23 15:35
just live lol
2021-03-23 15:45
It seems that most of the guys here have had bad relationships, so they prefer loneliness. I am a woman that most guys would like to date, I am not beautiful and blond like many guys wish, but I am beautiful in body and face, I am liberal, I like games, I am fun, I know how to cook, I have work and my money , but do you know the problem with these guys? They say that "you are rare", they manage to conquer and then change. What happens next? They remain on tinder because they want to win as many women as they can.
2021-03-23 15:59
3 replies
change how? Why're you looking for relationship on tinder? Also, ""i'm not beautiful..." - "but I am beautiful in body and face"? - elaborate? what?
2021-03-24 00:00
yea nah you lost me at Liberal i would Prefer to remain Alone then ever date a Liberal but that ends up being the best for everyone
2021-03-24 04:51
A tale old as time, as long as there'll be women, most men will want to have them. Unless you're both so deep in love but such a state doesn't last forever, not very long at all. If there was no man who wanted to stay beside you, that man is yet to come. Most of us want to be hunters, and succesful at that, for most of us it's enough to have a few trophies hard earned, for some it takes years and some just need their loved one to ease their worried mind and make believe they're there for them to stay.
2021-03-24 04:52
imagine dedicating your life to another person lmao
2021-03-23 16:00
29 single, Man utd and Faze fan. RIP me
2021-03-23 21:36
Not 25 (yet) but I will still say something first of all, it's not a matter of being in a relationship but being happy in life, sometimes you don't need a girlfriend but a girl friend, but if you want to get in relationship you need to be yourself and you need to be happy with yourself... Also, you need to find some passion in life, set a goal, work towards getting it, get it.. set new one. You can't be in a stable relationship if you're not stable yourself.
2021-03-24 00:05
I'll be 28 this year and yes I am currently single but in my case it is more unique due to being asexual and celibate, I don't really need nor want an intimate relationship, I'd much rather be friends with someone. :)
2021-03-24 00:15
28 replies
Do you think it's a disorder or actually an advantage? Do you see yourself bound to someone later in the future? Tell me about yourself if you don't mind? How do your days go?
2021-03-24 01:30
12 replies
No, the disorder I live with is mental illness and I will live with that for the rest of my life, being an asexual I wouldn't say is a disorder or makes life difficult, just that I do not get aroused by things that is supposed to evoke arousal. I can see somebody as attractive and think they are attractive but it doesn't go any further than that. As a result of this, I don't really watch any pornography, I don't really want any relationships and as a result of this, I am willingly celibate. :) I have only ever had sex the once and even then, I didn't really enjoy it. So I am single but I am willingly single because of the way I am. :D Am I annoyed at this? Not really, it just makes me unique in this world alike everybody else. ^^
2021-03-24 02:15
11 replies
It's actually very interesting, I'll be honest to show you how narrow minded I am because I don't believe you, really not at all. Until I become one myself I don't think I can believe it. Thanks for the quality response. But can you tell me how do you spend your spare time? Are you working? What hobbies do you have? And if you don't get turned on by anything sexual, is there something else you have got in excess to compensate for it? Anything? I guess not getting your heart broken ever can count? But tell me more please. People's stories have always been interesting to me.
2021-03-24 04:39
10 replies
I guess the unusualness makes it on more interesting side of things but life continues on as normal, I don't think there is any replacements for the lack of a sex drive. :D My work involves working on websites for various companies/organisations, so moderation, administration, web-design, etc... all really incredibly boring and laborious stuff. :D What about you, friend? Will you share your stories with us?
2021-03-24 09:20
9 replies
Ooh, sorry for a late response, got carried away with boredom and nothingness in between. I pine these days. My problem is that I have too much spare time on my hands, not much of bravery to put it in practical use and no friends at all to spend it as I'd like to. I don't know what to do or maybe I do but I don't know how to make myself do it. Just a couple of friends would do the trick but I've lost the one I had and I never considered others to be them. Trying out escaping from my comfort zone, having a stroll with a girl and all that stuff, trying to get to know more of them but being so deep down your butt for years you struggle finding something in common with other people, you get left behind by the things you like and hold on to, that are not trendy anymore. So how to be and what to do, I wish I really really knew. Let's talk more, your job sounds prestigeous but do you enjoy it? What are your ambitions for the near future? You must be having some good friends to accompany you, right? You're not completely alone even though you are asexual?
