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am i the asshole
juissi | 
Belgium saalokin420 
I'm a 45yro single father of three. Theur mom died 10 years ago. I have 3 sons, 17yro Andrew, 15yro Connor and 14yro Max. Connor was born female, he is trans. He came out as trans 5 years ago, and has now socially transitioned, not yet phisically. My sister (38F) just got married. Me and my sons were also invited. My family has known that Connor is trans for 2 years now, some have adjusted well, some not so much. My sister is pretty indifferent about it. Her wedding was really super well organised to the last detail. She wanted all the men to wear shirt+tie and then women sundresses. I textednher a picture of our outfits the day before the wedding, and she said "where's Nia's dress?". I was a bit surprised and told her not to deadname my son and that he'll be wearing a shirt and tie like the rest of men there or we aren't coming. She said "fine" and that was it. At the reception, my sister got mad that Connor was wearing a tie, but didn't say much after that. When we sat down at our table, the card "Nia". I went to my sister and she said she used "their real name". I told her me and the boys are leaving and she told me "don't you dare cause a scene at MY WEDDING, Nia can be a guy any other day". I called her a bigot and we left. My family says I ruined her wedding.
2022-08-10 02:21
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Didn't read + yes
2022-08-10 02:22
1 reply
+1111
2022-08-10 14:27
No, you are not the asshole!
2022-08-10 02:23
Go to reddit =)
2022-08-10 02:23
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#27
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Morocco Pluterro
#25 already on reddit he's just copying
2022-08-10 02:54
#7
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Guatemala ChurchGuy
Whoever wrote that thread originally, no, they aren't the asshole 99% of the time when there are these wedding stories on that subreddit, the bride is always a stuck up bitch who is trying to control everything because it's "HER" wedding.
2022-08-10 02:24
14 replies
#37
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United Kingdom mystix_08
but it is "her" wedding?
2022-08-10 03:22
9 replies
#44
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United States TulinSisaa
No, it's not
2022-08-10 05:30
8 replies
Yes It is
2022-08-10 14:30
7 replies
we can speak about it when you'll turn 18 at least
2022-08-10 17:19
6 replies
cuz you got nothing to say right now ?
2022-08-10 18:06
5 replies
you heard me. when we were talking about something similar before you already showed that you are not ready yet for such a discussions. saying it in a most respectful way possible
2022-08-10 18:14
4 replies
What are you talking about
2022-08-10 18:16
3 replies
I don't remember in details, but probably it was in topic that contained discussions about boombla
2022-08-10 18:17
2 replies
lmao you were saying it was boombl4's fault now i remember you are right no point talking to you about such topics
2022-08-10 18:18
1 reply
I wasn't wrong. I just said the truth how it is. Sadly for him, but he was the only reason why all of what happened, happened because of his wrong decisions, and in simpler it's his fault. I already told you why it is how it is, but if you don't want to understand it now, you'll understand it later with a bitter experience when you will be accusing your girlfriend in something you didn't learn before starting relationship with her. You at least should've know that as a fan of Andrew Tate, he says a lot of good stuff (at least about relationship) on which I can't help, but agree, even although it's long ago pretty obvious for me. Still, regardless of your a bit cocky behaviour, wishing you good luck in your path
2022-08-10 18:31
its her special day though, its like moving to another country and not adapting to their culture
2022-08-10 07:00
1 reply
there are mutual conditions of respect in any interaction, and people are well within their right to leave if they feel like they aren't being respected. nobody has to show up after all, so it goes both ways to some degree. nobody wants to go the wedding of an asshole.
2022-08-10 07:21
Yup. You totally can decide the asshole from one pov.
