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I'll try to keep it as short as possible. Cute girl i liked at school, she in my class. Approached her abd talked to her, she gave me her insta. we watched 2 movies on discord, then went to a restaurant together. She seemed shy, i paid for both and she replies w good replies and not w 1 word phrases.
She after the date writes me that she can offer friendship only.
She replies fast and w usually long messages on whatsapp as well. Went to second time to a restaurant, she was more confident, trusted me private things and asked quite a few questions and seemed interested.
I later tell her after second "date" that I'm open for more than friendship she said she can't cuz of depressions and it had nothing to do with me. I asked if she's sure and she was sure, she said its not about me not being her type.
We haven't chatted in 2 days, it was always me kn the last two weeks who was the person to start the convo and she's generally shy. Should I wait for her to text me first this time?
What woulf u do in my pos? I still have a big crush on her
i can assure you this is the right place to ask question like that
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+1 we're all dating experts
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I only kissed my mom once while she was asleep. Does this count in any way?
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AYO WTF??
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definitely
Only serious and well thought out advice :)
U make fun but #2 gave awesome advice tbf
Dont try to force a one sided relationship; she's being clear she doesnt want to date (you, or anyone for that matter)
That being said, if you like her as friends too, just become good friends and maybe one day. Dont stay friends JUST to get a chance to get into a relationshp either, though
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+1 very Good advice imo
how about give it some time and if i notice even after some time that she doesnt want more -> drop her?
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You don't have to drop someone if they dont wanna date u, if u genuinely are only interested in a relationship, then sure. But if you actually enjoy being with her, then why not just invest into a friendship?
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cuz it hurts when you're in love
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I get that. I've been in a similar situation once. My best friend was into me and i wasn't into her. Kinda hard telling it off in a non rude manner, its a difficult one. I suggest you just take your time and dont expect anything from it, just see where you end up.
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how much time u suggestin
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cant put a time on it, i feel like you're very impatient with it, which is the worst thing u could do.
If you are in love with her the best thing to do is to not be friends either you will just end up hurting yourself even more lad. Try and find someone who is just as interested in you as you are to them.
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i mean its my first ever approached girl haha
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i mean maybe some girl in school but i not a fan of approaxhing random girls on the street
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in my experience I have been very shy around girls and not very talkative, but when I joined a new school in 2016 I knew nobody and nobody knew me so I faked being confident by talking to everyone I had a chance to and it kinda worked lol. I know its shit advice but just trying to talk to people is the best you can do, the worst they will do is say they are not interested
so if there are girls that already know you and your personality it might be hard to start conversing with them, but random people know nothing about you so they have no expectations
if she's the first then that's the worst case scenario. i mean give it a bit of time (a couple of months) and if you see it's not working out you can go on separate roads. glhf
It hurts even more when someone who is pretending to be in love with you doesn't respect your decisions.
+1 actual good advice on hltv wp
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thats a rarity isnt it?
+1 reasonable advice on HLTV
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business is a business
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tldr version?
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no way you sctually found my story interesting
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if u actually sad then thx. it was my first ever approached girl and "date"
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Those type of girls are mostly ungrateful you do good things for them for years and then one wrong suddenly everything is wrong .
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r/niceguys
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+1 stop categorizing people you don't know into "types of girls", it sounds like she made it clear she just wanted to be friends, and isn't trying to leach off op
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jaded beyond your years cuteboy
If she doesnt start atleast 40% of conversations on average then just accept she's not interested, and even if she were, you shouldn't settle for someone who doesnt even put in effort you know.
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lol
he's not wrong though
Sure but I'd say anything down to about 40% is acceptable. Otherwise its a time and effort waste for the guy. But depends on how long she goes on with no effort though, he said its been 2 weeks. But in the long run if she does not engange much in convo then why waste the time.
but ppl w depressions rarely put effort
she doesnt like u
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how u so sure
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just leave her alone and forget about it please, find something else to do
u'll thank me later
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pls need further explaniation why exactly to sctually consider it
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#10, accept the fact
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i guess you're right
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she likes u because of what u do to urself other than to her
dw there's other girls out there, you cant really do much if the feeling ain't mutual.