2021-03-26 03:29
8 replies
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, friend... Remember that you are not alone in this world, on or off of HLTV. :D "Let's talk more, your job sounds prestigeous but do you enjoy it? What are your ambitions for the near future? You must be having some good friends to accompany you, right? You're not completely alone even though you are asexual?" I love my job, I guess it more self-employment than anything else and provided I maintain the anonymity of my jobs requirements. I don't really have any ambitions, it is mostly just taking things day by day and enjoying every day alive while I currently can, I guess. No, I'm not alone in this world, I'm very lucky to be blessed with incredible friends that aid and assist me whenever I need it and vice-versa whenever they require my assistance. :D
2021-03-26 11:47
7 replies
Sounds cozy and joyful. I truly wonder how can you feel fully happy and complete without the intimacy and any sexual interaction with the one you have feelings for. But nobody knows better than you. I always was realistic with my eyes open and at this point, my life's in a bad state, right now it's true and I feel lonely, I'm changing and very rapidly at that. A year or so ago I could play games most of the time and never care about anything else, whether I had friends or not, I lived in dreams. Right now, I can't go on without talking to at least a few people and be sure I have at least one friend that won't leave me tomorrow. Did you ever have such periods in life and how did you fight them? How to take it easier and then start to solve this issue?
2021-03-27 11:44
6 replies
I assume you're referring to depression and yes, being a manic depressive myself I can relate to your current predicament. Depression is unbelievably common and it can happen to everybody, if it is prevalent and doesn't go away, that is what pills are for. I sincerely hope you find what it is you're looking for, friend.
2021-03-27 13:39
5 replies
For someone who likes to juggle words this world has seldom seen, you are not very talkative at all. My guess is I'm not the one who turns you on this sort of discussion. Either way, thanks a lot and my best wishes to you.
2021-03-27 13:58
4 replies
Have I not been talkative enough? My apologies... I guess I thought I didn't need an extremely lengthy reply as a response to your post due to the sensitive subject matter and overall I worry my posts are far too long is response sometimes. You ask anybody who knows me on HLTV, I could talk your ears off. :D
2021-03-27 14:04
3 replies
It's alright, you don't have to, I could've had a wrong impression.
2021-03-27 14:20
2 replies
Then let us end our fruitful discussion here, my good friend. :) It has been a pleasure to get to know the ins and outs of "VelsVivard" and I sincerely wish that you have a good day. :) Till the next time our paths cross...
2021-03-27 14:24
1 reply
I thought we already did it, and in style! I didn't really tell much about myself, feels like I only scratched the surface, but at the same time there's not much left to say. All seems complicated but is so simple in fact. Bye and enjoy your ways of life.
2021-03-27 14:30
Hormon problem?
2021-03-26 14:14
14 replies
Hormones? I do not think that is how being asexual works...
2021-03-26 14:16
13 replies
3 things if you dont have hormon problems Either you bullied and rejected by girls in high school Or you are weak beta male with zero social skills Or you need a perfect girl to date bcuz none of girls attract you
2021-03-26 14:23
11 replies
Or, you don't quite understand how being asexual works and are trying to find reasons as to why by way of needlessly baiting replies out of someone? "I mean being asexual is against nature so only reason i find out is this" How exactly?
2021-03-26 14:43
10 replies
Do u see a dog deciding not sex with another dog Or lion Or monkey Or zebra I mean being straight is natural Being asexual isnt natural I mean if you have problems(mentally ill,too ugly to attract girls,being incel,or as i said you could be bullied that could cause you to going asexual
2021-03-26 15:19
Im not baiting dude im just asking questions and expressing my opinion Am i not allowed to do that?
2021-03-26 15:25
5 replies
"Either you bullied and rejected by girls in high school" Bullied all my life throughout school but I was never rejected by female students as I rarely talked to them unless I needed something from them, it was never to attempt to start a relationship. "Or you are weak beta male with zero social skills" I don't really follow along the trend of denoting ourselves with Greek titles, as for my social skills, I will always have social anxiety, I'm afraid. Speaking to strangers is always touch and go but it depends on the person, in all honesty. Once I know the person, I can talk perfectly fine. "Or you need a perfect girl to date bcuz none of girls attract you" I'm all for "finding that special somebody" and especially if you opt to believe in the philosophy that there is someone out there for everybody, but again, I never really did any of this "girlfriend"/"boyfriend" stuff... I'd much prefer to be a friend instead of a potential partner. Granted, I have had girls come up to me to ask me out on a date before but they were always politely and respectfully turned down, I would say I am open to opening a friend relationship, though. I'm friends with many brilliant and fantastic females and I wouldn't change it for the world. :) "Im not baiting dude im just asking questions and expressing my opinion" I'm all for that and I will answer your questions but your questions are bizarre and don't really understand asexualism all that well? Here: "Asexuality describes a lack of sexual attraction. Asexual people may experience romantic attraction, but they do not feel the urge to act on these feelings sexually. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, like being gay or straight. It is different from celibacy or abstinence." <-- The difference here is I am also celibate because I don't want nor require any sexual activity and I can note a female is attractive, but that is it. Nothing wrong with it, I just don't want coitus, it is unenjoyable for me.
