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Russia PETA_Activist 
The last days I remember a lot my first (and only) attempt to move out of my parents at the beginning of 2009. Then I did not succeed, exactly 6 months later I returned to them, as I ran out of money. 12 years have passed since then. And during all this time, I no longer made any attempts to move out of them. Strange ... Incidentally, the story of the move then came out very sad for me. I even hate to remember it. As I remember now, it was February 22, 2009. There is a crisis and panic in the country. And I was pretty good. At that time I had my own online porn store on DVD recorded blanks, mailed them all over the country. The income was very decent by my then standards - at the level of 25,000 per month. Well, I was also badly brainwashed then. The fact that at 25 years old only losers can live with their parents, well, everything in this spirit. At that time I was still quite suggestible and had a poor immunity to public opinion =) And so, in mid-February, against the background of all this, I make a decision: “How did they stop me! I'm moving away from them! " My cousin suggested some agency to me, and they selected several suitable inexpensive options for a one-room apartment for me. I sifted out a couple of apartments (there were tattered shacks), and I liked one option. It cost like 17,000 a month, I don't remember. Then there was a crisis and rental prices were low. The apartment was more or less nothing, but "grandmother's option." I was not very picky then, I had bad tastes =) and even agreed to this option. I paid the agency 15,000 or 17,000 for finding me an apartment (fool, fuck), talked to the retired hostess, and they told me that I could move in tomorrow morning. It was February 22, 2009. I came home that day, my mother returned from the store in a good mood, bought some cakes by February 23 and said that tomorrow we would have tea with them =). Dad was at home too. Parents still did not know anything - they did not even know that I was nursing the idea of ??moving out of them. I started collecting my things in the room, putting everything in boxes and bags. Well, I told my mother in between times, going out into the corridor, that tomorrow morning I was leaving them. She reacted very aggressively to this. She called me a jerk or something like that, she started hysterical with tears, and then for a couple of hours she ran around the apartment in anger and in snot and clucked loudly. I did not enter into dialogues with her and did not say anything to her at all. That evening I realized that, in fact, my mother is my enemy. Who only wished me harm. That is, maybe she herself believed that she wished me well, but in fact it was precisely the enemy who wanted me to always remain weak, dependent and a failure who is not able to be independent. That evening, I guess I even hated her. The next morning she did not speak to me (she did not answer me on "Good morning"), and so I moved out of them. I, too, did not even call her after 2 weeks and congratulate her on March 8. In general, the congress from the parents was very negative and difficult psychologically. I was very sad that all normal people have normal parents who are proud and happy for the successes of their children, and would only be glad of this turn of events, but I have the most real Ugly and Enemies. Real ENEMIES to his son, who wish him only evil. I have not forgiven them for this, and I am not going to forgive them. I believe that this cannot be forgiven. Although, parents - maybe this is not entirely accurate. Dad was generally silent then. He did not say a word to me, and even from his appearance I could not understand whether he was FOR me, or was AGAINST. But I still think he betrayed me. If he were a normal man, he would have barked properly at his wife, hit the table with his fist and told her that evening to get the fuck out. I couldn't tell her that - that would be disrespectful to my mother, but he could - he is a husband and has every right. He was silent while she clucked for almost two hours, which means he was on her side. Life after moving? It was also so difficult psychologically that I don't even want to remember all this ... Every couple of weeks Dad called me - he asked: "How are you?" He pissed me off and annoyed me terribly. I just wanted to forget about them and did not want to see or hear them. I understood that he was calling, most likely, at the behest of mother. Somehow I couldn’t even resist and told him that he was a little screwed up by calling me every couple of weeks, but it didn’t work - he continued to call anyway. The owner of the apartment turned out to be, albeit quite a pleasant, friendly person, but at the same time a fucking soviet collective farmer. A couple of times she came without warning. I’m sitting at my computer and jerking off, and suddenly the doorbell rang - this whore got in to pick up something from the closet. I didn't want to spoil my relationship with her, so I gritted my teeth and opened the door and didn't tell her everything that I think about her. I'll never get in touch with the fucking pensioner again. Brainless and tactless. Life? It was a nightmare. The toilet is ok it was done once after six months - before moving out. The sink and bath in general, it seems, did not clean. I didn’t have an ironing board or an iron - then I still walked like a gopnik and dressed in all the trash that I didn’t even iron after washing =). I slept on the bed, covering it with a sheet from the sofa (one and a half), that is, the sheet was smaller than the bed itself. I ate shit too. I absolutely did not know how to cook. Chocolates, cookies, big bon, rice, buckwheat, pasta, sausages, dumplings - that's what made up my diet. In general, I lived like an ordinary omission. Now it’s a shame even to remember and it all seems inconceivable to me. Still, in 12 years I have changed for the better =)) Then I was 25 years old, I was eaten from the inside by the problem of my virginity, my brain was so clouded that, one might say, then I was a completely different person. I was obsessed with the idea of ??"meeting girls", starting to live together with some of them, clubs, discos =), and so on. In general, my brain was inflamed and I was only thinking about how I could finally lose my virginity. It ate me from the inside, I had a porridge in my head. Now remembering all this is funny and very sad at the same time. What a fool and an