Why are you asking us? Go figure it out yourself
idk from what you wrote she made everything so clear
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but idk if its the depression or me
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Doesn't really matters does it ?
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i mean she's in therapy snd if she feels better in the ftutre and likes me
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Ok you didn't say that
you can wait and then make move ig
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but how long should i wait
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What you meant in ''she is in therapy'' is she seeing a doctor or ?
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shes seeing a therapist twice a week
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Yeah I guess wait till her therapy is over
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But stay close to her yk
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i havent chatted her for 2 days, she hasnt writtrn anything to me either. this time wait for her to be first?
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Nah ask about how is her therapy going is she feeling better blah blah
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im making stuff up hope this helps lmfao
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wait so u joking? i mesn u said u make stuff jup
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Nah I'm not joking
i've just never talked to a woman in my life and im giving advices like an expert lol
but everything i said was serious and i truly believe this is what you should do
gl
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xd
If somebody is going to the therapist i doubt dating that person would be good for you or the other person
holy shit 16 comment in 2 minutes
hltv users are like piranha's about girl topics lmfao
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asking the important questions
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This man here is a legend xD
your rizz is shit you need to manipulate her beacuse she is depressed but you are not able to do it unlucky
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ye i believe her. she didnt day that to me exclusively. give her some time or insta drop her?
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actually the best advice
Why would she go on a date with you if she does not want to be gf?
Maybe it wasn't a date to her but to you only?
Also, if she said no, it's a no mens)
Go find a different fish in the ocean.
If you're really that desperate, then talk to her as a friend, don't act desperate and mssg her everyday.
Soon hopefully she starts liking you
Good luck mens
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idk how to call it, it was a friendship "date" i huess
daily girl hltv thread
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Hi baby
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hi fallenzera
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I am not that user do you want me to report you?
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u want me to say bye to u?
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Wish me luck
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i am not girl and baby lol u drunk and baiter
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Watching movies on discord is the most zoomer thing I have ever witnessed in my life (after tiktok ofc)
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once heard she would wanna do that w a boyfriend once or twice so i remembered and suggested it
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In my teen age during the second part of 00-s we called each other with my bf before pressing the Play button simultaneously. Was fun and romantic
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Nah she had proof
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why tho?
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"I later tell her after second "date" that I'm open for more than friendship she said she can't cuz of depressions" nt if she doesnt have someone in mind or she still with her ex she wouldnt say that instead would go for it
sadly u get cucked or brozone or friendship rip she still want someone else
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i mean she goes to therapy.
Are you sure she doesnt want me cuz of depression but bcuz of who i am?
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#94 just found ur clue and hint why she says no rip
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yeh but she would atlesst say that im her type or sth no?
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well if she didnt say it basically she has someone else and u just one of her options so yeah move on i guess
Who cares? Respect her ffs
he said she is seeing a doctor
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yeah thats why she says no
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are u sure its not me being ugly
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well if u say so then i guess she makes the right decision
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cuz i never received a single compliment kn my life
she probably doesn't like you or doesn't know how to express that she does, since the former is possible (and probable imo) you should avoid trying to start any romantic relationship with her. if you end up friends who talk frequently you can figure out the rest on your own if you still want to by then. have to warn everyone i see going for this kind of girl though, as they're not stable and you're dating them at your own risk. you never know if she might just end up not having the same emotive capacity she did when you first started dating, you get your feelings hurt, and split off and end up sad.
you should probably just be there for her as a friend at first and help her get over her depression. she might appreciate it and maybe after you can grow into a couple, or maybe not.
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but i mean even with depression she would tell me that she likes me aswell, no?
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nah. depression is rough on you. maybe shes feeling down or that shes not good enough [for you] she just trying to wrap it in so she doesn't have to talk about her insecurities. maybe you should help her with that, if thats the problem. but dont ask her if shes insecure :-) find out what she likes or what shes good at and compliment her on something you know shes proud of. or take her out and do something related. im pretty sure you just needs to win her over.
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dm me
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went offline yestertoday. im glad to help if you need someone to evaluate with you. just dm me :-)
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pls give me ur insta my daily wuota is gone
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edit, i dm you
So what you suggest is deceiving her into thinking youre a friend when in fact you are romantically involved?