2021-03-26 15:36
4 replies
Sorry for late reply i was banned Can i ask why and how did u bullied?
2021-04-03 16:52
3 replies
I don't really know why, easy target was always my assumption. As for how? It's quite gruelling and overall not very nice to talk about, so I won't go into detail about that. :D I think there is a post somewhere from a few years ago that told a few stories but otherwise I don't really talk about it. Did you ever get bullied, friend?
2021-04-03 18:28
2 replies
No i didnt get bullied Maybe i bullied some other people in school bcuz pissing me off but im not sure I just asked to clarify if it was in real life or cyberbully Thanks for reply dude
2021-04-03 22:15
1 reply
Schoolyard bullying and IRL bullying. Always a pleasure. :) Have a good day.
2021-04-04 00:14
U can add me to your profile Im respectful fan of GOAT S1mple
2021-03-26 15:37
2 replies
You are a fan of s1mple indeed but I rarely ever see you be respectful to other users unless they are a fan of either s1mple or Device. If you want to be added, I would gladly do so though, friend. :)
2021-03-26 15:41
1 reply
If people call s0mple or baiter I got angry friend
2021-03-26 15:45
I think u dont find brit girls attractive Bcuz me also dont find them attractive I mean being asexual is against nature so only reason i find out is this
2021-03-26 14:27
i mean im 22 not 25 never had a GF im not going to blame anyone for that i myself dont have good enough mental health to have a relationship and shit like social skills didnt come naturally for me how i cope i mean you try and focus on each day as its happening the less time you spend remembering how fucked you are the easier it gets hell thats the reason why i play Csgo cause even if its for a breif moment i forget how useless i am
2021-03-24 04:49
4 replies
You're not alone here, most of us, even if had something before, now surely forgot how it feels. And someone didn't have it at all yet. The worst thing you can do is to accept your current situation and force yourself to get used to it, after that you are not living. You're floating in dreams like a feather while your body is decomposing back there on Earth.
2021-03-24 04:56
3 replies
i know what you mean and i know you will think this is self pity that's fine if you think that but i just don't believe in myself Nor do i think i can change and the worst part is there is enough times when i don't even think i deserve help anyway for the best part of a decade now i have been dealing with on off depression and Anger Problems + i know this will be hard to understand but like i have not had any friends for over 5 years now and ive just been doing this for so long this is all i know i can barely remember what it was like before i was such a Nihilist but despite this i do wish everyone good luck
2021-03-24 05:03
2 replies
I'm in a similar position and I can't see myself giving up, although it gets very, very hard to get by sometimes. You need someone and soon, I mean a friend or anyone, here's me, you found me, that's the first step to recovery. It will take time and some effort but when you get there and be happy, you'll be wondering why didn't you start before. Fellas like us should stick together, on their own we are very fragile and mentally weak. Don't leave me.
2021-03-24 05:08
I feel you man, can relate to a lot of what you are writing. Keep working on yourself. At least you have come this far. The conclusion that you might be the problem is really tough, but it's from here you can make the changes. It will take a longtime, and I can only suggest you start finding some kind of workout or whatever to release some energy. Get some good habits, and keep working on yourself :)
2021-03-24 05:10
im 35 and single. i was in a 9 year relationship that ended some years ago. i like being alone and havent tried to get a new relationship since. im a man, not a kid anymore
2021-03-24 04:58
Honestly you will get better at dealing with it, but the best advice I can give you is to try to get rid of your bad habits, so when you actually find that one person you would like to be with, she/he actually stays. Fx I can be quite toxic and jealous which of course will push people away, so I'm trying to have a more positive mindset in general. Be the person you would like to be.