idiot I was - beyond words. Even then, I was very obsessed with the idea of ??"changing my life." I need to change my life ... Move on. Change, change, strive, change ... It was the same intoxication as with virginity. I was eaten from the inside by the fact that I was marking time. I longed for change, like Tsoi in his famous song. It was some kind of brain inflammation. But at the same time, I realized that I was failing. My life has not changed a bit - as I sat in my room before, living with my parents, so I sat in it now, with the only difference that now I was spending a lot of money for rent. I naively thought that after the move my life would change dramatically, but with horror for myself I soon realized that nothing had changed. And it also pressed very hard and eaten away at me from the inside. And then financial problems were added to all this. Then I was fond of motorcycle travel =), I had a 50-cc scooter, on which I liked to ride not only around St. Petersburg, like all normal people, but also loved to go on multi-day trips of 1,000 - 3,000 km with a tent =) to Moscow , to Vladimir, to Tver, to Veliky Novgorod, once even drove almost to Nizhny Novgorod. By the middle of 2009, due to the depression, I started to dump the online store, earnings dropped dramatically, and coupled with high expenses (it takes a lot of motorcycle travel, if you love comfort) I quickly ran aground. And completely disappointed in everything on August 23, 2009 i returned to parents. I drove into them almost at night. I returned to my room angry, with hatred and in terrible depression. I literally threw things against the wall in anger. I returned to the hated house, which six months ago, it seemed, had said goodbye forever. Remembered all this SHIT the last days. 12 years have passed, and a very unpleasant aftertaste has remained so clearly, as if it had happened a week ago. Remembering all this, I realized that during these 12 years absolutely nothing has changed. I am still living with parents.
2021-04-17 03:53
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+1 didnt read but i respect the typing
2021-04-17 03:54
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#4
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United States Americah!
+1
2021-04-17 03:57
+1
2021-04-17 04:22
+1
2021-04-17 06:00
#44
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Australia Zilox
+1
2021-04-17 06:09
+1
2021-04-17 10:23
#77
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China SwooksarV2
+1
2021-04-17 10:55
what a strong and emotional story,
2021-04-17 03:55
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#66
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Ecuador Ageless
+1
2021-04-17 10:27
wtf you had a porn store???
2021-04-17 03:56
3 replies
Kind of. I sent porn DVDs all over the country by mail
2021-04-17 03:57
2 replies
I don't understand how did you obtain them? did you make them yourself? did you film shit?
2021-04-17 03:58
1 reply
I just downloaded videos from internet and recorded on empty disc blanks. Back then internet availability in russia was low and there was demand for adult videos
2021-04-17 04:02
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Senegal amazed1337
Why people consider living with parents as a failure ? Just appreciate them for what they have given us, and when you feel you are ready (good job, good income etc...) you can move out.
2021-04-17 03:58
5 replies
only in the US
2021-04-17 04:01
It is not a failure but it is not the best. How the fuck are you gonna have a relationship living with your parents? I mean it can be done but nobody wants to deal with that.
2021-04-17 04:04
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#27
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North America 007DBR9
why do you need so badly to have a relationship at that age
2021-04-17 04:49
#29
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Senegal amazed1337
Correct for the part of having a relationship. Not ideal.
2021-04-17 04:53
it is considered a failure once you start hitting that 25y, 30y mark. until then it is fine.
2021-04-17 05:43
#9
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Singapore Am2de
I always find difference between east and west culture fascinating. Like, how most of the westerners move out of home after 18 (unless they are super-rich/super-poor). Generally speaking, in most of the eastern culture/countries people don't move out even when they start earning. Usually they take care of parents. (I think Indian subcontinent culture is also same if I'm not wrong) It's like even when I went for one semester exchange in Australia, my parents usually called me 3-4 times per day just to check on if I was okay which was pretty weird for my local friends as they only talked once a week/twice a week.
2021-04-17 04:01
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My parents wanted me to move out, so I did.
2021-04-17 04:22
In india we even have 3 generations living together
2021-04-17 10:20
#13
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Portugal H3NR
I don't know if this is your real life story or you're just pretty good at writing, but it kept me captivated to read the entire thing. Kudos for that.
2021-04-17 04:11
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Sounds pretty real in terms of price and appsrtment description. In fact this guy is only good at writing. Sells porn, wines about parents and still lives with them. Didn't even have balls to draw borders with landlord. Pure almost 40 trash
2021-04-17 05:39
that's a lot of words
2021-04-17 04:13
#15
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Russia VelsVivard
So you are now 37 right, what are you going to do now? Is anything from this even true? What are your thoughts for the future?
2021-04-17 04:16
9 replies
How to motivate yourself to start doing something? NO. Just relax, come to terms with your fate, and continue to sit in shit.
2021-04-17 04:22
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#21
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Russia VelsVivard
I don't believe you, you're a fine story teller. I don't believe you can come to terms with that, are you for real?
2021-04-17 04:28
7 replies
After many attempts to change my life I am done
2021-04-17 04:46
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#28
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Russia VelsVivard
What are you gonna do now? Are you single? Do you have friends?