And no one of you realizes how wrong that sounds?
No wonder so many of you never talked to a woman when you cannot respect them.
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all i was trying to argue is she might need a friend. and girls tend to bond with people that are there for them (loyalty) you talking like you can just get girls as its nothing. maybe you need to be less selfish and no i didn't say decieve her, since she already knows hes into her so she will say if shes not into him or maybe shes hiding the truth and want him to find it and earn her. but sorry if cognitive comprehension is too much for your 14 yo womanizer ass to regognize without telling you.
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"you should probably just be there for her as a friend at first"
I understood you quite well. But thanks for all the explaining.
and btw, real women dont want to be respected in that way, they want someone THEY can respect. not someone who cant understand her already told her hes into her but yet you think hes decieving her. maybe you missed the part where he actually talked to the girl xdd
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I love that you actually said that real women don't want their opinion or decision respected.
I fear you actually believe that.
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you missed my point. just as you missed specifying it was their decisions and opinions we were talking about in your first post. but i guess you think you score points if you double down on your statements. now get out of my way kid
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Just keep telling yourself.
And it wasn't her decision obv. It was his. And he didn't respect her decision after the first time despite telling him pretty clearly as he described.
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okay bro. how about you go to cry to one of your ten girls now that i owned your arguments on the hltv
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You owned my arguments despite me not having given any but instead just rephrase what op and you said?
Thats quite impressive ngl. However, it may also be in the realm of possibilty that you're not having the slightest clue what you're talking about. I guess we'll never know.
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you will never know. the delusions runs deep in you. i can sense it
the best advice here is not to think about girls in school. it will ruin your life later.
random sex is okay. love and relationships at an early age are a big risk. like big.
Find another girl and don't worry about it. don't let her into your head.
its in womens nature to get inside a mans head and take control. its ok when u r not that young
Bro depression doesn't stop you from dating someone... she's either really fucked because of depression, or she's lying to you...
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she said shes rly fked from it
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Oh I didn't read the whole thing
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so what would u do
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I mean I've spoken to girls before who have asked if them having depression is a problem, and I just tell them no, not at all. I've been through depressive phases myself, and it won't stop me from liking/having a crush on someone
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so forget her?
i mean she smilef at me every day at school, i ssked her out and she said yes
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Idk man. Just keep talking to her, acting like normal. If her behaviour towards you changes then make a move
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idk if i should listen to you or #160
"acting"
Ffs
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+1 I too am hopeless
welcome to the friendzone, if you got friendzoned her message is clearly that she doesn't see you as a partner also ask yourself do you really wanna be someone with depression? (don't think with your dick try using some brain)
she clearly stated that she doesn't want to start a relationship with you, so you have 3 options:
1) waste your time trying to be a 'friend' waiting for the 'right' moment to start a relationship that can never happen
2) if you haven't sex yet (I assume you didn't coz she wants to be just a friend with you) then you can try for a bit getting her in the bed, if she denies you just carry on and find another girl, if you had sex with her just meet her for sex sometimes and enjoy the process, but keep looking for a relationship (if that's what you want) one day you will meet a girl that will love you
3) just stop writing to her if she wants to write she will (don't be annoying with you messages it's the worst thing), but she will do that mostly when she needs help or just bored and wants to chat basically use you when she wants - show less and less interest to her and find someone who cares about you - be happy
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she says she is aromantic and asexual bcuz of depression
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why is she fkn lying? i told hjer to be honest, if its me not being her type she said no its just the depressions
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she doesn't want to hurt you, it's easier to be 'friends' than saying to fuck off
Look at all good looking girls they all have lots of 'friends' all those guy who got friendzoned and hoping to be with her one day. Most of the girls always keeping several options (friends) so she can pick one when she wants to
her 'depression' can last for months/years I don't know if it's a real depression then she should go to the doctor, but usually it's just a mood swing, you can wait when it's finished and waste your time, but I can almost guarantee that she is just not interested in you
if she is really depressed you can chat ofc but it's better to just leave her alone
OK Mr doctor
Maybe you can settle for friends w benefits?
first off, pics or it never happened
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ah yes so u can image research anf tell her about the threat xd
Move on. If a girl isn't interested and is keeping you in the friends zone, she has all the power over you. Move on and keep your dignity, you will thank me in the long run.