2021-03-24 05:04
2 replies
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate and I share your views on it. But I'd like to know your way of dealing with it, how? Feels like I can't go on without talking to at least a few people everyday and be assured I have at least one person won't leave me tomorrow. Not even talking about females exclusively but just people to talk to. How mate?
2021-03-27 11:45
1 reply
I dunno to be honest. I've been without a very good friend for almost 3-4 years now, and felt lonely for the same amount of time. And i'ts not like I don't talk with anyone at all. I kinda feel like I just drifted in and out of friendships for years without growing, where I could see my friends grow. Now I try to just do my own thing, have as much control about what I wanna do. I don't have a solution for loneliness. I can only tell you, that it's better to be lonely than forcing yourself to do stuff you don't enjoy just to be with others. It will tear you apart, since you are not true to yourself. Of course once in a while you can do it to support others, but don't let it become you. I guess building character and become a good person helps you. And try to be aware of why you befriend someone. Fx do you actually think they are nice/good company/a good person, or are you only staying around because of your loneliness? Cause in the last case you will end up leaving eachother as friends again, since you have bad synergy.
2021-03-27 18:51
Not 25, but spending time on my own doing things I love makes me happy. The thought of 'I have to do X or Y to please someone or actively trying to date someone' is just not something I want right now.
2021-03-26 15:46
"I don't need a girlfriend. Imagine all the money I'm saving being single" gyazo.com/9cc9db28f44d88b28c7dc849d30ef2..
2021-03-26 15:51
sad thread. im happy i grew up way before these times.
2021-03-27 13:24
7 replies
Sad indeed but I'm happy for you. We still have all the time in the world to change things for better and this sort of 'collective therapy' might help us to understand what to do next and actually start doing it. Not much time lost and it depends on how you look at it.
2021-03-27 13:25
6 replies
im not so sure about the collective therapy thing to be honest. it more than often just feels like an echo chamber which means you theoretically got lots of times, but maybe no input that is helpful. theres a reason why incel community (just an example of a "working" echo chamber environment, not saying that hltv is one) grew that much in the last years.
2021-03-27 13:28
5 replies
It varies from person to person, I struggle at the moment but I admitted my faults and I'm moving in the right direction, I just wanted to know how many single people are out there and how do they feel about it, how do they put up with loneliness and how do they still enjoy life?
2021-03-27 13:30
4 replies
ah, dont get me wrong. im giving you no shade here. with "sad thread" i not so much meant your op but a lot of the responses, like to see how people are in this day and age glad to hear you were able to face yourself.
2021-03-27 13:35
3 replies
You're making it look like you could father us all and still have a bunch of space for huggings. I won't even dare assuming how old are you, I'd rather just ask you and see how it goes. Yes, this thread turned out to be pretty sad but that's the point, to provoke a sincere emotion and find some consolation in someone else's struggle, that's how we roll.
2021-03-27 14:31
2 replies
42 somehow i dont let go with this part of my past, meaning 1.6/csgo :D trying my best of being a voice of reason here. sometimes i get carried away tho haha
2021-03-27 14:42
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I wish I'll be able to look back with the smile having a loving family by the time I'm 42, almost 20 years to go still. My best wishes and enjoy your peaceful time.
2021-03-27 14:42
When you are absolutely ugly or not interesting person for different gender, it's really easy to be lonely in that age. If you are both it also could last forever. However, I guess, having no friends should be times more depressing.
2021-03-27 20:17
nice thread
2021-03-27 20:22
To be honest, I am 27 years old now, I have been single for almost 8 years I think but am happy you know. I had a girlfriend and that went kind off shit after we broke up. I really didn't handle it nice. I was heartbroken and was really down, then after 1 month or so she ended up with a 'friend' of mine who tried to 'fix' us up. This would go on for 1 year or so, which didn't make it any better because I was still furious and angry at them, I really wished they would break up a hella lot. Since that, I like girls, but if they don't like me or something I am not going to invest time in them. Screw them all tbh, the only sad thing is that I need them so I can move out of house (the house prices here are.... to huge just for one person) and to have kids (which I want). But am happy, I am not searching anymore, it will come or it won't come, if it won't come i can always go to a dating site or something, so plenty of options XD.
2021-03-27 20:41
+1 Bruh this thread is still alive
2021-03-29 03:42
3 replies
Common issue, talk about things that pain.
2021-03-29 03:49
2 replies
I wish you luck finding happiness (please do the same for me). Thanks for #212
2021-03-30 15:43
1 reply
Of course, thanks a lot matey, good luck finding love and happiness!