2021-04-17 04:51
5 replies
Dunno. I have little source of income to cover my expenses, so its not too sad as it seems to be. I broke off all relations with former friends a long time ago
2021-04-17 05:07
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#38
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Russia VelsVivard
What is your main joy in life as of now? What makes you happy and what do you look forward to?
2021-04-17 05:19
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#69
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Ecuador Ageless
He has learned helplessness unfortunately, you cannot help him see that he has control in his own life
2021-04-17 10:30
what are your answers to those qs, jovik>?
2021-04-17 10:30
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#72
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Russia VelsVivard
Times change and I'm not sure anymore.
2021-04-17 10:40
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United States thvAD
wholesome +1
2021-04-17 04:20
#20
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Japan ugu
Hahaha, not sure if this is true, but kuddos for the typing. I've actually moved abroad to go to college myself, but dropped out and came back home. I'm studying in a university near my house nowadays, and my life is going much better tbh. At least I don't fool myself anymore, life's definitely a very hard trip...
2021-04-17 04:24
+1
2021-04-17 04:29
its a cultural thing some countries normalize living with parents until 30 +- and some countries doesnt
2021-04-17 04:34
got abused by societal expectations, kinda ungrateful fuck to your parents, at least from the story. i would not worry about all that shit, more and more people are gonna live with their parents that's just how the economy works nowadays.
2021-04-17 04:39
2 replies
+1
2021-04-17 05:57
even if you have a lot of money, living with them for 5 years longer than "expected" can be a smart choice
2021-04-17 06:46
If you are working and pulling your own weight around the house then it is no problen
2021-04-17 04:43
how to be social irl? Pls help
2021-04-17 05:08
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approach every hot girl you see IRL soon you will be very confident
2021-04-17 05:11
Living with your parents not a problem, as long as you are living good life. How is your relationship with your parents nowadays?
2021-04-17 06:08
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Indonesia segopecel
I dont get it, why you consider you mother as enemy? Because she wanted you live with them or bcs she objected to your decision? Edit: i read it again and now a bit clearer. You think your mother deliberately hindering you. But i think these thing should be resolved with a good conversation, or maybe you should told her sometime before, not suddenly moving out.
2021-04-17 06:22
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#46
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Indonesia segopecel
Personally, i see no problem in living with parents as an adult, as generally people of my culture in indonesia. Usually we move out only if we have job in another city or married. Living with your parent is no different than when you living as a child(well you're still their child arent you), but living with another married couple add another dynamics to your relationship. What if your mother dislike your wife for whatever reason, etc. So we tend to move out to avoid everything bad that might happen.
2021-04-17 06:32
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#55
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United States ProPizzza
+1 its exactly the same for my family
2021-04-17 10:05
Average houses in my area cost close to a million now, which means that living at home isnt as frowned upon
2021-04-17 06:35
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+1 a place in a similar location where I live now would cost me an absolute fortune. Kind of hesitant to move out just for the fuck of it and going somewhere that is a direct downgrade.
2021-04-17 10:51
#50
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Peru TheJuan
wow this is the greatest novel I have ever read
2021-04-17 06:47
should have stayed with parents, kept the porn store, saved money... anyway what do u do right now?
2021-04-17 07:23
#53
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Latvia heywire
i aint reading that but nice brother or unlucky brother.
2021-04-17 10:01
TLDR
2021-04-17 10:03
pog
2021-04-17 10:05
pretty normal here to live with parents till 25-30 and their grandparents also living there still. its all family so why care if the relationship is good.
2021-04-17 10:10
Fucking covid ruined my plans, still working from home and living with parents. Not 12 years bad but I kinda get you
2021-04-17 10:12
Sad
2021-04-17 10:16
From own experience, best is to move out early. You still have government benefits paying for your housing till your 18 and you also learn fast to be on your own. I moved out with 15-16 cuz my mom changed the region and I didn't wanna leave my school and my friends and my football team, so I just didn't move along and Jugendamt helped me stay almost 1 year for free before i could get a job and get everything goin well for me. and its best decision of my life. the habit of comfort is fucking up this whole generation.
2021-04-17 10:22
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#71
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Ecuador Ageless
Good job bro, keep up the good work
2021-04-17 10:35
No moving out before 18 is not good for most people and most people will struggle
2021-04-17 11:07
no way this is true, you should become author ahahaha
2021-04-17 10:23
If you want to blog, then go to reddit.
2021-04-17 10:29
plz someone copy paste to make me laugh. too much to read
2021-04-17 10:41
Respect for writing your story out. If it is real, then it kind of sucks for you :( That said your English is pretty good, most people in Russia don't know it as well as you do, maybe you could make use of it somehow. If it is fake though, with a bit of effort you could probably become a writer. It was an interesting read :)
2021-04-17 10:50
i hope you're fine. life is very hard, dont give up until you died. try to finding more happiness, chase your dreams, find someone who care about you. start from small. life is about progress, not a result. keep stronger man
2021-04-17 10:52
i never appreciated my parents and what they did until i was living on my own. its a big step but it also make u a new person.
2021-04-17 10:56
#79
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Poland smutnyyy
too long text
2021-04-17 10:59
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