Guys who pretend to be friends with girls who friend zoned them are pathetic, sad losers. The end.
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can u dm
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I have no time to discuss the issues, if you have 0 chance to sleep with her, move on. Nothing else to it. Be a man.
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why did she then say it rly isnt me but her deprsdion and agrred to meet me mutlitple times
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im 1.9m
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didnt read the whole thing but i suggest you start reading some Dan Bilzerian or Andrew Tate, these are intellectual giants in the dating game and from them you can get the confidence to actually approach a girl and not watch movies over discord while being afraid to meet them irl
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there sre thens of thousands of memes about andrew tate idk
i approachrd her irl and we met later. the dc things wss twice bru
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so what did she say when you approached her? the thing is you need to be confident
what did you do when you met? alpha moves are: you say hello, and then you grab her by her waist and tell her "don't be surprised if your neighbors know my name by tomorrow", she'll be like "what why?" and you respond: because you'll be screaming it tonight
a woman can not resist this
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ah yes ofc )))
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Look at his name what the fuck
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holy shit i didnt even notice it xaxaxaxaxa
how the hell do you watch movies on discord??
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that sounds retarded. goddamn zoomers
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normal girls dont know what discord is
you have "show screen" feautre
Most sensible decision is to move on, do not become overly invested and find someone else. You will only be disappointed and sexually frustrated when she treats you like a friend forever.
Why would she go on "dates" with you? Because she is feeling depressed. Her therapist is probably telling her that she needs to find friends, and she sees going on these "dates" as a method of making a friendship with you. She is putting in the effort while depressed because she wants friends to offset her depression, there is nothing deeper than that here.
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almost exactly same?
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Yeah, she told me that i look cute, i was her type, that she wanted to know me more and so on.
Then stopped talking, she later said that due to her mental things and depression we can't talk anymore and more bullshit, finally, she said we can talk from time to time and be friends
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everyone answers sth different
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I just think most of it makes little sense. If you're interested in her maybe you should get to understand her a little bit better than just two dates, maybe just go hang out sometime or smth idk. Ofc I can understand those saying "don't waste your time" but I think outright dropping someone because you haven't texted in 2 days is quite rude and not really realistic.
all of my friends suggest sth different
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dm pls
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i had same situation 3 years ago, glad we didn't continue
Millions of girls at your age in the world, but you're wasting your time and energy to save some depressed girl, are u ok? Find a better girl, if you need someone or better spend your time to improve yourself.
And yeah, something from my experience. I dated and married a depressed girl, so please stay away from depressed people. There's nothing worse than
a dating person who does not love and respect himself.
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I can't give you advice, but i'll share my story.
I couldn't break up for more than a year only because i felt sorry for a person and didn't want to hurt her. We were constantly delaying our divorce. I tried to help her, but at one point i realized that time was passing and it wasn't getting any better. So one day it became so unbearable that i couldn't stand it and left without talking, despite her tears.
I think in such cases it is difficult to break up without hurting your partner.
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depression is not about not loving and respecting yourself wtf
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based on my life experience in most cases it's about this or one of the reasons
Especially according to the guy's post, they are underage.
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okay maybe for underaged ppl but most adult have depression just cuz they don't like how our society is working
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I agree about adults depression, but here's definitely about teenagers. Anyway STAY AWAY FROM DEPRESSED PEOPLE, if it's not your loved ones
push harder or just move on
but strange place to ask
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i have nowhere else to ask
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how old are you?
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kinda the reason i'm not looking for a relationship any time soon(still living in a shithole, tho i will move to city in one year and i can't even get my own life straight at the moment), i just go to gym and work on myself not trying to find anybody, i do have a crush on a girl but me being an introvert and the things i said earlier makes me not do anything about it, maybe i will regret that in the future but i'm almost 100% that at my current state and life situation any relationship wouldn't work/ last too long, anyway bro keep it chill and don't take it too personally, just work on yourself and be there for this girl if she ever needs you
hey, men, she sounds like a chill girl, but I would just move on. The problem with what I'm seeing is that you are putting in a lot of effort (paying for the full meals, taking her out places) and she still doesn't see you more than a friend. Relationships should have an equal effort from both sides, I just think she is lonely so she wants someone to talk to (that's why she texts you more than 1 word).
