Believe it or not, your story is a lot more common than you think.
Sadly, this is the story for most U.S families, its the culture of your country, the truth is that your uncles never really wanted kids, they just had them because they thought that that was the thing that they are supposed to do, essentially, a status boost, parents of families in general, they dont genuinely love their kids in the U.S , they dont genuinely feel a sacred/unreasonable/irrational passion towards them, nor the kids towards their parents, everyone is just trying to "move on" to further consume and signal status, they would probably be more proud of having raised you if you were studying law or medicine, but only because they could tell their circles about it, not really because its what you wanted or something.
And i know it sounds shitty and cynical, but there is a good side to all of this, since you actually have noticed this and you genuinely care, what you must do next is make sure you pick the right person to have kids with and make sure enjoy them right, not viewing them as a mission you have to quantify until they turn 18, but a miracle that you get to live with for the rest of your life, the woman you have kids with must be of the same mentality though.
2023-06-05 23:30