how old are you? When i was a teen (15-18) i was also shy, only talking in small groups or with people i know, had hard time talking to new people and when i was talking i wasnt myself. I was speaking things people wanted to hear.
Now iam 23 and its basically 180. I always say what i think, i dont give a fuck about opinion of others if someone dont like me fuck them. I only care about closest people (family, gf. 3-4 friends) rest can fuckthemselfs, iam not nice to new people i make them earn my respect.
How to improve confidence?
-I tried fake it till u make it tactic and it worked
- before social meetings i was listening to agressive music that boosted my confidence
- i trained alot and got some muscles,
-found my style in clothing
-i talked about my passions (sports, esport, running,) and didnt really care if someone wants to listen (if u are confident most people are pussies and scared to interuppt)
How to start?
- Start training (run, pushups simple stuff)
- Start caring about skin, teeth, hair,
- Be patient it takes time to build confidence,
- Understand not everyone will be your friend