I wouldn't force this relationship, she might even trauma dump on your in the future about her depression or bad things in the past. You are in Ukraine, TONS of good looking girls man.
you lose when u put her on a pedestal
always make yourself look cool man...]
i'd be depressed too if i was living next to putin
You gotta step up your dick game my mens, and make her choose you instead of another mens- average hltv user advice
I'd just let it go, if you want to keep being friends with her regardless then cool, but otherwise just let it go.
it's probably for the better for you too, as a depressive girl is not fun.
If she's not invested enough to text you first, then don't waste your time or thought on it. If she does text at some point, just be normal. don't be invested and chase her, let her fall for you instead if you still like her. and if she wants to be a friend as she claims, don't waste money on her, tell her its 50/50
I usually have sex on the first few dates and that's because i am very attractive.
Sorry to break it for you, but i think you aren't her type.
sex her)
just be there as a friend, don't overreach, just let her be but don't be absent, go for a drink sometimes, a meal, whatever, talk about whatever, maybe you get to know her better and maybe it works, or maybe you realize that you don't like her that much, or maybe you know someone else, who cares, the thing is, if she was honest enough to tell you about her issues, you need to respect that and give her time and space, if it doesn't work out, well that's life
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dm me
When you chase women, you lose money, when you chase money, women follow.
Stop asap, from personal experience.
She said that she isn't ready for relationship time to move on.
She is depressive , she plays Valorant , She is a ONE
If she isn't giving you anything to work with and you've been the one to start conversations and dates etc then don't waste your time mate. That sounds like the beginning of a toxic relationship and having no relationship is better than that, trust me. Relationships are a two way street, both people have to give effort and try to make it work... not just the male. Yet these days the males are expected to do everything. You'll become sad and upset because your efforts are not being matched and she's not thankful for your effort. Relationships can be hard work, it's like starting a fire for example with bad tools. Yet imagine putting in loads of hard work and money into something that gives you no results, that's what that woman is.
you can fix her
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It sounds like he tried, or implied that he wanted to help and she shut him down. That's all he needed to know, if he offers help and she wants to play mind games and force him to try harder than he shouldn't bother with that Godless woman.
if you clearly wanna date her being just friends is bad for both of you
just say i like you too much to be just friends so i cant be talking to you if you see me just as a friend
best thing to do is drop it it will hurt you and her to keep this up when both of you have different views on this
Tell her depression is a meme then she will be cured instantly. No need to thank me mens))
say yo bro I got depression too let's suffer together
she's your classmate dude.. that's not usually how things happen.. although i know people who have gotten together even though they are classmates... you did get some good advices in this thread though...
If she is not the girl of your life (and it doesn't seem so from your description) it is way easier to find a more interested and ready for a relationship girl than to fix one with which you already had a "bad" start.
Fact that you are always the one starting convo explains a lot about how unbalanced the relationship already is. Go away and find someone else, as you seem still young.
Sorry for being brutally honest, just hoping that I can save you some time
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+1 that seems accurate, she's probably forcing him to try harder and harder meanwhile there's some other dudes trying to as well. IF that's the case she's mentally fucked, so it's no loss to give up. Also if she is depressive and she rejects his help, or leads him on still but wont let it go further that has many red flags too.
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Omfg
+1 most rational comment tbh
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if you like her or care about her, tell her that you can give the time she needs for a relationship. And help her to get thru her problems with your support. With there for her.
Btw people here are mostly toxic and dumb, this is not quite the right place to ask a question like that.
Take care, brother.
So this girl said to you several times - because you couldn't somehow accept the first no - that she is not interested in something romantically and you feel the urge to keep pushing her?
Here's something for all of you: no means no.
She's already told you she wants your friendship only.