2021-03-30 15:57
#631
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Lebanon Dogman69
you are probably at this stage when school and university is over and you realize (too late probably) that you actually need to start put effort in to meet people when before you were forced to socialize in youth
2021-03-29 03:51
12 replies
Why it can ever be too late? As long as you're still sane and healthy, it's never too late.
2021-03-29 03:56
11 replies
#633
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Lebanon Dogman69
Speaking from experience. I was pretty social, then university ended, went to army for a year and then started to work. Social circle went from 50 people to 3 people, partially my fault because didn't put enough effort to hold relationships up. Never recovered
2021-03-29 03:59
10 replies
I made it hard on myself and didn't go anywhere after the school. Doing my hobby I like dearly and want to advance at it. Trying to find new relationships, both friends and girlfriends.
2021-03-29 03:59
9 replies
#635
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Lebanon Dogman69
Sounds like coping. What hobby is that it takes up so much of your time? You seem to expect people to come to you instead of making the move first. Yet you have nothing of interest to offer to other people for them to come to you it seems.
2021-03-29 04:02
8 replies
I didn't even try before, I just started recently and I already have walk-abouts with my female relative of my age every so often, having a date tomorrow, signed up for lessons to improve my craft, found a buddy from another city that I spend time with and often talk to. The problem is that I just recently realised that it's much more important and that I really need it. Before I was living in a dream.
2021-03-29 04:04
7 replies
#637
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Lebanon Dogman69
ok, good luck. just warning you like #6 already did. last time at your age to try fix, at one point it's too late. Old dogs don't learn new tricks.
2021-03-29 04:28
6 replies
I'm not old yet, I've been idling for most of my life and now I'm starting to live. Thanks. Although my spirit may be very, very old, in fact I'm so young and inexperienced. Nice ride guaranteed. How old are you?
2021-03-29 04:53
5 replies
#641
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Lebanon Dogman69
I mean you are 24, that's old even if you deny it. There is no true romance at that age anymore, life becomes more and more a market transaction. No youthful pureness and energy anymore. Your mind is in degeneration mode. That's why you need to act fast and decisive in whatever you are pursuing. 30 y.o btw
2021-03-29 05:08
4 replies
Ok Mustafa hahahah wtf
2021-03-29 05:12
You're so pessimistic, mate, it gets hard to talk to you. I know I'm not in the youth lineup anymore, teenage period is behind but I'm certainly not old yet. You only become old when you feel yourself old and unwanted. I've only just begun and if I said I was 18, everyone would believe it. I saved all my love for the one and we're gonna enjoy it greatly. Are you engaged at the moment or why are you so careless because these words may hurt you too.
2021-03-29 05:18
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#646
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Lebanon Dogman69
Pessimistic? Yes, maybe, probably. But you are the one who is 24 y.o, feel like wasted your life so far grinding video games in your prime and now waking up and in panic mode ;) ? Just saying you are young enough for the light at the end of the tunnel but the tunnel is longer and longer.
2021-03-29 05:29
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Yes, that's an accurate description but it's not that bad. I wasn't only playing, I was doing other things as well. I learned English, I mastered my songwriting prowess and practiced vocals all these years. Now I'm ready to go on and I will release my first single in a few days and then the next one soon. Occassionally talked to girls and now I can do that too. I'm 24, not 34 and it's not like I was imprisoned, I enjoyed it but now I want a change and I'm working on it. It's in process.
2021-03-29 05:36
wtf if you're a guy you shouldn't be complaining, you can easily date girls 18-25yo
2021-03-29 05:17
5 replies
I'm asking around for now, not complaining yet.
2021-03-29 05:19
4 replies
Ur ruski bro Every ruski guy is ugly And every ruski girls are beautiful There shouldnt be reason to be single for you
2021-04-03 16:58
3 replies
That's nowhere near truth. It's 50-50, we can be both very beautiful or very ugly. But the thing is that even what is considered average for us, would be super cool for you.
2021-04-03 16:59
2 replies
Ruski girls have popularity of being beautiful And when i go to the beaches and look at ruski male tourists they all look like balding alcohol and smoking addicts
2021-04-03 17:02
1 reply
Well that's not even 0.1% of the Russian male population, look at the younger ones who still care about the way they look.
2021-04-03 17:11
Tbh i never searched for a GF and i still dont sure it would be nice to fck here and there but i honestly dont know what i would do for the rest of the days with her
2021-04-03 17:03
yes they do
2021-04-03 17:05
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