2022-08-10 15:25
Doubt many redditors get invited to weddings or have their own
2022-08-10 18:35
Read + not the asshole but wtff, your 2nd child changed *whatever pronoun* when *whatever pronoun* were 10years old. Tf
2022-08-10 02:24
8 replies
You should look into child development and what age your sexual identity forms. Hint: it's a fuck lot earlier than 10
2022-08-10 18:13
7 replies
stop reading biased articles from "official government scientists" because it can be corrupt like everything on this planet lol
2022-08-10 18:29
6 replies
I appreciate your concern but I learned this in a childhood development class in one of the best education and psychology focused colleges in the US.
2022-08-11 15:18
5 replies
well i finished psychology a year ago and didn't have that, even tho psychology in serbia is considered one of the hardest in europe
2022-08-11 16:08
1 reply
What do you want me to say? Sorry you were lacking the resources to have learned this? Lol
2022-08-11 21:13
Feel sorry for you that you're being fed this stuff at such a young age. "If you want to implement an idea then feed it to kids"
2022-08-11 20:50
2 replies
How old do you think I am?
2022-08-11 21:13
1 reply
Sorry, i didn't read properly and thought by the word childhood that you were young. But unfortunately this thing is taught and shown to young kids for some reason because they are easily influenced by this
2022-08-11 21:54
im sorry but your child being trans at 10 is concerning
2022-08-10 02:25
8 replies
Belgian guy naming his kids Andrew, Connor and Max. You believe this? It's like, later, you will name your kids Saeyong, Aisha and Haraldur
2022-08-10 04:36
6 replies
#59
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Finland SunMutsi
Better than giving your kids the names Matti, Juha or Timo.
2022-08-10 07:05
3 replies
It's not about which name, I meant more like, those are not Belgian names. So the story is as fake as it gets.
2022-08-10 14:24
2 replies
#78
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Sweden hammarmunk
have you considered the possibility that the flag is fake, not the story?
2022-08-10 14:34
1 reply
Yes that's a possibility too but why would anyone use the flag of Belgium ffs :D
2022-08-10 20:58
You'd be surprised about kids nanes nowadays, sure it's not that normal if he's 40 something.
2022-08-10 14:52
1 reply
Yeah kinda but it's suspicious
2022-08-10 20:58
BIG +1
2022-08-10 14:30
imo just identify as an apache attack helicopter at that moment, and fly away
2022-08-10 02:25
3 replies
xdd, me and my children are done with you and your stupid wedding. Autobots roll out
2022-08-10 02:26
2 replies
Lmaooo
2022-08-10 05:56
+1 lmao
2022-08-10 14:50
#13
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Seychelles vikr
congratulations or sorry that happened to you
2022-08-10 02:26
2 replies
+1
2022-08-10 02:51
+1
2022-08-10 14:25
no you're not, your sister should apologize.
2022-08-10 02:30
Maybe 🙂 maybe not 🙂
2022-08-10 02:30
Only problem I see is that you could have asked her the second time whether she really wants you and your son to the wedding. Could have saved more trouble later. But no, I don't think you were an asshole. Depends slightly on your and your sisters relationship beforehand. Dunno what kind of trans your son is, but one shouldn't do any physical changes before turning adult. Its good that you haven't done that.
2022-08-10 02:32
this aint reddit
2022-08-10 02:31
1 reply
I don’t think any of this makes you an asshole, but I will say, 1) a child transitioning at 13 is somewhat concerning, that is VERY young to be able to make such a life changing decision, and 2) while it is very important for friends and family to be understanding and compassionate about trans individuals, it will take perhaps an entire generation for it to be normalized, and in turn, perhaps not being so hard on those that don’t fully understand is better practice. I have a sister who was bullied all throughout middle school about being lesbian, or a “dude”, who voiced her opinions about potentially being bisexual or wanting to go by a male name at 13 years old as well. I spoke at length with her about making sure everything she was considering was bc it was something she wanted to do, not something her bullies or society at large had pushed her into. Our father struggles a lot with discussing those things with her bc it doesn’t bother him at all, but he wants to express legitimate concerns without being overbearing or presumptive. It’s an issue not many people older than my generation (I’m 24) understand yet.