My experience is don't be clingy. Focus on yourself and self improvement. Go to the gym and do things you want to do. Take away attention from her and put it into other fun stuff. Take photos of things you do and post them on social media and if she's into you she'll get jealous of all the things she's missing out on with you and she will chase you. Women are hunters, don't chase them let them chase you
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why is the answer always hit the gym for swedes?
you think it's a game?
never date a depressed girl with mental problems, they are completely crazy
edit: and stay safe my guy
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blyad a shto delat, ija pisdez kak vljubilza
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skazhi ey chto chustvuesh i poluchi otkaz
ne muchai sebya ozhidaniyami, voprosami "chto yesli" i tak dalee, ee otkaz ub'et v tebe zhelanie videt' ee
crazy girls means crazy sex and is awesome mens
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idk why she weote that. i did nothing that looked likeninwanna be in a relationship w her on that date
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she daid it rly isnt me being not her type just her depression but idk
like a cuckold? everyone literally here tells me to stop trying
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idk im 2 sided. one voice is telling me drop her instantly other side tells me gibe her 3 months or sth. im not interested in other girls atm anyway so
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indont wanna manipulate xD
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i mesn she feels save near me without me manipulating
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well if she is depressed she might be some pdycho that ruins my life
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go for it mens
she is already sad and if you ditch her right now you are going to upset her more
give it some time and if nothing changes then you move on
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idk men i dont wanna be a cuck waiting for someone tbh i geel tradh, she barely shows interest
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alright then just move one mens
is ultimately up to you
Trust me, it's you
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how u so sure
From my experience with crazy/shy/depressive/passive girls - they are evil. Especially those, who feel you, who know how to play on the strings of your soul, stuff like that, you can write a cool manipulative quote yourself.
Play passive. Try to predict whether she's into you or she's just using you. Think for yourself, my man, there's not really much you can do right now.
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what kind of quote unsuggesting
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i mean she said she likes respectful guys
Stay by her side. Be a Great friend. If it was meant to be she'll be yours when she's ready. But if what she needs right now is a friend u need to be a genuine friend not always tryna get in her pants or w/e.
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but most ppl here tell me to drop her?
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Honestly it sounds cringe but just follow your heart man. If u genuinely like her, be there for her and hope things work out. If it doesn't work out atleast u made a friend.
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she doesnt show interest besides going out and replying fast
i mean i told her if she feels bad or anything she can cnt me but she nevr did
THIS ^
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but what if i always hope for more but it never happens and it destroys me?
also i told her a few times she can cntct me if she feels bad or sth but she nevrr did
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if you keep living, you will inevitably meet new people. i am not saying that you will stop liking her and forget her for good, especially in the beginning, but in time things will be fine.
Allow yourself to live and meet new girls, try not to stay in a bubble believing that she is unique in the world and that nobody will be as special as she is.
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i know she aint special or what evrr i just dont feel the urge to get to know new girls yk
I mean if you want her to avoid you, then you continue pressuring her. She's already told you she's not interested in anything deep, so the more you pressure her, the more she goes away.
Depression means she can't love herself right now. Anyone who can't love themselves can't love anybody else either. Maybe with time you might become something together, but right now is not the time.
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so stop texting her or?
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You can text her here and now, begin a friendly conversation and ask how are things going etc. Maybe like once every 2-8 weeks or so, so you actually have something to talk about and share too. I think every week would be too often, even every 2 weeks is pushing it.
Like, it's a wonderful feeling to have a crush on somebody, but it has to be mutual, otherwise it can easily feel like harassment on her part, you know? Try to focus on the positives of this feeling and enjoy it and try to avoid possible negative feelings, like rejection, unworthiness, disappointment. There's nothing wrong with you, you are growing up and still learning how to not only love yourself, but how best to share these intense feelings inside of you. Your time will come.
I've dated a girl that had these kinds of problems too (actually worse since she was also a victim of torture, kidnapping, sexual assault and rape). First, try to really know what you actually feel for her, because it is not an easy road to be in. Then, if you really like her, you need to be there for her and let her know that you'll be there for her when she needs you. If she's crying, you'll be there to wipe off her tears and hug her until she's ok. If she's angry for seemingly no reason, you'll not argue with her for pride. From what you've told, it looks like she likes you as a person, so she doesn't want you receiving the bad feelings she keeps for herself. So think if she is really special for you to have anything more than a friendship with her, ask God for advice 'cause He will advise infinitely better than anyone could, and be decisive, because she's special in a way that she'll need to be comforted and nurtured more than most people. May God guide you through this journey and be with you both, my friend.
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I think she's not that close , hasn't messaged him for 2 weeks despite telling to contact if needed.He has to push from his side
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nah she hasnt mwssaged for 3 days now. its just i was always the guy to start convo, always - in 3 weeks time
Stop talking to her. Do you not see that already now she is making your life difficult?
Also, don't become her girlfriend aka "friend".
youtube.com/shorts/RLRuI2Poco0?feature=s..
Saw this the other day and it seems blunt and stupid at first but it's literally as simple in life as this. If the other person isn't like this, gtfo as fast as possible.
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advice accepted
let her go. then make her realize you were the best option and let her chase you. im literally a expert on this trust me.
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how do i make her know and if she chases me, bug or accept her
There are so many things you could do,
If you're so desperate or she's the one, then push it and cure this depression.For 17yo depression is usually mind developing different things,feelings which they don't know , so it would be done within months(from personal experience)
Or wait till she pushes to you, sit back do you work don't waste any time thinking about her ,if you think she's not the one.
Also be careful don't turn this into bad experience/trauma for you.If you're too confused sometimes doing nothing is better.
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dm me
My guess is you should move on, but you could still be supportive with her, good friends with here if you are up to it.
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yo ist it you my crush? she also lana del r fan
update, decision made:
She doesnt show any interest. Twice in a chat told her to msg me again if she wants to meet after her vacation, left on read. let's see if she will reply after her holiday but i doubt it. Mentally i already gave up and i won't text her again, indoubt that inwould show up on a 3rd meet
bump
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but she litearlly has depression and was broken by her ex.. idk u sure it sme?
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idk man it makes me sad haha
If you are sure she is actually depressed, make a distance and don't indulge further. However if you think she is not depressed and worth it , chase her but indirectly. If she still says the same just know that you fumbled at the start and should never had confessed early on and move on.
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She was as direct as possible.
She wants friendship only out of you. Why you spend so much time and energy to a girl who already told you numerous times she doesnt see you as potential boyfriend is beyond me.
You gonna get hurt soon or later if you continue chasing this girl even if you end up being her boyfriend it WONT be for long. When a girl finds you attractive and really see you as a potential boyfriend material does everything in her power to meet you and spend time with you like you do right now for her. It doesnt matter at all if she has depression yada yada.
When a girl really likes you everything is as easy as it gets. Never chase
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tbh i only still have hope cuz she said that depression is the issue and she doesnt want ANY relationship w anyone
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That depression shit is the biggest excuse she could come up with to polite you say she doesnt see you as bf material.
People with depression generally craving a BF/GF to shake up their lolilness. Majority of people with depression are lonely and thats the biggest issue they have not the other way around. If this girl really liked you and wanted you as a BF would be all over you already, way more than if she wouldnt be in depression. So stop it before you get hurt emotionally.
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idk she seemed interested till then
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Most likely you see what you want to see and not what the truth is. The truth is she assured you more than once she dont want anything with you other than being friends. You should stick to that than what you think. If a girl really likes you no depression can stop them for being with you. Not one in a miliion
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yeh idk she always replies me fast, always says yes to go out, goes for long walks w me and looked at me often in class, idk
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ok i guess i'll give up haha
she said she doesnt want to get into a relationship
why do you want to force her into one? just stop
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idk i have hopes for the future tbh
sex her
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im 17
Lets summarize what you think :
--- Shes seems interested
/// But she told you not interested again and again
--- She is in depression, that is why cant be with me
/// People in depression craving for a bf/gf. IF you were the one she would be all over you already
--- She never start conversation first, she is shy
/// She wasnt shy to go out with you and talk, theres nothing more to be shy for to say "hi"
I can continue but you get the idea ? You translate everything as you see fit not as they are
girls? WAKE UP TO REALITY IMPORTANT, come on lmao smoke ct and RUSH A with ak.
It's a joke, don't worry, I wouldn't think of anything in that situation, maybe you should send the first message
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