2022-08-10 02:33
1 reply
Woops i replied you by mistake
2022-08-10 14:43
NOT THE ASSHOLE
2022-08-10 02:36
time to cancel your sister on twitter
2022-08-10 02:37
In this case you're the idiot and terrible parent, she wasn't allll right but she made a lot more sense than you
2022-08-10 02:42
#22
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India slavloli
only you know better strangers can't help you
2022-08-10 02:44
idk i dont like trans tho
2022-08-10 02:45
2 replies
#32
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Australia flashi
👀👀 femboys tho
2022-08-10 03:11
1 reply
reported
2022-08-10 04:24
#25
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Morocco Pluterro
bro laterally I read that on reddit why are coping others stories and pretending like this is you life ???
2022-08-10 02:53
ask in reddit, does this look like reddit?
2022-08-10 02:53
1 reply
+1 cant believe no matches made threads like this appear
2022-08-10 06:55
if you are not a bot, the you do have an asshole yes
2022-08-10 02:55
1 reply
No shit
2022-08-10 03:14
Your son is the priority, and it should be, especially since you're a single father. You did nothing wrong. Proud of you!!
2022-08-10 03:08
Reddit strikes again
2022-08-10 03:11
nia to connor bruh that a big nia from me
2022-08-10 03:13
#35
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United States notawaffle
you are not the asshole, they are for not accepting Connor for who he is
2022-08-10 03:20
6 replies
#46
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New Zealand Melting
+1
2022-08-10 05:58
#70
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Europe Vallon5(1)
-1
2022-08-10 14:28
he?
2022-08-10 14:30
YWNBAW You will never be a real woman. You have no womb, you have no ovaries, you have no eggs. You are a homosexual man twisted by drugs and surgery into a crude mockery of nature’s perfection. All the “validation” you get is two-faced and half-hearted. Behind your back people mock you. Your parents are disgusted and ashamed of you, your “friends” laugh at your ghoulish appearance behind closed doors. Men are utterly repulsed by you. Thousands of years of evolution have allowed men to sniff out frauds with incredible efficiency. Even trannies who “pass” look uncanny and unnatural to a man. Your bone structure is a dead giveaway. And even if you manage to get a drunk guy home with you, he’ll turn tail and bolt the second he gets a whiff of your diseased, infected axe wound. You will never be happy. You wrench out a fake smile every single morning and tell yourself it’s going to be ok, but deep inside you feel the depression creeping up like a weed, ready to crush you under the unbearable weight. Eventually it’ll be too much to bear - you’ll buy a rope, tie a noose, put it around your neck, and plunge into the cold abyss. Your parents will find you, heartbroken but relieved that they no longer have to live with the unbearable shame and disappointment. They’ll bury you with a headstone marked with your birth name, and every passerby for the rest of eternity will know a man is buried there. Your body will decay and go back to the dust, and all that will remain of your legacy is a skeleton that is unmistakably male. This is your fate. This is what you chose. There is no turning back.
2022-08-10 14:45
1 reply
+1 lol
2022-08-10 18:30
#112
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Israel McBeany
>he LMAO , if “Connor” were to identify as a fridge on regular days and as a mini fridge on weekends would they still be in the wrong for misgendering him?
2022-08-10 15:04
#36
oBo | 
Lebanon kvth
just dont take life so serious
2022-08-10 03:22
why am I always led astray
2022-08-10 03:29
Ok, hltv is turning into reddit now?
2022-08-10 04:31
Time to get her back on twitter.
2022-08-10 04:40
Get your child mental help. He needs it edit: daughter
2022-08-10 05:25
3 replies
flag + flair atleast try a little bit
2022-08-10 08:06
2 replies
I mean... he is right
2022-08-10 14:31
he is absolutely right?
2022-08-10 18:31
#47
swag | 
Cyprus Porgos
How can a kid know if they are trans, it should be illegal for anyone to take a decision like that before their adulthood
2022-08-10 06:02
Good decision mate. If anyone is making scenes it's surely her
2022-08-10 06:37
stopped reading at "Andrew"
2022-08-10 06:39
yes whoever made the post absolutely are, its like confessing someone love on someone elses wedding, absolute douche behaviour
2022-08-10 06:56
is that from reddit or something? kind of funny tho lol
2022-08-10 06:56
5 replies
it is actually, just saw it and people actually supported it, a 10 year old turning into trans and reddit just doesnt care apparently.
2022-08-10 06:58
4 replies
soon they will want to say babies are born genderless. We live in a Godless society.
2022-08-10 07:01
3 replies
"god is dead and we have killed him"
2022-08-10 07:03
you say this like its a bad thing
2022-08-10 07:04
Cuz God doesn't exist. That is the conclusion Kant gave us so we can evolve. To übermenschen as Nietzsche told us.
2022-08-10 14:40
copypasta thats going nowhere good
2022-08-10 07:06
Im a transgender.
2022-08-10 07:07
#62
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Finland KieZuZ
Very emotional times. Yes I would say you are an asshole. Did anyone ask your sons opinion?
2022-08-10 07:13
5 replies
#81
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Brazil ShalkanG
I keep telling my wife that, she wants to let the kids have their own way. I get mad at this shit
2022-08-10 14:36
4 replies
#84
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Finland KieZuZ
Do you want to make your own decisions or do your parents decide how you should dress for example? Kids especially the more older they are need to be able to make own decisions and build their own character. Rules are rules and they need boundaries but you can not just decide someones identity and personality.
2022-08-10 14:39
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#93
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Brazil ShalkanG
MY SON IS 2 AND A HALF YEARS OLD
2022-08-10 14:48
#94
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Brazil ShalkanG
she lets the boy sleep 11 hours at night, lets him choose what to eat and whether or not to shower before bed. That doesn't happen when I'm
2022-08-10 14:49
#98
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Brazil ShalkanG
schools with their leftist agendas teaching a bunch of crap to kids. My son only decide everything about your own life when stop being supported by me
2022-08-10 14:53
I feel like the story is a complete fabrication, but a worthy fabrication, to illustrate the winding paths that people are going to have to go down if they choose to accept these kinds of things. Although as a generality I don't think kids should be punished and made to go to weddings. I say this selfishly as a kid, but I still believe as an adult. Taking kids to weddings is cruel, for the kids and for the adults. Ladies can become justifiably psychotic about the management of the ceremonial proceedings, and the last thing kids are good for is taking anything seriously, EVER, especially something as mundane as life-milestone ceremonies.
2022-08-10 07:21
Try to look at this from your sisters pov, you are both assholes. The right solution would have been to resolve this before the wedding day, regardless of the outcome. Some people need more time to adjust to the changes of world
2022-08-10 07:32
#71
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Europe Vallon5(1)
This is the most murican thread/pasta I've ever read...
2022-08-10 14:28
2 long to read but there are 2 genders
2022-08-10 14:30
3 replies
But it is your choice
2022-08-10 14:37
2 replies
It is but it doesn't create another gender by playing dress up. I can't become a dog by transplanting fur onto my skin.
2022-08-10 14:40
1 reply
There is an Japan guy who lives as a dog
2022-08-10 14:42
#79
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Brazil ShalkanG
You ruined her wedding, it would be better if you didn't even go
2022-08-10 14:34
This isn't reddit. I know you copy it from there
2022-08-10 14:36
#87
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Belgium rpRj
Some real english names you got there Mr Belgian Flag..
2022-08-10 14:41
3 replies
Can be fake names tho, kinda personal topic
2022-08-10 14:54
2 replies
#103
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Belgium rpRj
Still dont believe a word, like what the fuck is a grown ass 45y old telling this on a gamingsite filled with teenagers
2022-08-10 14:57
1 reply
Yeah agreed really weird indeed, but hltv is really old site. Here are a lot of adults
2022-08-10 15:01
#92
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Germany _car
No you're just based
2022-08-10 14:47
you did the good thing they need respect your kiddos
2022-08-10 14:50
Wtf is wrong with people not letting others do what they love and want to. She/him whatever isn't happy being a woman. Honestly, yes I personally find it weird, but it's not other people's life.
2022-08-10 14:56
Not the asshole at all. GJ defending your children.
2022-08-10 14:53
no way this happend ^^
2022-08-10 14:56
1 reply
it might have happened tbh, but its stolen from reddit: reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vlel..
2022-08-10 14:59
#107
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Israel McBeany
I read that Reddit post before , the dad is an absolute retard that should not be raising children
2022-08-10 15:01
copy paste from reddit
2022-08-10 15:02
And this shit got 47k upvotes on reddit?
2022-08-10 15:04
you're not the asshole, I would've done the same as you in your place
2022-08-10 15:04
Daughter could've just cut this crap for a single day to play boy afterwards again.
2022-08-10 15:04
you? Yes, the OP? No
2022-08-10 15:06
BAIT
2022-08-10 15:08
#116
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Brazil ShalkanG
The main point of this story is that it was a marriage, if it was done in church, it makes your part even worse. Your children and you could have gifted her this courtesy.
2022-08-10 15:09
Yes
2022-08-10 15:15
no /closed
2022-08-10 17:23
#123
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Other KittyVN
I had to read it twice cause I thought it was the other way around and you were the one not accepting the transition, but then I read it again and nah you good she was in the wrong so fuck her
2022-08-10 18:10
yes you are, you ruined your poor sister's wedding that just wanted to have a normal wedding with normal persons in it. you and your DOUGHTER ruined it
2022-08-10 18:21
from Belgium, his kids names are Connor, Max and Andrew, It makes perfect sense. Don't copy paste stories pretending It's you, It's kinda pathethic.
2022-08-10 18:33
Of course the story isn't real, but the sister would be the asshole.
2022-08-10 21:02
bro i stopped at trans female or whatever
2022-08-10 21:04
U are not the asshole ur sister is
2022-08-10 21:06
#143
nitr0 | 
Brazil 1930
Your sister is a complete douche
2022-08-10 21:08
thanks guys ive made up my mind /closed
2022-08-11 15:27
#147
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Latvia Sibul
tldr, you use hltv so you probably are
2022-08-11 16:09
yes her life her rules
2022-08-11 16:20
Yes
2022-08-11 20:51
Sorry to hear my dude :(
2022-08-11 20:53
404 when
2022-08-11 21:01
Don't feed, idiots
2022-08-11 21:03
like in any other situation...its takes 2 hands to clap. Your sister herself made an issue of it by being stubborn about something that she doesnt have the first right to be. Then 2nd is that you probably picked up a fight at a wrong time. Either you should have gone silently or should have just said 'OK' and moved on. Still dont think you were an asshole. There was a legit clash of values. But anyone of you two siblings could have saved the situation.
2022-08-11 21:07
if what i read is real, you did the right thing parents should stand up for their children more
2022-08-11 21:14
you are the asshole for not telling your child the truth that they are a woman no matter how they feel about it
2022-08-11 22:00
#160
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Serbia hitomi79
Dude, here's a simple question regarding your accusative family - were they always there for you and the kids during those 10 hard years of your single - parenting ? If not, put those hypocrites where they belong, on a healthy distance until all the heads cool off. You made the right decision, by leaving the wedding you avoided profounding the conflict and you put the emotions of your child before "dress code" fascism. Nothing is ruined, there were plenty suck-ups sugar-glazing that she is the most beautiful bride and that the wedding is the event of the year, hell, a decade maybe and that everything is dandy-trendy, peaches and cream. Last month, my wife was away for 2 days, 2 measly days and I barely handled my 2 boys. You are managing it for 10 years, that's a heroism my man!
2022-08-11 22:31
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